‘I regret having children’

[CarlLester]

Originally Posted by dubc80

I taught my 3 year old son how to tape a hockey stick this week and he was really excited to immediately go downstairs and play mini-sticks and "snipe G's".

That made me really happy. Those teaching moments are the ones I really cherish and make parenting really rewarding and fun.

Nice! Sniping G's will help him get to Pound Town when he's a teenager.

[Kiran403]

Originally Posted by dubc80

Oh yeah, the other thing which sucks about parenting is that your formerly cool, hip, sexy, fun and relatively carefree girlfriend or fiancée instantly switches into LAME MOM MODE and worries about everything to do with the kids, even though everything is perfectly fine and dandy.

That should go into the Grinds My Gears Thread.

LOL I actually kind of agree with this. I have a lot of trouble getting my wife to not be in "mom mode" even when we're not with the kids. It can get annoying sometimes. I'm happy that she is so committed and it makes her an excellent mom but there has to be a balance.
I think that the so-called maternal instinct really is a thing because I can focus and be a totally involved parent but when I'm not with my kids, I rarely think about them unless I'm out of town for more than a couple days.

[V]

Originally Posted by dubc80

Oh yeah, the other thing which sucks about parenting is that your formerly cool, hip, sexy, fun and relatively carefree girlfriend or fiancée instantly switches into LAME MOM MODE and worries about everything to do with the kids, even though everything is perfectly fine and dandy.

I don't want to get sin-binned, so I'm just going to quote one of our mods.

Originally Posted by Textcritic

This is easily one of the dumbest things I have read on this board, and I have been here for some time.

[troutman]

As modern humans, we have about 7,500 generations of ancestors.

I think about the great struggle and fortune of all my line that I even exist. I want to pass this torch.

[chemgear]

Originally Posted by Coys1882

Have you considered donating some time to the Big brother or sister club in Calgary? It might scratch that itch for you and its a fantastic way to make a difference in someone else's life.

And you avoid this

[CliffFletcher]

Originally Posted by Kiran403

I think that the so-called maternal instinct really is a thing because I can focus and be a totally involved parent but when I'm not with my kids, I rarely think about them unless I'm out of town for more than a couple days.

Whenever I get back from hanging out with a buddy, my wife asks me how his wife and kids are. I say they didn't come up. She asks what we talked about then. I say British 60s R&B, stuff we did in junior high, Borderlands 2, the future of AI, whether Calgary needs a new arena, random drunken escapades, Bruce Lee movies, and BBQing tips.

She shakes her head. I ask her what she talks about when she's out with her friends. "The kids."

[Cecil Terwilliger]

Originally Posted by V

I don't want to get sin-binned, so I'm just going to quote one of our mods.

If only there were an article posted recently that specifically discusses the guilt and shame parents face for not pretending they are 100% perfectly happy at all times with all things pertaining to kids and specifically addresses the type of shame and judgement they face from people for expressing anything other than pure joy and blind devotion to their kids at all times.

[V]

Originally Posted by Cecil Terwilliger

If only there were an article posted recently that specifically discusses the guilt and shame parents face for not pretending they are 100% perfectly happy at all times with all things pertaining to kids and specifically addresses the type of shame and judgement they face from people for expressing anything other than pure joy and blind devotion to their kids at all times.

What are you even talking about, and how does it relate to my post? Genuinely curious.

[btimbit]

Originally Posted by dubc80

Oh yeah, the other thing which sucks about parenting is that your formerly cool, hip, sexy, fun and relatively carefree girlfriend or fiancée instantly switches into LAME MOM MODE and worries about everything to do with the kids, even though everything is perfectly fine and dandy.

That should go into the Grinds My Gears Thread.

I used to love when my wife goes into mom mode. It makes me laugh

[Cecil Terwilliger]

Originally Posted by V

What are you even talking about, and how does it relate to my post? Genuinely curious.

lol no you're not. That's a pretty lame attempt at playing dumb.

[Wormius]

Did I miss something? I keep looking at your posts and wondering to myself, "wtf are you two guys talking about?".

[-TC-]

I was 28 when my daughter was born, I'd married her mother about 8 months prior...

When my daughter was 2 her mom decided that it would be a good idea to start ####ing another guy... I spent the next 7 years trying to divorce her, it cost me everything except my daughter. It was completely worth it.

When my daughter was 12, she finally had had enough of her mothers games and came to live with me full-time, instead of the court mandated 50%. I'd have paid the lawyers everything I'd rebuilt in those 10 years, except I didn't have to, her mother gave he over with almost no conversation.

My daughter is now 21, she is estranged from her mother entirely.

I won't go into detail about the years of sacrifice I went through to be where I am today, but I will say that if I had to do all over again.. I would do it in a ####ing heartbeat.


Anyone can make children, not everyone is suited to parenting.

I'm sure my ex regrets being a parent.

It's the best thing that ever happened to me.

Being a parent is about unconditional love and sacrifice. The rest is window dressing.

[Radio]

Wonder how many people regret being born or born to the parents they have?

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by Radio

Wonder how many people regret being born or born to the parents they have?

*raises hand*

[Muta]

Who knows, but I do know that when I kick the bucket, I'm going to fly from galaxy to galaxy (my spirit / energy field, that is) and I'm going to vacay on far away planets.

So, don't regret being born. Earth life is only one chapter in your book!

[SeeGeeWhy]

This is more of an indictment on The Nuclear Family (TM), than these individuals. It has been a very rare period in history that we raise our children basically by ourselves.

[Kiran403]

One thing I would mention to all the people who choose not to have kids:

Do something with the extra time and money.

I have two really close friends who don't have kids. One of them is married and they travel a TON. He also has a side business in addition to his regular career and does some philanthropic work as well. He and his wife are always trying new things, going new places, having new experiences etc.

My other friend is common-law with his girlfriend though they've been together for like 10 years. They don't travel, don't really try new experiences, don't really push their careers like they could, do charity work etc. Their lives aren't that much different than people who have kids. From the outside looking in, it seems like they are just going through the motions until they die.

Both of these friends are stable financially so it's not like money is the issue.
If I were to be jealous of people with no kids, it would definitely my friend in the first scenario.

[Sliver]

Originally Posted by Muta

Who knows, but I do know that when I kick the bucket, I'm going to fly from galaxy to galaxy (my spirit / energy field, that is) and I'm going to vacay on far away planets.

So, don't regret being born. Earth life is only one chapter in your book!

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Originally Posted by Textcritic

This is easily one of the dumbest things I have read on this board, and I have been here for some time.

[V]

Originally Posted by Cecil Terwilliger

lol no you're not. That's a pretty lame attempt at playing dumb.

No, I legitimately have no idea how your post ties to mine.

I think the guy is dumb for being annoyed that his fun loving girlfriend has turned into a responsible mom, and you're going off on guilt for not enjoying kids 100% of the time. I really don't see the connection. I know you're trying to be smarmy or something, maybe that's your schtick, but maybe you can try to be clearer. Because as it stands right now you appear to have lost the plot.

[Muta]

Originally Posted by Sliver

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