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Originally Posted by 81MC
I’ve never known anyone whose parents were separated and it wasn’t ####ty. I don’t know anyone who has children of their own and separated and it wasn’t ####ty. Anyone had experience with either situation that was actually good, if not just not terrible?
My daughter is 3, and is my life. I adore her, and I think I’m a very good father to her. Things just aren’t going to work out with her mother and I, which is whatever. But the thought of losing seeing my daughter every day, being there for breakfast and bath time and story time etc just kills me.
I see know way a split household isn’t anything but worse for her. If I knew some folks managed to raise happy kids and maintained strong relationships with them over the years that might help me out.
Cohabiting and the like pretty much off the table. Her mother and I pretty much done relationship wise, I don’t think there’s any long-term coming back to a real relationship. My hope is to maintain our facade well enough and long enough to get the logistics figured out, but pull the plug before mutual resentment makes any semblance of teamwork impossible.
Honestly though I’m at such a loss about the life of our daughter. It seems so unfair to her, and if it were purely up to me I could probably live with a total apathy to her mother but I don’t think that’s healthy for anyone.
Someone please tell me their relationship with their divorced dad was anything better than the guy you have to go see sometimes  |
Having gone through it. The hardest adjustment was not seeing my daughters everyday. Your relationship with them is up to you. I put a lot of effort in and I think my relationship is still solid. Maybe better than it was before.
Debated the staying together for the kids vs separating and common take from people that had been through it was it was better for the kids not to have to watch a dysfunctional relationship. They know when things aren’t going well. Tension in the house ect.
It’s definitely an adjustment for everyone. Not fun for the first year or so as you rebuild your lives. But like anything if you put the effort in it can be as good as you make of it. I know I’m definitely way happier and in a healthy relationship again. I’m certain it’s better for my girls to be in that environment over the previous one.