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Originally Posted by PepsiFree
The easy solution is not going into conversations worried about winning or losing, that way you won’t feel like you’re conceding ground or risking a loss simply by answering questions or expanding on ideas. Basically, all that was ever asked is that you participate, but if it’s pointless to answer questions or expanding on your ideas, then it’s pointless to share them to begin with, so why bother?
Feeling that it’s not worth the effort is fine, even under the guise of setting your ego aside, but if you’re going to just redirect that effort into cosplaying as an amateur insult comic, then it becomes pretty easy for people to see through that posturing as ego takes over.
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The first part is pretty much exactly what I'm saying.
Conversations/disagreements evolve. What can possibly start productive, even if just in intent, can always devolve into something else. As I have stated, I believe this is the case. We started with something that could have been somewhat productive, though mutually hostile (and neither of us clearly object), and due to a difference of opinion, and as far as I'm concerned, a fundamental lack of understanding, became something i view as no longer worth the effort.
My unwillingness to continue rehashing the same talking points over and over with you in particular, is not due to a lack of conviction in my views, a lack of understanding of the subject matter in which we were debating, or fearing being preceived as taking a "w" or "l". Its because I've seen enough of the conversation to know any further expansion is likely to devolve as described as above and have no tangible purpose.