Anniversaries: Are they important?

[Russic]

My wife and I both forgot our second anniversary yesterday. I called her around 1:30 and said "well we're pretty romantic aren't we?" to which she replied after a short delay: "oh ya, happy anniversary".

Just look longingly into her eyes and say that you don't need a special day to show your love, you show her every day. Then slap her ass and tell her to make with the nachos.

[TheyCallMeBruce]

Tell her you have to return to your home planet on that date.

[Dion]

Originally Posted by pepper24

It doesn't really matter but me personally when I was younger and just dating, I never missed a Flames game. Sports was more important than a girl.

Well, your assumptions about me, like fonz are dead wrong.

Now that I am oler and in a long term relationship, I'd miss a Flames or Seahawks game for family etc. Family over sports. It's a no-brainer now that would never have made sense 5 years ago. Luckily my wife is a huge Flames-Seahawks fan.PVR is also great.

If a situation arises where there is no flexability then sure you miss the game. However the discussion rube raised wasn't that kind of situation and there was room for flexability.

[missdpuck]

Originally Posted by Dion

Well, your assumptions about me, like fonz are dead wrong.



If a situation arises where there is no flexability then sure you miss the game. However the discussion rube raised wasn't that kind of situation and there was room for flexability.

I think I understand what you've been saying Dion. I don't get a good vibe from this girl...although I know we don't KNOW her and it's kind of unfair. Some women do get a perverse ego gratification from getting a guy to give up what he loves for her. She yelled at him and it's only a 3 hour game?

[Swarly]

Originally Posted by rubecube

No, but she's made sure to tell me that this year if there's something important going on on a Sunday then I'm expected to attend it. I said not if the Eagles are playing which she seems to have accepted.

lol thats a great compromise, especially since it sounds like she doesnt know the eagles play every (13/17 anyway) sunday.


explain to her that due to the leap year your anniversary actually falls on the sat and that you really really want to do it that day as you dont recognize leap years days.

funny thing too, i have a friend who is coming up on his 1 year with his gf. It falls on mon, Aug 18th, so I figured they would do something on the sunday or go away for the weekend to banff since monday they would both be working. Nope he says whats the point of that it has to be the exact day. I couldnt understand him, now I get it, hes wired like a chick.

I dont see the importance of THAT day, a few days before or after are fine by me.

[SportsJunky]

I can't be bothered to read through this whole thread but my position has usually been - If it's important to her than it's important to me.

If my wife was dead set on doing something for an anniversary than I'd probably do it because that is what you do. Of course all of this swings on the fact that she would do the same for me and she does.

[Bagor]

I agree with those that say you're not asking for much in 3 hours on a Sunday am. Stand your ground and watch the game.

At this stage of the relationship you've got to mark your territory as to what little things are important to you re. time out. It's a learning curve for both of you. If she sulks a bit so be it. If she sulks a lot, I'd be concerned. If she offers you an ultimatum get rid of her.

Treat her like a princess the rest of the weekend.

Also....... during a romantic moment when she's a bit weak, googly eyed and off guard I'd solve the same problem from occuring next year by explaining that the actual precise date isn't that important.

[chid]

Agreeing with Sports Junky, seriously if you love the girl and its super duper important to her, why not try to work around it?
I'm not a fan of making a big deal out of dating anniversaries but a girl likes to feel special so, take her out Sat. night, do the anniversary thing then!

Random thoughtful things are way better than a set date when expectations for gifts are high.. IMO

[First Lady]

Ask her....

Is this anniversary so important because it is our first or because it is going to be the last?

..... then run like hell.

[sadora]

Originally Posted by rubecube

Now I know I'm not the only guy out there that thinks like this, otherwise there wouldn't be so many of us that constantly get crapped on for forgetting them. Why do the ladies care so much about them? If one year is a milestone, then wouldn't a year and a day be a bigger milestone? Is it just an excuse for the gal to make the guy go out and buy her a nice gift and/or a fancy dinner? If it's the last one, then it makes relationships sound like prositution with some kind of employee incentinve program.

Maybe I'm completely out to lunch on this but I just don't see the need to pat yourself on the back for spending a lot of time with someone.

/rant

Sounds like you're trying to rationalize yourself out of buying her something.

For some reason women, not all mind you, put a lot of emphasis on being in a relationship for a long time. I don't understand it and I know that most guys don't either. But what I do know is that as guys we have to learn to prioritize when it comes to relationships.

The way I prioritize things in a relationship breaks down this way.
I like sex. Doing things that make women happy = Sex Doing things that make women unhappy = NO SEX

If your anniversary falls on a Sunday then make plans to do something on Saturday night and explain your reasons behind it. But even then, if she's still hounding you about doing something on Sunday then do something on Sunday. Obviously there's a lot of compromising that needs to go both ways, and in your situation it sounds like things can easily be solved by a VCR or TVO.

Seriously man, what's more important? Watching some football or keeping your girlfriend happy? It's not like it's the Super Bowl yet either so there's still a lot of Sundays you can spend being drunk by noon.

[Frequitude]

Originally Posted by rubecube

Yeah, I think that's what she's calculating from. Seemed rather abritrary to me.

Counter with the date that you asked her out for that first time and take her to Denny's on a ~Friday.

[Cawz]

Originally Posted by rubecube

Maybe I'm completely out to lunch on this

Its pointless for a man to try to understand why a woman thinks a certain way.

Just spoil the hell out of her from friday after work (assuming you both work) until kickoff time on sunday. Thats a pretty good comprimise.

[troutman]

This won't be a problem after December.

[KTrain]

Anniversaries happen once a year. Eagles play 17 games a year. One game shouldn't be a big sacrifice if it'll make her happy.

Besides, the Eagles are going to suck this year so why put yourself through the pain of watching the game?

[Itse]

If it's a big deal for your SO, it should be at least a moderate sized deal for you.

Of course, that should go both ways.

[DuffMan]

My wife tends to be more concerned with our first date anniversary, and wants to go out for dinner on it. She has on a few occasions forgot about our wedding anniversary, whereas, I make damn sure I at least get a card for the wedding one, and don't know when our dating one was until she tells me.
We just had our 10 year wedding anniversary, and we've been together about 17 years or so.
If it was my gf and she was telling me what to do on our first dating one, she would probably be my xgf soon. I also totally agree that she should be servicing you during the Eagles game.

[red sky]

Originally Posted by J pold

This thread just prompted me to check the day of one year anniversary with my current GF…and it also falls on a Sunday!!!

The Jets are playing the Pats at home!!!!! NOOOO!!!

Luckily I know she will be writing her MCAT on the 16th of September which is a Tuesday so hopefully we can put it off till after she is done writing

But also agree with Rube…what is the big deal? I mean come on

Better not take her out for Mexican food... we do not want her accidentally letting a fart slip as we know your feelings towards that. Unless of course you sneak some ground up imodium pills into her wine

[Wookie]

I've never had an anniversary. I'm almost 30... Is that good or bad?

Am I winning or losing?

[Caged Great]

In the strictest sense, Anniversaries are not important as you should be making every day a special occasion. But because nobody wants to put in that much effort, making the effort for one day every once in a while is a good thing.

[dubc80]

Next year, you need a pre-emptive strike. Eliminate this whole situation by arbitrarily making the plans for the both of you and tell her you'll pick her up at X:XX pm.

That way you can still watch the game and do something great with her in the afternoon/evening and you'll get extra points for planning it all in advance.

The only thing you'll be giving up is the getting drunk part. But if you can't give that part up, you've got bigger issues!