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Originally Posted by To Be Quite Honest
A "deadbeat" is a man or woman who has agreed to have children and refused later to support them in any way they possibly can.
A "deadbeat" parent is also one who refuses the other parent proper child visitation.
Lets make sure the term "deadbeat" is used correctly here.
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By having sex, even with protection, you are agreeing to be a parent. That's how biology works, baring cases where one or more person is infertile or in the obvious cases of homosexual sex, of course.
So the term is being used correctly, and that is really the crux of where your argument breaks down. You have sex, you are responsible for dealing with the kid that comes out of it, even if you don't have full control over all choice made in the lifespan of the fetus/kid.
For example, if an absentee father wanted to send his kid to public school but the mother wanted to send him to a boarding school (assuming the court agreed with the mother), that wouldn't mean the father would not be responsible for the dealing with results of that action, such as if the kid developed a disorder due to abuse or sexual assault while away at school. The father's wishes were not adhered to, and as a result he might face thousands of dollars in counselling or medical treatments, in addition to the consequences in the home, but does that mean he shouldn't have to pay?
What is your justification for just picking a random time after the kid has been conceived and say, well now as a father don't want to have responsibility for this anymore, even though I made the choice to have sex in the first place.