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Originally Posted by johnnyrocket03
Alright, I have been thinking about posting in this thread but I am awful at putting my stuff out there.
I am at a 5 but only because I am lucky enough to have an awesome friend and sister.
Wife of 18 years left me and moved out in May. Still going through the process of selling what I thought was going to be the last home I lived in until my kids (10 and 6) grew up.
Divorce is a very nasty, ugly thing and we disagree on most things so we have a mediator guiding things. Ex-Wife has decided she is going to live her 20's now instead of when she was actually in them and has turned into a total party animal.
I spend most of my weekday evenings alone and isolated in a house that reminds me of the future I no longer am going to have and its a daily struggle to go home. Sometimes I will just drive around aimlessly to avoid it.
Not looking for pity or sympathy, just hoping it feels better to get some of this out there.
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Johnny I think what you went through is pretty similar to me in that my wife was a goodie-goodie in her teens and 20's (it's what drew me to her) but once she hit mid-40's she had what I consider a midlife crisis where she felt she had to make up for not partying in her teen and early adult life. It was really hard to take watching the person I had been with for three decades do a complete 180 and start to marginalize my role in her life. After she asked for divorce I didn't sleep for about three months and was in the worst period of my life. Slowly things got better and better as the months went by and I've accepted my new path in life and realized that it's not the end of the world. I'm generally (today's political situation drags it down a bit) as happy today as I was pre-marriage problems. Just keep your chin up and live for the present rather than looking back at the past and what you think you lost as you have gained a new beginning with so many new possibilities. I don't consider myself the strongest person mentally because of my lifelong anxiety issues so if I can put my life back together, I think it's something that a lot of people can do.