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[curves2000]

Originally Posted by Strange Brew

LOl at the bolded, you truly have no idea what you are talking about.

You don't "slash" fostering and adoption, they are not the same thing and you really shine a light on your own ignorance.

And in your stupid example, what if your birth child causes a #### storm in your life and the child who you either adopted or fostered is a rock who is dependable and responsible? I guess in your world you owe the birth child a greater duty of care.

As for the original poster. I'm still waiting to hear if their child adopts one of these babies as they claim (which is doubtful, smells more like virtue signaling to me) are they going to refer to the child as their adopted grandchild?

Hold on, do you know what you are actually talking about? Or do the other posters? You do know that child apprehensions have always been a big concern and still are with way too many children being born to mothers and parents who are not capable of taking care of them. What do you think happens in these tragic situations? They are put into foster homes, in the care of family or adopted. Everybody knows that foster homes are not the same thing as official adoption but it's not like every child is adopted and put into a loving home, that's not reality.

Anyways I am checked out on this convo

[Wormius]

Originally Posted by curves2000

Back to my original post and Money Guy's post before the typical word police came in all hot and bothered over words as opposed to serious topics. The women who keeps having babies and can't properly take care of is the concern, possibly due to a variety of tragic circumstances. It's a tragic situation for everybody involved, hence the gear grinder posts. Arguing and worrying this and that word isn't the concern here.

Context matters in the original post and good on Money Guy for not wasting time arguing semantics. Money Guy comes to air a grievance on a gear grinder thread and gets roasted and insulted by the same people and being called a ***k. Ironically it turns out his family may be able to attempt to do some good in what is most likely an incredibly challenging and heart breaking situation.

The person being adopted has literally nothing to do with the gear grinder. It speaks a lot about the poster that they felt the need to include that.

Also, speaking of context, you’re making up a lot of context to downplay MG making sure everyone knew that the daughter wasn’t a blood-relative.

[Wormius]

Originally Posted by curves2000

Hold on, do you know what you are actually talking about? Or do the other posters? You do know that child apprehensions have always been a big concern and still are with way too many children being born to mothers and parents who are not capable of taking care of them. What do you think happens in these tragic situations? They are put into foster homes, in the care of family or adopted. Everybody knows that foster homes are not the same thing as official adoption but it's not like every child is adopted and put into a loving home, that's not reality.

Anyways I am checked out on this convo

Typical.

[Strange Brew]

WTF are you going on about child apprehensions and foster homes for?

Hard to tell if you can't read through the words in money guy's post and see a very obvious distasteful attitude or you're just trying to make a bunch of noise.

[Cappy]

Originally Posted by Jason14h

Gasoline and Diesel taxes raises 8 billion a year

Canada spent 9.8 billion on roads in 2022

Your regular taxes pay very little towards roads .

1.8 billion makes a lot of bike lanes...

[PepsiFree]

Originally Posted by curves2000

Everybody knows that foster homes are not the same thing as official adoption

Well, you didn’t, as evidence by you lumping the two together and talking out of your ass.

Bonus points for crying about “word police” because you once again were talking about something you don’t understand, brought up a bunch of irrelevant points, and then peaced out because you’re too immature to handle being corrected.

[Strange Brew]

Originally Posted by curves2000

Anyways I am checked out on this convo

If you can't handle being challenged, next time just don't check in.

[bc-chris]

Originally Posted by curves2000

Hold on, do you know what you are actually talking about? Or do the other posters? You do know that child apprehensions have always been a big concern and still are with way too many children being born to mothers and parents who are not capable of taking care of them. What do you think happens in these tragic situations? They are put into foster homes, in the care of family or adopted. Everybody knows that foster homes are not the same thing as official adoption but it's not like every child is adopted and put into a loving home, that's not reality.

Anyways I am checked out on this convo

hey curves

i know you've 'checked out' so no need to reply, i just wanted to give you a different perspective on this.

my brother is adopted.... we never had to clarify becuz it's pretty obvious - he's 6'2", lighter brown/tanned skin, jet black curly hair. i was the next 'tallest' maxing out at 5'10", whiter than white skin and straight as a board blond hair.
my brother's birth-mom was an aboriginal prostitute in winnipeg. she drank like a fish. as a result my brother has FAS (fetal alcohol syndrome).
growing up was tough. becuz of his FAS, mentally he only ever hit about a grade 3 or 4 level. he was very loved at home but as i'm sure everyone can relate to, he looked for social acceptance amongst school peers.
becuz of his FAS he didn't really grasp what consequences would be when doing stupid crap his "friends" encouraged him to do. as a result he was brought home many times by the OPP (when we lived in ontario) and the RCMP (once we moved to kelowna).
in his late teens, early 20s he got in with a really bad crowd. the end result was lots of drinking, drug addiction and eventually being convicted of arson. he was in jail for a while and then eventually transferred to riverview mental hospital in Coquitlam. there he was diagnosed with schizophrenia. after some trial and error for meds the doctors found the combination for my brother that worked.
thru all of this, as difficult as it was, my folks fiercely loved my brother and did anything they could to support him/get him back on the right path.
decades later my brother is still loved and he is thriving - which is awesome.

[Sliver]

Originally Posted by curves2000

Back to my original post and Money Guy's post before the typical word police came in all hot and bothered over words as opposed to serious topics. The women who keeps having babies and can't properly take care of is the concern, possibly due to a variety of tragic circumstances. It's a tragic situation for everybody involved, hence the gear grinder posts. Arguing and worrying this and that word isn't the concern here.

Context matters in the original post and good on Money Guy for not wasting time arguing semantics. Money Guy comes to air a grievance on a gear grinder thread and gets roasted and insulted by the same people and being called a ***k. Ironically it turns out his family may be able to attempt to do some good in what is most likely an incredibly challenging and heart breaking situation.

Words have meaning. MoneyGuy was demeaning this woman by separating her from the purer bloodline of the blood relatives. It was a deliberate word choice used to denigrate/shame a young mother further by delegitimizing her existence/pedigree relative to her non-adopted family members. It was a gross characterization of her and not something that needed to be shared with a couple hundred strangers on CP.

[Strange Brew]

Originally Posted by Sliver

Words have meaning. MoneyGuy was demeaning this woman by separating her from the purer bloodline of the blood relatives. It was a deliberate word choice used to denigrate/shame a young mother further by delegitimizing her existence/pedigree relative to her non-adopted family members. It was a gross characterization of her and not something that needed to be shared with a couple hundred strangers on CP.

Hopefully MoneyGuy's daughter would be ashamed of his attitude if she really is considering adoption.

[Sliver]

Originally Posted by Strange Brew

Hopefully MoneyGuy's daughter would be ashamed of his attitude if she really is considering adoption.

"hai everyone! meet my adopted grand daughter!"

[Erick Estrada]

I'm surprised people are up in arms about the adopted comment. Maybe he was demeaning the woman or maybe pointing out that the child being adopted may have the genetic traits of parents that popped out a lot of kids unlike which is a stark contrast to the parents that adopted? I don't know what the real intentions of the word usage was and really, I don't care. Since it's highly doubtful the woman will ever read this thread I don't really see the point of outrage but maybe some people just haven't hit their outrage quota this week?

[Sliver]

Originally Posted by Erick Estrada

I'm surprised people are up in arms about the adopted comment. Maybe he was demeaning the woman or maybe pointing out that the child being adopted may have the genetic traits of parents that popped out a lot of kids unlike which is a stark contrast to the parents that adopted? I don't know what the real intentions of the word usage was and really, I don't care. Since it's highly doubtful the woman will ever read this thread I don't really see the point of outrage but maybe some people just haven't hit their outrage quota this week?

There's literally zero outrage.

It's just busting a guy for saying a dickish statement. Nothing more. Completely rageless.

[Strange Brew]

Originally Posted by Erick Estrada

I'm surprised people are up in arms about the adopted comment. Maybe he was demeaning the woman or maybe pointing out that the child being adopted may have the genetic traits of parents that popped out a lot of kids unlike which is a stark contrast to the parents that adopted? I don't know what the real intentions of the word usage was and really, I don't care. Since it's highly doubtful the woman will ever read this thread I don't really see the point of outrage but maybe some people just haven't hit their rage quota this week?

You are implying that it is important to point out that the genetics of this person may be different than her parents. Why?

[Scroopy Noopers]

Originally Posted by Sliver

There's literally zero outrage.

It's just busting a guy for saying a dickish statement. Nothing more. Completely rageless.

So few people seem to be able to grasp this. It’s used as an out card constantly.

[Erick Estrada]

Originally Posted by Strange Brew

You are implying that it is important to point out that the genetics of this person may be different than her parents. Why?

Where did I imply it was important to point out?

[Erick Estrada]

Originally Posted by Sliver

There's literally zero outrage.

It's just busting a guy for saying a dickish statement. Nothing more. Completely rageless.

LOL okay. Let's pretend some of these posts don't exist.

[squiggs96]

Originally Posted by Erick Estrada

I'm surprised people are up in arms about the adopted comment. Maybe he was demeaning the woman or maybe pointing out that the child being adopted may have the genetic traits of parents that popped out a lot of kids unlike which is a stark contrast to the parents that adopted? I don't know what the real intentions of the word usage was and really, I don't care. Since it's highly doubtful the woman will ever read this thread I don't really see the point of outrage but maybe some people just haven't hit their outrage quota this week?

You aren't sure why, in the GMG thread, there are people who are having their gears ground? Based on your comment, you are saying that if the woman did read this thread, the comments would be justified. That's a hot take.

The adopted label was derogatory. I know a few people who have adopted a child. None of them call them their adopted daughter. They all say daughter.

[Paulie Walnuts]

I had friends with adopted siblings, never once did they ever refer to them as my adopted brother or sister. It only came up in a conversation when discussing kids looking like their parents.

[Erick Estrada]

Originally Posted by squiggs96

You aren't sure why, in the GMG thread, there are people who are having their gears ground? Based on your comment, you are saying that if the woman did read this thread, the comments would be justified. That's a hot take.

The adopted label was derogatory. I know a few people who have adopted a child. None of them call them their adopted daughter. They all say daughter.

Yes but this poster wasn't talking about his own kids so the comparison doesn't stick.