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Originally Posted by Radio
Wonder how many people regret being born or born to the parents they have?
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I mean I'm grateful for existence but my fam was completely dysfunctional and totally different people from myself. There is just a disconnect when it comes to the important stuff and that sucks to have with your own kin. Dad was incapable of encouragement or empathy, absolutely messed with my sis and I's ability to feel like whole or capable people growing up. All dads should be able to show a soft side. Providing =/= showing you give a damn, either. Be your kids friend and confidant. If they can't talk to you then you've gotta work on that relationship with them.
I'd say aside from the obvious things don't be those parents that are eternally glass half/fully empty. Fill your kid up, don't (just) knock them or their ideas/thoughts. Life beats us all up on its own, so boost your kids up so that they feel good enough about themselves to handle all of its trials. What you show them early in life will resonate with them and how they form relationships with others for the rest of their lives. How you treat them is how they'll find themselves treating others. So treat well. It's also what theyll attract into their life. So if you're a dad who's controlling or berating, they are going to look for that in their partner/s, cause it's human psychology to be attracted to what's familiar or generates that familiar anxiety in us. Indeed, we are kind of ####ed.
If you take the leap, hold yourself to being ever conscious of the subtle effects everything you do has on them. I think prospective parents need to be reminded that's it's not only about just raising their own little people and whatever 'fun moments' you're excited get out of it, but in doing so, you owe them the sort of upbringing that will help them be healthy and functional that know their value so that they can reach their full potential. Give them better than you had, so that they can be better. Don't stinge out on giving a crap when it's needed.
