To me, the "chiseled" abs that have always been hyped by people in pop culture and fitness circles are overrated and really don't enhance a guy's overall appearance all that much. the work to attain and maintain them far exceeds the payoff in reality (vs expectations that guys build up in their mind). Unless you're equally attractive in your demeanour, it's not like it's going to be the tipping point for people finding you attractive. and spoiler alert, it is not.
You'd also have to be in a climate where walking around without a shirt is even a palatable thing to even have that region on display (and that's very ego-driven to begin with, unless you're a fitness freak where you see it as a benchmark of success.. if so, all the more power to you)
To me, building up some decent meat on your chest and arms, and merely keeping the love handles off as much as you can, is the basis for creating an objectively appealing physique. Forget about the minute details of each muscle region. Just get that basis down for yourself and you'll have every reason to feel confident
But most guys don't have that innate confidence. Even guys that start overweight, or very skinny and build up a great composition have the default mental thought loop of "i'm not fit/___ enough" so ingrained, that even when it's evident to others that they're in a great spot with their fitness, they can't see nor appreciate it themselves
I think the most important thing is cultivating a baseline of self-acceptance for your body as it is. Otherwise you'll likely experience very little appreciation for any progress you make .. brains stick to patterns. so I would say, work on what you're thinking as much as perfecting your "3D" anterior deltoids, or whatever
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