I was spanked a few times as a child, up until the age of 10 or so. I didn't see it as abuse then and don't now. I do think we have more information on stuff like that now though, and would never spank a child now. I wouldn't get too upset about it though if someone else did it to their child.
I agree with the comments here, that the line is crossed when it becomes excessive or more for the parent than the child. I think you see that more than people want to admit though. While there are some responsible parents, I think the are more who take it too far than we would like to admit, so I do think it's an important discussion to have. I know I've been in a situation where I've seen a parent taking it too far, and I know I should approach them, gently suggest maybe they can calm down a bit, but don't because people don't like to be told what they are doing is wrong and that goes ten times when it comes to their kids.
As far as why I wouldn't spank a child now goes simply to the fact that research shows other punishments are far more effective than spanking. As well, if spanking is used too much, even in a 'sensible' way, it can encourage aggressive behavior in the child. I've defintely had the urge to on a few occasions though, haha. (I've done the step dad thing with two of my serious girlfriends, one of which did use spankings.)
I also think the overall discussion about child abuse is important because I do think, like sexual abuse and rape, it tends to get under reported and obviously has far reaching consequences. These are people in their formative years. Abuse can trigger a cycle that could last through families for dozens even hundreds of years. And of course, abuse doesn't have to be physical. I do know a bit about these bad things both from my own life (not my parents) and women I've had relationships with. It really messes thing up for a long time.
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