No Sex for 3 Months.

[MRCboicgy]

Originally Posted by alltherage

This is going to be hellish. I'm getting Married Sept 19th and agreed a long time ago that to make the Honeymoon extra special that we will abstain from the deed for 90 days prior. Friday is D-day for me.

That agreement was made with some terrible, terrible forsight on my part.

Anyone else do something similar?

I haven't read the whole thread, but does she want you to last about 45 seconds when you finally do it?

[sadora]

Women love sex as much as we do so I can imagine that this will be hell for her as well.

We should start a pool to see who's right about when they cave. I give it about two weeks, a few make out sessions and both parties saying no before someone eventually gives in, no pun intended.

[GreenTeaFrapp]

Originally Posted by ResAlien

Hey, as long as BJ's, HJ's and ZJ's are still on the table, you're good. Hope that works out.

ZJ's?

I'm almost afraid to ask. Almost.

[ResAlien]

Originally Posted by GreenTeaFrapp

ZJ's?

I'm almost afraid to ask. Almost.

If you gotta ask you can't afford it.

[awildermode]

Originally Posted by ResAlien

Hey, as long as BJ's, HJ's and ZJ's are still on the table, you're good. Hope that works out.

Originally Posted by GreenTeaFrapp

ZJ's?

I'm almost afraid to ask. Almost.

Originally Posted by ResAlien

If you gotta ask you can't afford it.

i have no shame. i will ask

Assuming I can afford it, what is a ZJ?

[schteve_d]

Originally Posted by alltherage

Anyone else do something similar?

Yep, I moved to Fort McMurray.

[MelBridgeman]

[Shazam]

Originally Posted by awildermode

i have no shame. i will ask

Assuming I can afford it, what is a ZJ?

It's the exact opposite of the dreaded rear admiral.

[Antithesis]

Originally Posted by FireFly

You have the rest of your life to have sex together.

Minus 3 months.

I can't believe you agreed to this - I have to admit it does sound like all those times I had 'mutual' breakups when I was a student, but to each their own I guess. I'd have thought my wife was joking if she brought this up.

[BlackArcher101]

Here's a thought.... maybe she's gotten one of those new fangled STI's... (where the hell did STD go) and she's giving it 3 months to heal itself so you don't find out.

Just putting that out there.

[mikey_the_redneck]

Originally Posted by BlackArcher101

Here's a thought.... maybe she's gotten one of those new fangled STI's... (where the hell did STD go) and she's giving it 3 months to heal itself so you don't find out.

Just putting that out there.

Oh boy..........

[Ford Prefect]

This thread makes me think of a line from Helter Skelter ... "I've got blisters on my fingers!!!"

[T@T]

I think it's great because it reminds of a joke that's not so much a joke.

Whats the difference between your wife and your job after 1 year?






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Your job still sucks!!!

[BlackArcher101]

Originally Posted by FireFly

For what it's worth atr, I applaud the decision. Beyond popular belief on here, it will strengthen your relationship. That's what it should be about. Of course guys on here will blast you for your decision, it's the manly' thing to do. I think it's better though that you and your fiancee want to strengthen your relationship before marriage. It will give you lots of time to focus on each other. You have the rest of your life to have sex together.

See, I'm all for that. But BEFORE actually commiting to marriage. I have the belief that if your relationship isn't as strong as it could possibly be heading into the marriage, then you should probably put it off. It means you fully don't know each other yet. If it needs strengthening before marriage, then think twice. Imagine how much strengthening it will need after 5+ years of marriage.

[Ford Prefect]

Originally Posted by BlackArcher101

See, I'm all for that. But BEFORE actually commiting to marriage. I have the belief that if your relationship isn't as strong as it could possibly be heading into the marriage, then you should probably put it off. It means you fully don't know each other yet. If it needs strengthening before marriage, then think twice. Imagine how much strengthening it will need after 5+ years of marriage.

In my experience, that is a lifetime, ongoing process, so I have to disagree. It needs to be strong and well-founded before exchanging vows, but that is not as strong as it's going to get. The adversity and trials you encounter in life will strengthen it even more.

[evilcougar]

Oh man....i've been drinking....i need not chime in here....

[BlackArcher101]

Originally Posted by Ford Prefect

In my experience, that is a lifetime, ongoing process, so I have to disagree. It needs to be strong and well-founded before exchanging vows, but that is not as strong as it's going to get. The adversity and trials you encounter in life will strengthen it even more.

Agreed (I haven't been past that marriage part yet), but to go out of the way and force it be to artificially stronger by doing something that didn't get you there in the first place? Sounds like a "test" more than anything.

BTW, I meant as strong as it possible could be (at this time), not ever.

[FireFly]

Originally Posted by BlackArcher101

Agreed (I haven't been past that marriage part yet), but to go out of the way and force it be to artificially stronger by doing something that didn't get you there in the first place? Sounds like a "test" more than anything.

Either it will be stronger or weaker but it will not be 'artifially' anything. If it's weaker, I guess that's a sign, eh? If your relationship can't handle going without sex for 3 months, it has serious issues. What if she's told she needs strict bedrest for 6 months of a high risk pregnancy? Better bust out the divorce papers then, eh?

If it's a mutual decision for the benefit of the relationship, good stuff. If she's testing you and you fail, at least you'll know. Either way, the results are not artificial.

[4X4]

Originally Posted by FireFly

Either it will be stronger or weaker but it will not be 'artifially' anything. If it's weaker, I guess that's a sign, eh? If your relationship can't handle going without sex for 3 months, it has serious issues. What if she's told she needs strict bedrest for 6 months of a high risk pregnancy? Better bust out the divorce papers then, eh?

If it's a mutual decision for the benefit of the relationship, good stuff. If she's testing you and you fail, at least you'll know. Either way, the results are not artificial.

Pfft. Not so. Respecting his decision is one thing. Concocting scenarios is another. What if she's in a complicated pregnancy for 6 mo? What if a bus runs over my feet one day? Should I practice operating a wheelchair right now while my feet are fine?

All I know is that there's no way I'd give up sex in an LTR for no reason. I might as well start taking the bus for a few months just so that when I jump back in my truck, it's real special.

[BlackArcher101]

Originally Posted by FireFly

Either it will be stronger or weaker but it will not be 'artifially' anything. If it's weaker, I guess that's a sign, eh? If your relationship can't handle going without sex for 3 months, it has serious issues. What if she's told she needs strict bedrest for 6 months of a high risk pregnancy? Better bust out the divorce papers then, eh?

So every relationship should go through a time of no sex to make sure it can happen in the future? I'm sorry, but that sounds 100% like a test and isn't increasing the strength of the relationship today or tomorrow. I would hope at this point that you both should have an idea how each other would react in certain situations without simulating them.

If it's not artifically making it stronger, then tell me how temporary abstinence actually strengthens the relationship?