Things you've gotten too old to ever do again...

[SutterBrother]

Originally Posted by woob

Couple years ago I went to WestEd with my kids and went on the Blue Bullet water slide. I was completely caught off guard on how dizzy that made me. In the process of getting up and out of the slide I was like what the F is happening.

Originally Posted by fotze2

I didn't realize that I lost that ability until I was on that Harry Potter ride at Universal Orlando. I was seconds away from puking complete with watering mouth. Of course it was first ride of the day and totally ruined the rest of the day feeling like crap.

I have good news (sort of).

I used to LOVE roller coasters. Like - LOVE EM. Then 20 years went by without riding one. For my 40th, my friends took me to 6 Flags, and I jumped on the biggest baddest thing you could imagine.

My results were the same as yours. Like... I thought it was permanent brain damage. Rest of the day was rough.

Then... I had a child. And that child LOVES roller coasters. Afraid of heights, the dark, dogs, cats... but roller coasters? Nope.

And I'm the guy who got to ride em with him. And as time passed... I got used to it again. And pretty quickly, got MASSIVELY into roller coasters at an age where I can pretty much travel to the biggest ones I can find just to ride roller coasters.

Which is sweet as f-ck.

So basically - the inner ear can become pliable once again. Or whatever.

[SutterBrother]

Originally Posted by blankall

Was going to say. Picking up women gets easier the older you get. By the time you're in the nursing home, the ratio of single women to able single men is like dozens to one.

How young you can go depends on what kind of shape you're in.

For Manhattan Boy, who I assume lives in NYC and has a descent job, in any big city there is a massive amount of women in their late 30 and early 40s, who want to settle down immediately. Then you have the divorced crowd, who also know that they want.

It gets a bit sad if you're post 40 and still devoting your personality to picking up women, but, of anything, the older you get, the harder it becomes to stay single.

My father-in-law checked into a old folks place a couple years back. He's a former music professor with a full head of hair and a largely functional brain,

The place is basically his own personal whore house. He dates em till they pass away then just switches up.

Victimless crime I guess?

[chemgear]

Originally Posted by SutterBrother

I have good news (sort of).

I used to LOVE roller coasters. Like - LOVE EM. Then 20 years went by without riding one. For my 40th, my friends took me to 6 Flags, and I jumped on the biggest baddest thing you could imagine.

My results were the same as yours. Like... I thought it was permanent brain damage. Rest of the day was rough.

Then... I had a child. And that child LOVES roller coasters. Afraid of heights, the dark, dogs, cats... but roller coasters? Nope.

And I'm the guy who got to ride em with him. And as time passed... I got used to it again. And pretty quickly, got MASSIVELY into roller coasters at an age where I can pretty much travel to the biggest ones I can find just to ride roller coasters.

Which is sweet as f-ck.

So basically - the inner ear can become pliable once again. Or whatever.

Huh, could replace roller coasters with drinking booze/getting black out drunk. For you that is, not your kid. :P

[Sainters7]

Originally Posted by blankall

Was going to say. Picking up women gets easier the older you get. By the time you're in the nursing home, the ratio of single women to able single men is like dozens to one.

Interesting, I've had the exact opposite experience. In my early 40s now, I used to be passable at it, but now my in-person game with a stranger at the bar is completely gone. I get so nervous now, I don't know why. Considering the good shape I've gotten myself into the past few years, it's genuinely embarrassing lol...it's so bad now that I could have a woman staring right at me and smiling, and I wouldn't go over just because I'd be too embarrassed for her to see my game.

It's weird though, if I meet them on Tinder first, and THEN meet up, I'm actually pretty good. Guess I'm just not good at the cold call anymore..

[blankall]

Originally Posted by Sainters7

Interesting, I've had the exact opposite experience. In my early 40s now, I used to be passable at it, but now my in-person game with a stranger at the bar is completely gone. I get so nervous now, I don't know why. Considering the good shape I've gotten myself into the past few years, it's genuinely embarrassing lol...it's so bad now that I could have a woman staring right at me and smiling, and I wouldn't go over just because I'd be too embarrassed for her to see my game.

It's weird though, if I meet them on Tinder first, and THEN meet up, I'm actually pretty good. Guess I'm just not good at the cold call anymore..

Yeah, picking up strangers, or small talk generally is a bit of a skill. One that takes practice for some. I found my ability to converse really took a hit post COVID. On top of that I had a kid, and baby brain really hit me hard.

I feel like I'm just less interesting, tired, and less interested in stuff generally sometimes.

Not anything to do with being old, just having a kid is exhausting. I remember seeing for sad parents looked when I was single, and get it now. Really glad I had kids, but there are a lot of sacrifices involved.

The fact that women will show interest, on the fewer nights I do get out, does amaze me. Maybe it's like that Chris Rock joke? When they know you're not interested, they come out.

[Manhattanboy]

Forget strangers, if I ran into my ex-crush (who I was in a relationship with years ago) I’m not sure I could even talk to her without it sounding like gibberish.

Any game I had, and I think I had a lot of game, is gone.

[Winsor_Pilates]

Originally Posted by blankall

Yeah, picking up strangers, or small talk generally is a bit of a skill. One that takes practice for some. I found my ability to converse really took a hit post COVID. On top of that I had a kid, and baby brain really hit me hard.

I feel like I'm just less interesting, tired, and less interested in stuff generally sometimes.

Not anything to do with being old, just having a kid is exhausting. I remember seeing for sad parents looked when I was single, and get it now. Really glad I had kids, but there are a lot of sacrifices involved.

The fact that women will show interest, on the fewer nights I do get out, does amaze me. Maybe it's like that Chris Rock joke? When they know you're not interested, they come out.

I think it would be easier than ever to meet women if I wasn't married with kids.
Most men who are 25-35 are in the tinder generation and actually don't know how to start a conversation with a woman without texting.

A 40ish year old guy who still take care of yourself is the last generation who actually had to talk to women and knows how.
If you have some confidence, establishment in life and self awareness you're a unicorn in the dating game.

[Sainters7]

Originally Posted by blankall

Yeah, picking up strangers, or small talk generally is a bit of a skill. One that takes practice for some. I found my ability to converse really took a hit post COVID. On top of that I had a kid, and baby brain really hit me hard.



I feel like I'm just less interesting, tired, and less interested in stuff generally sometimes.



Not anything to do with being old, just having a kid is exhausting. I remember seeing for sad parents looked when I was single, and get it now. Really glad I had kids, but there are a lot of sacrifices involved.



The fact that women will show interest, on the fewer nights I do get out, does amaze me. Maybe it's like that Chris Rock joke? When they know you're not interested, they come out.

Yeah I think you're right about the practice. Bill Burr related it to batting practice before: gotta get your reps in to improve. I went from an 11 year relationship, to suddenly tinder being a thing after which I got used to; its so freaking easy. So I never had to re-learn the out in public pick-up skills. I need to work on it.

I hear you about being tired and less interesting, hell I don't even have kids and I'm tired haha. Good on you still getting the attention though dude (and still having the ability to seal the deal).

[Geraldsh]

It’s a common misconception that middle age is in the 50’s or even early 60’s. Life expectancy is 76 which puts middle age at 38.
No wonder you are crashing and burning!

The golden years is where it’s at now. It’s probably a good thing I have lost the ability to do some of the things I did before.

[Locke]

Originally Posted by Geraldsh

It’s a common misconception that middle age is in the 50’s or even early 60’s. Life expectancy is 76 which puts middle age at 38.
No wonder you are crashing and burning!

The golden years is where it’s at now. It’s probably a good thing I have lost the ability to do some of the things I did before.

I dislike you for this and shall never forgive you.

Now, if you'll excuse me, mathematically speaking I believe it is time for a crisis that I need to get on with.

Good day sir!

[afc wimbledon]

Originally Posted by Locke

I dislike you for this and shall never forgive you.

Now, if you'll excuse me, mathematically speaking I believe it is time for a crisis that I need to get on with.

Good day sir!

I can recommend a Mercedes SL500, not as gauche or parvenue as a Porsche or Ferrari and easier to get into with bad knees as well

[Nyah]

Apparently I'm no longer young enough to move my feet fast enough to catch up to my momentum when I stumble.

I had my first stumbling fall onto my face today. Super comedic. So, that was fun.

[Locke]

Originally Posted by Nyah

Apparently I'm no longer young enough to move my feet fast enough to catch up to my momentum when I stumble.

I had my first stumbling fall onto my face today. Super comedic. So, that was fun.

Is there video? Because this sounds awesome and needs to be commemorated.

[Nyah]

There better not be!

[Geraldsh]

Originally Posted by Nyah

Apparently I'm no longer young enough to move my feet fast enough to catch up to my momentum when I stumble.

I had my first stumbling fall onto my face today. Super comedic. So, that was fun.

Going forward keep your hands out of your pockets- you may need them to catch yourself.

[blankall]

Originally Posted by Winsor_Pilates

I think it would be easier than ever to meet women if I wasn't married with kids.
Most men who are 25-35 are in the tinder generation and actually don't know how to start a conversation with a woman without texting.

A 40ish year old guy who still take care of yourself is the last generation who actually had to talk to women and knows how.
If you have some confidence, establishment in life and self awareness you're a unicorn in the dating game.

Also, money. Young adults are broke these days. We're the last generation where many people own a home, have a set career, have large amounts of savings etc...More and more people are living with their parents, spending large amounts of time playing video games, etc...I took 3 years off between undergrad and law school and felt like an aimless bum. Now people are wandering aimlessly like that for 10-20 years.

A lot of women are dating older and older. You don't have to be flashy either. Subtle things, like the way you react to a $100-200+ bar bill will give up a lot about what your means are like.

Anyways, I'm digressing a lot here. No one is too old to pick up women at a bar.