Have someone working in my house right now who absolutely stinks. Like I don't want to be rude but is there a proper way to tell him? Has nobody ever told him?
He's only going to be here for a few hours but it's really bad.
He might know. He might not realize, the way people who live in heavily industrialized cities stop smelling the stink of the city (or Edmonton, I guess). It may be something he is strugglign with, or a condition he can't necessarily help. If he knows, he undoubtedly is tired of hearing about it.
Bad advice. That’ll just make it smell like BO cookies and it’ll ruin the smell of fresh cookies for a long time. Everytime you smell delicious fresh cookies your mind will associate it with horrible BO.
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I used to work in a job where we had a lot of new Canadians. There were a couple of times I ended up being tasked to approach the person about their BO. A trend I saw was that some people didn't have the exposure to the chemicals we all did growing up, so they would get a bad rash from any sort of deodorant.
Now I'm sure there are better sensitive skin options, but back then the better option was either just baby powder under their arms, or there were more options geared towards women that worked better for them as they were marked to be "gentler."
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Have someone working in my house right now who absolutely stinks. Like I don't want to be rude but is there a proper way to tell him? Has nobody ever told him?
He's only going to be here for a few hours but it's really bad.
Bad advice. That’ll just make it smell like BO cookies and it’ll ruin the smell of fresh cookies for a long time. Everytime you smell delicious fresh cookies your mind will associate it with horrible BO.
I used to work in a job where we had a lot of new Canadians. There were a couple of times I ended up being tasked to approach the person about their BO. A trend I saw was that some people didn't have the exposure to the chemicals we all did growing up, so they would get a bad rash from any sort of deodorant.
Now I'm sure there are better sensitive skin options, but back then the better option was either just baby powder under their arms, or there were more options geared towards women that worked better for them as they were marked to be "gentler."
There are substantially chemical free deodorants available at places such as Amaranch and Community Natural. They are great. Look up "Green Beaver Deodorant" for example.
Sometimes it's also the clothing... I have some older sports clothes that when they come out of the washer/dryer they smell fine, but after 5-10mins of working out the stink comes out. So daily work/sports wear tends to build up. I've learned to only wash my workout stuff with workout stuff and use the "Sportswear" setting on my washer, with extra rinse. More importantly use a sports-specific detergent which makes a HUGE difference as they tackle the oils/fats that are more prevalent from activity.
If the person is there for a few hours, I say suck it up. It's one of those most annoying smells possible but I can't see a scenario where anyone can approach it without it being embarrassing. There was once a lady at work who totally stunk of BO. I heard someone brought her a deodorant and placed it on her desk before she started her shift. I guess that's an approach but it'd still be embarrassing. There's just no good way IMO for it to be not embarrassing to the person.
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When I was working for Safeway there was this night shift manager who had really bad BO. At the end of his shift he would leave his work smock hanging in the office. One day a bunch of us workers got a bar of soap and some deodorant and put in the pocket of his smock when our night shift was done. A few days later he showed up for our night stocking shift minus the bad BO. He never said anything to anyone but I think he knew we did it. He got the message
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It's probably best not to hurt the guy's feelings if it is only for a few hours. I can't imagine someone's BO being that bad that you can't put up with it for a while.
I have a friend who used to have really bad breath. Like really bad and people would recoil when talking to him and would talk about it behind his back. I eventually just told him he had bad breath and it was a problem, because it was. It became a trait that people associated with him and it was affecting his image and interpersonal relationships with people. He was pretty offended when I told him, but it did force him to go to the dentist and deal with his rotting tooth. I am still friends with him and his breath is normal now, so it was for the best.
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It's probably best not to hurt the guy's feelings if it is only for a few hours. I can't imagine someone's BO being that bad that you can't put up with it for a while.
I have a friend who used to have really bad breath. Like really bad and people would recoil when talking to him and would talk about it behind his back. I eventually just told him he had bad breath and it was a problem, because it was. It became a trait that people associated with him and it was affecting his image and interpersonal relationships with people. He was pretty offended when I told him, but it did force him to go to the dentist and deal with his rotting tooth. I am still friends with him and his breath is normal now, so it was for the best.
There was a janitor in my office who would legit clear a room out with his BO. It was insane; the type of BO they made you gag and have to clear your throat repeatedly because it was in your lungs. Tried to talk to him, no dice. Had to go to management and he was let to eventually after refusing to deal with it.
Proper way to deal with people who have bad BO
