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Originally Posted by rubecube
I feel like I'm with someone who compliments as an individual and provides me with all the things you've listed in one person, as opposed to three different people...
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Well congratulations on finding someone you feel is your ideal mate. I'll just say that the divorce rate indicates that people are often misguided in thinking that the person they're with is actually going to offer everything they are looking for. People think they've found their most ideally complementary person only to find out years later and after they've invested so much time and energy into the relationship that they're wrong. You can end up wasting a significant portion of your life trying to keep together something that never was to begin with. Hate to be negative, but there it is. If you take monogamy and relationships seriously, this is what you can end up with.
Throw away the expectations and the standards. Date different people, and you get a composite of your complete guy/girl, kind of like being a vegetarian and having to eat several different sources of protein like corn, rice, and beans to get a complete protein, not to mention the fun that comes with the variety and novelty of trying different things. Paul Newman asked, "Why go out for a burger when you have steak at home?" I say, well, what if you feel like samosas or curry or spanakopitas, etc.?