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Originally Posted by Since1984
Well good luck either way buddy! Stop looking and the best thing in your life will fall in to your lap  |
Thanks.
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Originally Posted by MrMastodonFarm
I can't believe you're 33. You've got a real late teens/early 20s view on dating.
You can still wish her a happy birthday.
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Well like I said, Ive been out of the dating scene for over 9 years so it doesnt feel like familiar territory to me anymore.
Wishing her a happy birthday would be a terrible idea.
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Originally Posted by HelloHockeyFans
You'll have a pretty good idea on your first "date" if you like the person or not and whether they like you or not. Anytime anyone gives you an explanation as to why it "might" not be what they are looking for, they really mean to say it's not what they're looking for.
Were you always available when you first started talking to her? In the future, don't be. This means, delayed responses, unable to make suggested dates due to prior commitments, etc. Some will say don't play games, but you don't want to make yourself the guaranteed option, because that's what you'll become - the option.
Obviously, this is just during the initial stages. Don't mess around once it's clear how the other person feels 'cause then you'll just push / drive them away.
When someone is truly into you, you'll know. If you have to sit and analyze think through things that happened / didn't happen, know that it's not going to happen.
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In the initial stages, I didnt make myself too available, but I didnt intentionally delay responses either cause Im not into games. I guess the principle of it just felt so wrong to me especially when its to a person you are interested in. She DEFINITELY did delayed responses many many times. As much as I dont want to do this, I might have to start doing it.
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Originally Posted by HelloHockeyFans
Maybe re-think this part. Give them the benefit of the doubt - they deserve it. Just be smart enough to see a spade for a spade and make the right decision when it's in front of your face instead of trying to convince yourself otherwise.
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I know what you mean, but easier said than done for me when Ive been out of the dating scene for so long. Im so used to being in a relationship that I havent had to date and read verbal signals and slow down to think twice about what the sender really means by it. I do believe this is something that I need to start doing ASAP.