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rubecube · 11-26-2009, 12:22 PM

Thought I'd start a discussion based around something I've been dealing with these last couple of days. I'll give a little backstory first.

My girlfriend and I have been together for just over two years. We've lived together for at least a year and a half. Her mom is agnostic, but her dad is Portuguese and a fairly staunch Catholic. I say fairly staunch because he doesn't really seem to push his veiws on people (i.e. no grace at dinner, etc.) but he does attend church and seems to hold Catholic beliefs.

I don't believe in marriage, and I have made it clear to my girlfriend that it's not a priority for me to ever get married. She's fine with that but apparently her dad isn't.

My girlfriend and I are moving at the end of the month. Due to some unfortunate legislation in the tenancy act, we have be out of our current place on the 30th, but can't move into the new place until the 1st. I also can't get the 30th off from work, so our plan was to move all of our stuff out on Saturday, clean the place, then sleep at her parents' place for three days.

Apparently this was fine according to her mom, but her dad has now said that we can only stay there if I sleep on the couch and my girlfriend sleeps in a different room. Now keep in mind, when we were living in Calgary, we visited them and were permitted to sleep in the same bed (apparently against her dad's wishes). According to her dad, it's against his religion for us to sleep in the same bed. Of course I'm hearing all of this second-hand, since he tends to give my girlfriend and her mom crap about this but doesn't have the stones to approach me.

I've basically told them to stuff it and booked a hotel room for me and my girlfriend to stay in. Am I right to be completely offended by this? We've been in a committed relationship for two years, I've treated her, her family, and especially him with utmost respect. I should also mention that we're both 23 and have full-time jobs.

Can some of the other parents on here tell me what their position on something like this would be? Am I out of line for being bent? Does he any kind of leg stand on, especially when he lets her younger brother (who lives in the basement) have girls sleep over?

11-26-2009, 12:22 PM	#1
rubecube Franchise Player Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Victoria Exp:	Living together before marriage Thought I'd start a discussion based around something I've been dealing with these last couple of days. I'll give a little backstory first. My girlfriend and I have been together for just over two years. We've lived together for at least a year and a half. Her mom is agnostic, but her dad is Portuguese and a fairly staunch Catholic. I say fairly staunch because he doesn't really seem to push his veiws on people (i.e. no grace at dinner, etc.) but he does attend church and seems to hold Catholic beliefs. I don't believe in marriage, and I have made it clear to my girlfriend that it's not a priority for me to ever get married. She's fine with that but apparently her dad isn't. My girlfriend and I are moving at the end of the month. Due to some unfortunate legislation in the tenancy act, we have be out of our current place on the 30th, but can't move into the new place until the 1st. I also can't get the 30th off from work, so our plan was to move all of our stuff out on Saturday, clean the place, then sleep at her parents' place for three days. Apparently this was fine according to her mom, but her dad has now said that we can only stay there if I sleep on the couch and my girlfriend sleeps in a different room. Now keep in mind, when we were living in Calgary, we visited them and were permitted to sleep in the same bed (apparently against her dad's wishes). According to her dad, it's against his religion for us to sleep in the same bed. Of course I'm hearing all of this second-hand, since he tends to give my girlfriend and her mom crap about this but doesn't have the stones to approach me. I've basically told them to stuff it and booked a hotel room for me and my girlfriend to stay in. Am I right to be completely offended by this? We've been in a committed relationship for two years, I've treated her, her family, and especially him with utmost respect. I should also mention that we're both 23 and have full-time jobs. Can some of the other parents on here tell me what their position on something like this would be? Am I out of line for being bent? Does he any kind of leg stand on, especially when he lets her younger brother (who lives in the basement) have girls sleep over?