So long as she isnt anti religion then there is no problem.
I know the race thing there would be some initial awkwardness but I live 300Km away from that and am never moving back and my parents are already ok with the differing race thing as I have brought home a non white before with no problems - awkward looks from my uncle/aunts etc but I honestly dont care what they think.
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I was actually hoping I would marry (IF I marry) someone who has Buddhist leanings, or spiritual philosophy. Not sure why, but I've always been interested in other Buddhists (I dabbled in it myself), as they seem to have one of the least hostile and rigid views on the world, but still remain guided by spiritual principles, which I think is important.
I'm a Canadian-born Roman Catholic, but have since dropped any religious affiliations and couldn't care less about Christianity, Catholicism and anything to do with the "big three" religions.
Huna would be another culture that would be pretty neat to marry into. Not just for the surfing and great weather, but their spiritual views are among the most accepting in the world. They are also among the leaders for "self help".
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Growing up with a Mum who was Christian and a Dad who was not was a challenge. I should clarify that I am married and my wife and I do share the same belief system.
None of the three would bother me, really. Religion if she was pushy about it. But if she wants to go to church, that's her choice. Invite me, fine. I'll decline. As soon as the "I love you and I don't want you to go to hell, so please come to church" talk starts, buh-bye.
I know that religion bothers my parents. My looong time g/f (ex) was raised in the JW church. My stepmom tried talking to her about religion countless times. Likewise, her dad tried talking to me quite a few times, and really, really didn't like the fact that I wasn't JW.
See, that's the thing that I hate about religion. It's supposed to be some kind of soul-saving, morally correct way to live, but all it does is segregate people. I mean, I bring home a hot blond with a quick wit and a sharp mind, and my parents find fault in her version of santa claus. WTF?
Anyway, as for race, I just don't know why anyone would have any problem with someone of a different race. I suppose if you come from a place where there is still some pretty high tension between certain groups, it's understandable. But me, born and raised in Calgary, it's just not even something that I care about. Love to joke about race (racial jokes are the funniest ones), but really don't care. My parents might though. Lol, I was seeing a black muslim girl for awhile. Too bad it didn't last long enough to take her home to the 'rents. That would have been priceless.
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No, No, and No. Culture clash is hard enough between my being Russian and her being Canadian, I couldn't imagine what it would be like if one of us wasn't of European decent. It does help that we're both half Jewish though.
We've been talking about marriage but my long term gf is still a leafs fan
Speaking personally, it just seems to be an expectation in my family to marry someone that is also Chinese. It's more to do with continuing the traditions and values from the previous generation.
With that being said, my parents were always very supportive of who I dated (provided that it was a girl) and I just naturally went for Asian girls.
I'm pretty non-religious, but I respect other people's choice of religion, provided they try to push their belief upon others
My girlfriend is very christian and I've been walking the atheist path for quite a while now. But our relationship is working out great. Our success so far has probably less to do with her religious beliefs than her emotional maturity, which is the phrase that pops into my head when I read some of the above posts.
Speaking personally, it just seems to be an expectation in my family to marry someone that is also Chinese. It's more to do with continuing the traditions and values from the previous generation.
Couldn't those traditions be continued if you married a white or brown woman?
And this comment isn't directed at you specifically, but since you brought it up...
Some of the values from the previous generation when it comes to things like race should be discontinued.
We seem to accept that our parents want "us" to marry "one of our own", but how many people reading this will be keeping that tradition alive with their own kids? My guess is not many. And to those who try, well, good luck with that.
It wasn't too long ago that lily-white Canadians thought that people should only marry within a certain sect of Christianity. There were some old (Protestant) geezers in my family who would have resorted to violence before seeing a niece or nephew marry a Catholic. Now how ######ed is that?
As is evident from a lot of posters comments, not many people who have answered this so far have enough consideration or respect for either their own spirituality or their (theoretical) spouses.
As an atheist religion obviously doesn't play a role in my life. So I could see some conflict in not only practical aspects of a relationship if the other person was religious but also the philosophical aspect so to speak. I like to have those discussions with people and if the person was very adamant then I could see it leading to a rift between us. But I suppose it would depend what role religion did play in the other persons life. If it's very prominent there is probably not a chance it would work. If it was moderate it might, but having little or none would be probably be ideal.
I have no issues with race at all. That would never dissuade me from having a relationship with someone. Same with having a favourite hockey team. On the level of importance it's about the same as having a favourite brand of cereal. Unless the other person is so much of fan of a team that she wouldn't watch the Flames live or on TV then I might question their sanity, but for normal fans I wouldn't see a problem.
Know what would piss me off? A bad parker. I was at the Deerfoot Crossing Future Shop, and there was this chick that was talking to her friends outside her vehicle, which she parked in two spots. She was sorta cute, but that horrible parking made me want to run her over.
