Let's talk about "spark" when it comes to new relationships

[shermanator]

Perhaps you should stay away from the ol' dating thing for a while...

[Antithesis]

God-damn naturaleopaths, buncha crooks.

[OutOfTheCube]

You completely overthink relationships.

[ChickenPho]

Originally Posted by shermanator

Perhaps you should stay away from the ol' dating thing for a while...

Sorry.

[1stLand]

What's wrong with the OP?
I'm a freakin dating all star #50datesin07

I'll see myself out

[Antithesis]

Just when I thought this thread couldn't get any more stupid ....

[SportsJunky]

He has to be trolling us.

[wretched34]

Originally Posted by ChickenPho

Sorry for rejuvating my old thread, but I didnt want to create a new one for it. First and foremost, its amazing how quickly you can forget about past dates that didnt work out. The girl I originally made this thread for quickly became an afterthought not long after making this thread. Im glad we both didnt go on with a 4th date, we are better off this way.

So I met this new girl just a couple weeks ago (we've already gone on 4 dates). Shes 4 years older than me, which we are both more than fine with, we hit it off great and have very strong chemistry, we have a lot in common, not just in hobbies and interests but views in life, beliefs etc....there is definitely something there.

Shes going through a rough time right now (injury), and has been pretty stressed out because of it.

We've talked a few times over the past week and from talking to her this morning, I knew it was best for me to give her, her time and space, for her to get her injury taken care of to relieve her of pain and agony. Im always one to always be there for someone to lean on, or listen to but she didnt want to talk about it and I completely understood.

Because, this is a bit of an awkward start to getting to know a new person (I cant say that Ive had this kind of beginning before when just getting to know someone), how much time do you think I should give her before contacting her again? When I let her go, I didnt say that I would contact her or that she to contact me, but that shes going to take care of her self first and foremost to free her from pain and that we will chat again.

Now I am no Dr. but I am very knowledge when it comes to healing the body from injury and how the body functions. Physio, cardio, naturaleopath, acupuncture, massage therapy, Ive done them all extensively throughout my life and very familiar with how they relate and the ins and outs. But obviously, her injury is very serious that she needs surgery so its not an overnight fix, nor is it something I can relate to from a Drs standpoint.

Its just that I dont like seeing people like this and I want to do more than I currently am (which is nothing). It absolutely kills me inside seeing people really depressed and even worse knowing I cant really do much. She needs her time and space and I fully respect that. I feel really bad for what shes going through right now, and feel helpless. I really do.

You should text her your goodbye, nice knowing you message now, I suspect the survival rate of whatever surgery she must have is far less than 0%.
It's absolutely awful, how when you finally got over the rejection of the girl you last loved, the next one you love is taken away from you by some unforgiving god, with some sort of cruel sense of humor.

[steveo]

[troutman]

Originally Posted by SportsJunky

He has to be trolling us.

I don't know, he is very knowledge about placebos.

[DuffMan]

Ask her to marry you before she gets away.

[1stLand]

Find out when this new girl's birthday is, and shower her with gifts.

If she rejects the gifts, make a youtube video series complaining about how you can't get dates

[Thor]

I think you are too empathetic and all in with girls you just met. You fall hard and fast I think, and the only advice I can give is to date more, do your best to date a few girls at a time if you can, sloooowly, not 3-4 dates in one week!

I juggled this summer 4 girls, only seeing them maybe 1 or 2 times a month, and I really liked one of them, but figured to take it slow was best for me. The fact I was so distant made her like me a lot more, if I had been nagging her and seeing her right off the bat 3-4 times a week I bet things would have been different.

Take your time with this, you need to work on your diving into the deep end approach.

Imprinting

When a duckling hatches from its shell it will imprint and follow the first thing it sees even if it is not its mother – someone who is in ‘love’ can make a very strong attachment to someone with a minimal amount of encouragement, just a smile or a kind word is often enough to get their affection. They are keen to find someone who feels the same way so the good feelings they have can be shared and prolonged.

This isn’t a bad thing, and it doesn’t mean that someone like this is desperate or needy, simply that they are more vulnerable to falling for people who don’t reciprocate their feelings or who are scared off by the strength of their emotions. They may experience the initial rush of falling in love many times but rarely get past the initial phases to develop a strong and lasting relationship.

http://www.eharmony.co.uk/relationsh...y#.VKqFniusV8E