11-06-2013, 03:32 PM
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OMG that's awful. It's must be terrible for both of you knowing you lost the baby but having to wait a week to get it out? I couldn't even imagine what that must be like for you and especially your wife.
MORE than reasonable for you to take that time off IMO.
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11-06-2013, 03:33 PM
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Originally Posted by ooogabooga
Just wondering what opinions are on this as I have never had to encounter this until now. My wife just had a later term miscarriage and doesn't have the procedure to expel the baby for a week, is it acceptable for me as the father to take the next week and a half off of work to be with her.
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That really, really sucks. I am sorry for your loss.
A lady at work had something similar happen, she was off for a while (a couple months) I believe. You should have a chat with HR and see what your options are, I believe 3 days at a minimum for bereavement leave.
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11-06-2013, 03:34 PM
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Depends on your work. I believe that should at least fall under bereavement leave since it is a death in immediate family and you should get at least a couple days for that. I am also sorry for you loss that is an awful thing to happen.
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11-06-2013, 03:35 PM
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I'd seriously wonder about any employer that has to classify this as anything other than a REALLY sh**y time in someones life and they need time to deal with it.
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11-06-2013, 03:37 PM
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Originally Posted by GoinAllTheWay
I'd seriously wonder about any employer that has to classify this as anything other than a REALLY sh**y time in someones life and they need time to deal with it.
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Exactly it is more under the please come back when ever you feel up to it and not them telling you a set time
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11-06-2013, 03:37 PM
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Sorry for your loss. Our friends also had this happen to them last year.
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11-06-2013, 03:38 PM
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You should get X amount of time as bereavement. If you feel you need further time, speak with your family doctor. They can write you a letter stating you need the time, which should also cover you with HR.
Aside from the employer/employee logistics of this, I am so sorry for the loss you and your wife have suffered.
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11-06-2013, 03:39 PM
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sorry to hear this rotten news.....
i would think that you should get 3 or so days as a bereavement leave, and you may then have to add in a few vacation days.
you may want to talk with your wife about when she would like you around, as perhaps she would prefer you are there after teh procedure.....
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11-06-2013, 03:40 PM
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Crap. Thats really sad news. Sorry to hear that.
You should definitely be with your wife for at least the week.
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11-06-2013, 03:43 PM
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Join Date: Apr 2008
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Horrible news, I would give any employee the week and a half off without hesitation (and without any ridiculous deductions from holiday time, etc).
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11-06-2013, 03:55 PM
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Man that is terrible. I can't imagine how hard it must be to be your wife and still have to carry your child around 
My condolences
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11-06-2013, 03:57 PM
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Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: Calgary
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Horrible news. Any decent company would give you the time off.
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11-06-2013, 04:01 PM
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My condolences to you and your wife. I would also check with your HR rep to see if there's any sort of Employee Assistance Program (EAP). Most companies have something like this (for example Shepell FGI).
The EAP is paid for by the company, and offers many services free of charge. Services include professional counseling. They might be able to help you and your wife with your grieving as well.
Best of luck.
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11-06-2013, 04:09 PM
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There are only a few doctors in the city that do the procedure and they are not on call until next week, hence the extended wait.
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11-06-2013, 04:11 PM
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Yikes. So sorry for your loss.
My work allows us to swap our sick time into caregiver time, which allows for use our own sick time to care for loved ones. Hopefully you have a similar policy available.
Although my previous employer didn't give me such an option when my dad was sick in a hospice, and forced me to use vacation time to cover off. That was an awful place to work.
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11-06-2013, 05:10 PM
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Sorry to hear about your situation, that's awful.
Every company has different policies outside of things like Bereavement leave. In Alberta it is three days off unpaid. So you might need to use vacation pay or take an unpaid leave to make up the time.
Of course depending on the company and sympathy level they might have different programs under their retention strategy.
Talk to whoever does HR or if there's no HR your direct manager and see what you can work out.
Again really sorry to hear about your loss.
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11-06-2013, 05:16 PM
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Join Date: Oct 2004
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Such terrible news. I am deeply sorry for your loss.
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11-06-2013, 05:24 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss. I also went through this incident as well, 37 weeks. I was working at a small business at the time and had been there 5 years or so, boss gave me 2 weeks off, not holidays either.
It was 14 years ago, however one year later my eldest daughter was born. I know things look ####ty right now, but it will get better.
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11-06-2013, 05:44 PM
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Sorry for your loss.
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