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Originally Posted by belsarius
I've lost track of how many replies I have never posted. Get all riled up about something, put in a good 10-20 minutes typing it out, re-reading it, realize I'm being an ass, and then just deleting it and letting it go.
The good part is usually there is someone less concerned that writes basically the same thing soon after.
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I do this. I chalk it up to the timing difference between knowing I can review my response before sending for online vs in person, I'd pause, think carefully of a response and then reply, potentially breaking the response up into multiple replies (ie: I can answer this, but the next part, let me confirm before responding). I think most people are aware of this as there's frequent comments like, "Why didn't you stop and think or double check before clicking send?"
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Originally Posted by iggy_oi
What if one has a very sarcastic dry sense of humour that they know rarely translates well over text and they use it anyways when posting because they know it hilariously will not go over well while also knowing that if a person frustrated by it ever met them in real life they would finally get the gag and likely find it very funny?
Are they the baddie?
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Isn't it mostly the intention?
There's the saying, "Don't automatically associate malice with something easily explainable by incompetence."
Some people say things they don't actually mean. It's like a sarcastic, metaphor/allegory riddled way of communication. Like razzing. I don't prefer conversing this way at all or have friends that converse this way, but it's not really evil... I think.
Like: "OMFG I love you, you dumb as bitch. I hope your life goes to hell and we can laugh about how #### you are over drinks next week."
They're not bad/evil for saying this assuming they don't have negative or ill intentions in the way they say it (they don't mean it in that way). But I'd associate it with some form of incompetence of social interaction or appropriate selection of verbiage (ie: read the room) than malice.
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Originally Posted by TorqueDog
I understand this too. Especially when early interactions with someone give me the impression that I'm talking to a weak opponent on a subject I'm engaged in, I can get a bit ... 'sharp' in my tone, to the point of alienation, which is something that I don't do in real life.
Just recognizing it, as Pepsi said, is a good start to toning it down and a positive indicator that you're not a complete arsehole... maybe a bit of one, but who isn't?
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They way I summarize it, is it feels easy to be condescending if the online response was made in real life.