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Originally Posted by Slava
This is a little confusing to me. I'm not the kind of guy to comment to women (or anyone else for that matter) on their appearance or whatever. But if someone complimented me on my looks, even if it was unwanted, I don't see how I would be offended or hurt by that? (I mean, how can I help the fact that I'm really, really ridiculously good looking?)
But seriously, I think its a little naïve to suggest that people don't enjoy other peoples looks. I think that is something that has less to do with gender and part of our basic biology or something like that? Of course, this doesn't excuse assaults/rapes/being lewd or indecent and I don't mean to suggest that at all.
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The problem with harassment is that a lot of it comes down to the subjective interpretation of the victim. So, if a single person gets a compliment from another single person who they might also find attractive, that's fine. but if a non-attractive person compliments an attractive person then it's harassment.
THere are things that are objectively disgusting (cat calling, like how is this still a thing), but saying to a female "you look really nice today" needs to be treated with a bit of thought. What's the power dynamic? How close are you? etc...