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Originally Posted by nfotiu
I was going by my experience with my children but that was US/Canada. They were born in US, but Canada automatically grants Canadian citizenship at birth. I did paperwork to get them a certificate saying so, but they were citizens without that paperwork. It looks like that is not necessarily the case in Australia thougn, where they'd have to apply.
It does seem questionable that she would allow them to go to Australia for 6 months without her and without the plan of them coming back if I read that right. Why didn't he go to Australia and she stay with the kids? It makes me think that maybe he was the more involved and responsible parent and has just as much right (or more) to the kids as she does. Without knowing his side of the case, I'd hate to assume that her side is the right side to be on just because she is the mom and on the Canadian side.
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Perhaps you didn't read the GFM page, that's fine, I will reiterate for you.
She couldn't return to Australia as she had overstayed on a prior Visa when they previously lived there.
Additionally, they had accumulated debts during their time in Canada as he didn't work. She stayed back to pay those off, she was able to pay them off faster as she didn't have to pay for childcare.
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Originally Posted by HotHotHeat
This is not attending a funeral, though. It's agreeing to allow the father to move the children to the other side of the world (during the middle of a school year) with no (stated) plan to come back, simply that the mother would visit them 6 months later, and maybe, at that point, bring them back.
I don't question the validity of the post in terms of asking for assistance in travel costs, but the original reason they are down there seems very poorly planned from the start.
Hope the family can find a solution, for the kids sake.
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You're correct in that is was more than just a funeral. It was the suicide of his brother-in-law. His younger sisters' husband, who also had young children. The family was turned upside down. We all agreed that her and his parents would benefit from having him home.
The plan - as stated on the GFM page - was for her to either join them when she was legally able (in May). Or, if things had settled with his family for all of them to return to Canada.
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Originally Posted by Flabbibulin
In my opinion, the "unwilling or unable" part really should be clarified if you are hoping to get some public donations, because if it is unwilling, then who the hell are we, as complete outsiders, to contribute to a custody battle? If the father is simply unable financially to send the kids back to Canada, but is otherwise ok with them returning here, then yes I would be happy to contribute.
If the father is unwilling in sending the kids back to Canada (for whatever reason), then perhaps a better course of action would be raising funds for your daughter to at least go to Australia for an extended period of time so she can visit and be with her children while the case plays itself out through legal channels.
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I know this is a sticky point for people. I will restate - I purposely left it vague as I don't want any backlash against my son-in-law.
Despite the typical bitterness between couples; both my daughter and I
want the kids father in their lives.
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Originally Posted by OutOfTheCube
Hey, I'm just not buying the one-sided story from someone who is (basically) a complete stranger.
Wondering why the marriage flamed out in March too? Woman frustrated with her rocky relationship, alone for months without her family... doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that one out.
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Nice assumption about a complete stranger. /sarc
They are both equally responsible for the breakdown.
Either of them will admit that.