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Originally Posted by OilersBaby
Ok so the baby shower was today and they were really thankful...didnt say anything negative about what I did, and I felt as though my husband and I spent a lot more than we wanted to, but at least they were happy and one day when we will have kids, they will return the favor. I didnt bring anything upto her, just didnt do some of the last min things she asked for.
I was really stressed today cuz of the shower and the DV victim friend called/texted and I was a little fed up so I told her that while I want to help her and will help her manage things, I can't be her everything and that a professional would be able to help her in ways I couldnt. She counts on me for moral, financial/emotional support and I have done everything including letting her stay at my house for over a month, going to the police station with her, listening when she needed help etc...She got really upset and hung up the phone. She hasn't called back since. I feel awful but my husband assured me that I didnt do anything wrong and shouldnt feel guilty.
The only thing that worries me is that her last comment to me was.."what do i have to live for"? How do you convince a friend to seek professional help????? She thinks I'm being a bad friend for even suggesting it! Any advice?
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Did you end up buying a baby shower gift? Will you ever bring up how you felt to your friend? I noticed you mention how they'll return the favour, are you going to put the screws to them when it's your turn? Finally, naive question here: if baby showers are considered favours why don't people just throw them for themselves instead of saddling a friend with the work.