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Originally Posted by MrMastodonFarm
Good on you for not being clueless, boy. The phone service won't work but there are 84 options out there
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Well Ive failed to pick up on numerous signs on our 3rd date and still feel like a complete noob, but I can only do my best to take it as a learning experience and correct it for the next time I date. I most certainly will feel better and more educated when that times comes because of this experience.
There is not a bigger turn off than one who doesnt ask many questions about you. She did at the beginning, but as the date progressed she asked less and less. She would do the generic and basic "what about you" after I asked her a question and she would reply.
Get this, through the entire time we talked - not once did she take the initiative to ask a single question about my childhood or about my job or even my hobbies or even my family! The only times was when she was returning the favour after replying back to me after I asked her those exact same questions. I want that relationship with someone who has a burning desire inside them wanting to know all about me, throwing questions at me left and right, eager to learn who I am. Someone who gets excited just from talking to you. Ive been here many times and the connection that I reach with someone like that is just unbelievable! When I connect with someone like this on this kind of level, it takes our convo to a whole new level and it brings out the absolute best in me.
And even then once you get that information, there are many ways to learn about ones hobbies or childhood or job on a much more deeper interpersonal level. I hit her with those deeper questions like "so what was your favourite food as a kid"...or "tell me what it was it like growing up in PEI"...or "So when did you really discover your passion for homes and realize you wanted to be a _____ designer", etc. She didnt ask any deeper questions. How I didnt take this as a big sign is beyond me uhhh. Im far too optimistic on these dates and I need to come back down to earth. You cant have any relationship with any one who doesnt ask those deeper questions.