I like being married. My take on it is there is no bigger compliment you can give to the person you are in love with. It's like standing up in front of the whole world and saying you are the one for me, forever. Feels pretty good to be on the receiving end of that.
Yeah, that's fine. It's just not something I feel like I need. To me it seems like really expensive self-gratification.
So you don't think it's beneficial to live with someone before you decide whether you want to spend the rest of your life with them?
I think it can be. There is no absolutes. No one can say how things will be 20 plus years down the road so if you have any doubts about it and you think living together can answer those questions go for it.
Find someone who really likes you and you really like too. That's the key to happiness in marriage. After all you have to live with them. :-)
I think it can be. There is no absolutes. No one can say how things will be 20 plus years down the road so if you have any doubts about it and you think living together can answer those questions go for it.
Find someone who really likes you and you really like too. That's the key to happiness in marriage. After all you have to live with them. :-)
Agreed. I just know from experience that people I like/love aren't always the same as people I can live with.
I like being married. My take on it is there is no bigger compliment you can give to the person you are in love with. It's like standing up in front of the whole world and saying you are the one for me, forever. Feels pretty good to be on the receiving end of that.
OK I agree with this, or at least I don't disagree with it.
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Beyond that the legal part is a formality. It could be costly but the process actually considers all parties. Many do not agree with the outcome but a married couple earning while they are together both deserve to a share of those earnings.
Here is where you lose me. I'm not married and far from an expert but isn't the legal part kind of a big deal? Certainly more than a formality. I'm a economic thinker and most of my rational decisions are based around money, cost, and the value of my time. The idea that someone, other than myself, could have an equal share of the wealth that I've created for myself is highly unappealing. I know that sounds selfish, and well , it probably is but it's a reality none the less. If I do ever get married one thing is for sure, a prenuptial agreement is in order.
OK I agree with this, or at least I don't disagree with it.
Here is where you lose me. I'm not married and far from an expert but isn't the legal part kind of a big deal? Certainly more than a formality. I'm a economic thinker and most of my rational decisions are based around money, cost, and the value of my time. The idea that someone, other than myself, could have an equal share of the wealth that I've created for myself is highly unappealing. I know that sounds selfish, and well , it probably is but it's a reality none the less. If I do ever get married one thing is for sure, a prenuptial agreement is in order.
From what I understand, prenups aren't even that rock solid in Canada. The law often supercedes them in in many circumstances.
OK I agree with this, or at least I don't disagree with it.
Here is where you lose me. I'm not married and far from an expert but isn't the legal part kind of a big deal? Certainly more than a formality. I'm a economic thinker and most of my rational decisions are based around money, cost, and the value of my time. The idea that someone, other than myself, could have an equal share of the wealth that I've created for myself is highly unappealing. I know that sounds selfish, and well , it probably is but it's a reality none the less. If I do ever get married one thing is for sure, a prenuptial agreement is in order.
Unless she's worth more than you and wants a prenup. In that case, you'll be saying, "Do you really think we need this, dear?"
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OK I agree with this, or at least I don't disagree with it.
Here is where you lose me. I'm not married and far from an expert but isn't the legal part kind of a big deal? Certainly more than a formality. I'm a economic thinker and most of my rational decisions are based around money, cost, and the value of my time. The idea that someone, other than myself, could have an equal share of the wealth that I've created for myself is highly unappealing. I know that sounds selfish, and well , it probably is but it's a reality none the less. If I do ever get married one thing is for sure, a prenuptial agreement is in order.
I'm no expert either but my understanding is that any property/assets you bring into the marriage remain yours if there is a divorce. Sounds simple but over time (20 years??) it gets hard to define what each party had going in. My divorce lawyer told me to get a pre nup, I ignored her advice so hopefully my new marriage lasts or I can dig up all the paper work to prove all that legal stuff.
I'm not to worried about money as long as are kids are taken care of. I never really thought about it that much to be honest.
It sounds like some on here really do. Rightfully so in some cases.
Unless she's worth more than you and wants a prenup. In that case, you'll be saying, "Do you really think we need this, dear?"
I suppose that's true. However I plan on doing well enough for myself, I wouldn't be comfortable if my wife was worth more than me, or at least substantially more.
Are you saying you can't understand what a persons like without living common law?
Yes, I'm saying that it is impossible to know what it's like to live with someone or what their living habits are unless you've actually lived with them.
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Yes, I'm saying that it is impossible to know what it's like to live with someone or what their living habits are unless you've actually lived with them.
