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[Fuzz]

It sounds like she might have dementia. Is it possible to contact her doctor and get advice to get her in?

[fotze2]

Originally Posted by Traditional_Ale

You're awesome too.

I dunno about that.

As an aside, i e-transferred my boob cousin $1,500 today as a loan. I am sure I won't see that again. I ignored a call for help and it didn't turn out well so that will never happen again. The guilt is worth far more than 1500 bucks.

[Traditional_Ale]

^

If $1500 into the wind cleared your conscience enough to share "ignoring a call for help" then I have good news for you.

You ignored a call for a favor.

Obviously I don't know your specifics, but I think there is a big giant universal difference in the implications of help vs a favour that needs to be minded before said specifics.

I think help is something you do either to save a life, or for any reason you want so long as it is truly and genuinely without strings and expectations (which is a favor). Help I think is an objectively non-sensical cosmic dice-roll based on time place and circumstances given freely. Sometimes you don't really have much time to decide.

[Locke]

Originally Posted by fotze2

I dunno about that.

As an aside, i e-transferred my boob cousin $1,500 today as a loan. I am sure I won't see that again. I ignored a call for help and it didn't turn out well so that will never happen again. The guilt is worth far more than 1500 bucks.

Oh dude...enjoy your Peace.

$1500 is a cheap price for Peace. I've paid more than that to one of my wife's family members to "make this go away and never bother me with it again...but make no mistake...this is it. Last time. Make it count."

But unfortunately they always seem to come back. However I can lean on "pay the original amount back and I'll lend you some more...no? Well...what did I tell ya?"

[fotze2]

Originally Posted by Traditional_Ale

^

If $1500 into the wind cleared your conscience enough to share "ignoring a call for help" then I have good news for you.

You ignored a call for a favor.

Obviously I don't know your specifics, but I think there is a big giant universal difference in the implications of help vs a favour that needs to be minded before said specifics.

I think help is something you do either to save a life, or for any reason you want so long as it is truly and genuinely without strings and expectations (which is a favor). Help I think is an objectively non-sensical cosmic dice-roll based on time place and circumstances given freely. Sometimes you don't really have much time to decide.

I think i mentioned prior but half brother hung himself in his kitchen. I didnt see that coming for sure. I don't have a roadmap on wtf to do. I largely have no idea what to do always.

[Traditional_Ale]

Originally Posted by fotze2

I think i mentioned prior but half brother hung himself in his kitchen. I didnt see that coming for sure. I don't have a roadmap on wtf to do. I largely have no idea what to do always.

Oof. My bad. I didn't know that.

[fotze2]

Originally Posted by Traditional_Ale

Oof. My bad. I didn't know that.

I had ghosted him at the time because he was annoying and had gambling problems.

I think I need a female therapist.

...not some religious dork.

He asks for me to describe in detail my getting molested.

I said 'I don't think I like you enough to go there but here goes, he fataed me in my @ss and came on my 10 year old chest, we done, do I need photos?' Walked out.

Now I'm a zombie two days later.

[RichieRich]

some days... some weeks... some years...
I wonder what it's really like when EVERYTHING is super happy awesome times and not the acronym. Anyways, seem to be on a better up swing. Some of that has been because of trying to set better boundaries. It's been a regular family conversation actually and we all have agreed how important they are both for ourselves and others. And how some people seem to consistently do their best to empty YOUR bucket, even when it's obvious you need someone to spare a few drops. Anyways, based on recent convo's here... perhaps the word of the week needs to be "Boundaries"?

[Nancy]

Originally Posted by fotze2

I had ghosted him at the time because he was annoying and had gambling problems.

I think I need a female therapist.

...not some religious dork.

He asks for me to describe in detail my getting molested.

I said 'I don't think I like you enough to go there but here goes, he fataed me in my @ss and came on my 10 year old chest, we done, do I need photos?' Walked out.

Now I'm a zombie two days later.

JFC, that is brutal. So sorry you went through that, both then and now.

I have used this site, it at least allows you to search and filter conditions, but there are so many psychologists in Calgary, I found it difficult to pick one: https://www.sunlife.ca/en/health/provider-search/

Curious if the guy you saw shows up on here and how well is he rated?

My GP also recommends the Calgary Counselling Center. They do an intake survey and supposedly match you up with one of their counsellors, and have a sliding scale fee system, but I didn't feel like the one they matched me up with was really a match, so I ended up going elsewhere. https://calgarycounselling.com/.

That said, I may give them another shot. I didn't really connect with the psychologist I ended up seeing last fall and then didn't feel like I needed it anymore, but dropped back to a 0 for a while last month, so here we go again...

[CliffFletcher]

Originally Posted by Sylvanfan

My elderly mother is clearly having some serious issues. She's convinced that the basement of my house has some toxic salt that's attacking her and ruining all her stuff. I've suggested we need to go to a Doctor to try and get a referral to get some tests done. But I get the you think I'm crazy...but someone has sabotaged all my stuff, and the emotional responses one would anticipate. As an adult you can make your kids go to a doctor...but parents is another thing.

It's not very enjoyable watching someone get to this stage and try to deal with it. I really don't have the patience to hear an 80 year old ask me 500 why questions, make outlandish accusations against my wife, and be lectured about knowing crazy people and iIm not one. While the expect me to spend 2 hours looking at every imperfection or spec of dust in the house that's been found because that's what she's been hyper focused on doing.

It's not her fault, but it's grinding me down, and I'm not sure how I can get her to go to a doctor to try and address this before it's too late. Tough stretch in life when you have this plus your own kids. My Dad passed from a heart attack almost 20 years ago, I'm thankful to have not had to deal with anything like this at that time.

This is why people need to make sure they get personal directives and enduring power of attorney sorted out before they get too old to think clearly. It's as important as a will.

[Cali Panthers Fan]

Originally Posted by CliffFletcher

This is why people need to make sure they get personal directives and enduring power of attorney sorted out before they get too old to think clearly. It's as important as a will.

Cool.

However, the bulk of that post is about how difficult it is for him emotionally to deal with all this. I don't think you understand the point of the thread.