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Originally Posted by squiggs96
When you join a group, society, team, etc. there should be a little bit of a feeling out period on how to act. You look around at your surroundings, and see how people act and how they talk with each other. You try and fit into the group. I'm not saying you need to become a clone, but I am saying you shouldn't go into a foreign environment acting like you own the place. Instead of swinging your ###### around to make sure everyone knows you are new and/or obnoxious, maybe try acting like a part of the society that has been created, in order to be accepted by it. You may not be who I thought you were, but you hold a lot of similar, unfavourable traits that he did. Going into threads and telling long time posters they are wrong, dumb, ninnies, etc., taking contrary opinions for the sake of being a contrarian, talking down to people, etc. is the exact opposite of what you should do.
In the month of June there have been 20 new posters. There's only one that people are questioning the motives, and isn't making many friends. You may not care if you make friends here, but I wouldn't want to go somewhere, just to annoy everyone who has been in the organization for a long time. I'd hope that in my first few days I wouldn't upset so many people that threads are created specifically for and about me, while others get so derailed because of the storm I created.
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Thanks for the input.
Just to bring awareness to this again, here are my first posts of this forum (ascending, meaning very first post is at the bottom):
The black highlighted part is where I began receiving the type of harassment complained about, receiving PM's, people going to other topics to call me "stormbad", and overall people just simply being disgustingly rude to someone simply for having a strong opinion they may not personally like. I also hardly call the first three posts whatsoever "swinging [insert body part] around".
I think it's pretty logical when someone sits there and receives this, especially after the post I mentioned, they will become combative. I think any person with not only strong opinions but a high self-esteem will not sit there taking abuse like there's some initiation rites of being belittled by older members to accept, or even so far as to be called troll and racist unjustifiably.
I can see from your perspective where the way I posted came off a certain way, it would be nice to see those members acknowledge how their behaviour toward new members would
not cause them to act in such a manner desired by members and mods alike. It's extremely clear to me their behaviour was way out of line, and furthermore, some of the posts I read in this topic too speaks toward the notion that there's some level of acceptance that new members be treated this way.