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Originally Posted by Maserati
honestly the person who is doing the cutting should think about those who are close to him/her cause it is really upsetting to someone who cares.I know this from personal experience.Cause I feel helpless as I try to help that person and yet she keeps on doing it over and over make you feel helpless and wonder what can be done.
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If you really want to help, you have to get them to the appropriate professional who can help them deal with their problems. We are just lay people, and we can care and support, but in the long run, we can't help much beyond that. And unless your friend will go to a professional, the problem won't be addressed. Tis sad, but that is how it is.
And I don't really think it is fair to say, if they only knew how much we cared, they would not do this anymore. Their mind is not at that state, it is somewhere else. Same thing with those who commit suicide. Don't you think most of them leave loved ones behind who are grieving?
They have some kind of inner pain and turmoil. There might be a chemical imbalance, there might be some unknown trauma they are trying to deal with, there might be some stress they are not handling well, we do not really know. The brain is a funny thing and in terms of progress made for treating various disorders of the brain, we are just at the tip of the iceberg now. Much progress has been made for treatment of other maladies but the brain is a much more complex thing.
In the long run, the most loving and caring thing we can do for them is get them to a professional who can help them with their problems.