Originally Posted by 4X4
Some of you guys are just being a-holes. The OP asked a question in a pretty honest way - a way that most of you holier-than-thou people would likely re-phrase to sound a lot more PC.
Props to you, GS. It's refreshing to see some honest posts around here. I get sick of the way alot of posts are worded to sound less harsh than they are. Of course, at the same time, I also respect some of the harsh answers. I don't agree with them, but I like that people are coming right out and saying what they think.
Now this is just being mean for no reason. Ugly personality? Because she's hurt or confused as to why the guy is attracted to someone else? If you can honestly tell me that you've never wondered how person X bagged person Y, then you're alone in this world.
The girl is just venting and hoping that some other posters share similar stories.
As for the original post and question, I can tell you, GS, and you should already know, that people have types that they are attracted to. And some people are turned off by knowing that they can just have a person. Like me. If I know that a girl is in love with me, I couldn't be bothered with her. No, it doesn't happen everyday, so no need to make jokes, But it has happened 3 or 4 times. Most recently was a couple of years ago when I was overseas. One of my employees, a naive little 19 y/o was just ridiculously infatuated with me. As attractive as she was physically, the lovesick gaga eyes and the blatant attempts to be around me all the time were such a turnoff that I had to fire her. My buddy thought I was crazy, but I'm old enough to know that it would have been a terrible thing to do to take advantage of that situation when I knew that I had no interest in dating her.
Another thing to consider, GS, is that maybe you have a feature that he just doesn't like. A frivolous as it may be, there are certain things on a woman that turn a 99% perfect woman into a no-chance.
Women are the same way. For example, could you date a guy that is missing a finger? Maybe you could, but alot of women would just be creeped out.
There could be something about you that just puts you in the no-way zone. Are you too motivated? Maybe that intimidated him. Maybe he wanted someone more submissive. Maybe vice-versa. Maybe he perceived you as a cling-on. Maybe you're brown and his family is old-school and he didn't want to give his mom a heart attack by bringing home someone from another race.
Or maybe you've got a distracting facial feature like a scar or a mole that just simply turns him off. Forget about what these knuckleheads are saying about how looks don't mean a thing to them. It may be true for them, but they're by far the minority. So don't think any less of yourself for observing that you're better looking than his wife. We all do it, but only some of us are honest enough to admit it.
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