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Originally Posted by MattyC
But if there's 100% trust, what's the reason for the request?
I will say again, no problem with the sharing if that's how both parties want it, but if one person specifically requests the other persons with no return offer or even a reason, yea that's not ok.
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What request? To see the other's phone? There hasn't really been a request, it was more just a conversation that came up funnily enough, due to the fact that I have the iPhone fingerprint unlock thing (which I love because work makes us change our passwords every month). So the wife wanted to use my phone to do something because hers was god knows where (she loses it often), and asked me for my password. I barely know my password because of the fingerprint unlock. Long story short we ended up talking about how we feel about using each others devices with the possibility of seeing emails, text, pics, etc....and neither of us cared. So that was that.
I agree with your second point, I could see if it came from a place of jealousy or mistrust (or was one-way only) it could be an issue.
EDIT: I would add that this is a pretty interesting and modern relationship phenomenon and as with most things in life, it is not black and white. There is no "right" answer, only opinions (some strong) and different things work for different people. I try to not express my own opinion too strongly on things like this, because someone somewhere has an equally logical and opposite perspective that makes just as much sense as mine.