What is an “acceptable” cash gift for attending a wedding?

[GordonBlue]

Originally Posted by Hockeyguy15

my first impression that it was fake, but I have meet people just like her, so who knows.

[Resolute 14]

That bridezilla story is absolutely fake. Especially since the "cousin" notes in one of the many posted updates that the "Canadian" woman had never left the US in her life.

[White Out 403]

my wifes is going to a wedding soon in northern alberta, and ill leave it at that. anyway, the bride remarked to a mutual friend that the standard wedding gift in alberta now is '200 per person'

how tacky. you'll get 100 dollars from us each and be thankful.

[Locke]

100,000 Dong!

[habernac]

hahahahaha

Someone actually wrote to you that they were pissed at the amount you gave them? You're better off without #######s like that in your life. The only thing I wrote to anyone who gave us gifts and or cash when my wife and I got married was personalized thank yous. I never expected anything from anyone.

The best gift I got from that was a letter from my aunt's Grandma (not technically my Grandma, but a very close friend of our family). She was sorry she couldn't attend due to failing health. It was a few paragraphs long. That stuff is gold, who cares about cash or gifts?

[cam_wmh]

Originally Posted by curves2000

I have been to some weddings where someone has given $50 or $100 a person, will down expensive scotch and wine even when they DON'T drink it regularly, will eat like a king and might even take home some leftovers of the "midnight buffett" and the centerpiece flowers. They will then sit there and brag and talk all this nonsense about their big shot $50 gift. Like, relax buddy!

Yeahhh, that didn’t happen.

[RinkRat]

I'm getting married in a couple weeks and I don't have a spreadsheet detailing the cost I should be applying per person to a function I invited and hope they come to....am I adulting wrong by setting zero expectations?

I've already been blown away by what people bought my fiancé for surprise wedding showers and such. Heck if it were up to me it would have been a quick elopement and done.

[Amethyst]

Just send everyone a group email demanding $1000 from anyone who shows up and you should be good!

[Northendzone]

But if you assume that the plate of food and the booze you drink costs around $100 - then a $100 gift is not that far out of line.

Please note, that when I say the cost of the meal and booze is $100, I am assuming that is the amount the venue charges per plate and an open or free bar.

I personally, would likely not attend a wedding of someone I was not close friends with because of my line of thinking.

I would also likely pass on a destination wedding, unless there was some really awesome discount attached to going.

Originally Posted by White Out 403

my wifes is going to a wedding soon in northern alberta, and ill leave it at that. anyway, the bride remarked to a mutual friend that the standard wedding gift in alberta now is '200 per person'

how tacky. you'll get 100 dollars from us each and be thankful.

[ASP#26525]

Sorry, I'm lazy and not in the mood to read through the entire thread, but did you guys see this? Wowzers...


https://www.boredpanda.com/wedding-d...mpaign=organic

[WhiteTiger]

Originally Posted by ASP#26525

Sorry, I'm lazy and not in the mood to read through the entire thread, but did you guys see this? Wowzers...


https://www.boredpanda.com/wedding-d...mpaign=organic

The last ~15 posts or so pretty much address that story specifically...

[YYC in LAX]

$100/couple? Lots of Uncle Frank’s in here.

[Resolute 14]

Originally Posted by Locke

100,000 Dong!

My grandfather fell for that. He's so happy he can leave some money for us when he dies. We've stopped him from buying more, but we're just going to let him maintain the delusion that there's any value.

[troutman]

Originally Posted by RinkRat

I'm getting married in a couple weeks and I don't have a spreadsheet detailing the cost I should be applying per person to a function I invited and hope they come to....am I adulting wrong by setting zero expectations?

I've already been blown away by what people bought my fiancé for surprise wedding showers and such. Heck if it were up to me it would have been a quick elopement and done.

Congrats! Best wishes.

[Weitz]

Originally Posted by RinkRat

I'm getting married in a couple weeks and I don't have a spreadsheet detailing the cost I should be applying per person to a function I invited and hope they come to....am I adulting wrong by setting zero expectations?

I've already been blown away by what people bought my fiancé for surprise wedding showers and such. Heck if it were up to me it would have been a quick elopement and done.

I mean we never specifically counted how much per person our wedding was either, but it would be one quick division in excel to see the cost per person.

[CliffFletcher]

Somehow this whole affair seemed less venal and calculated when people gave gifts at weddings instead of cash.

[Qwerty]

Got married last weekend.

Average was $78 per guest, not including a couple larger outliers.

Most gave $100/person or $150-200/couple.

[Locke]

Originally Posted by RinkRat

I'm getting married in a couple weeks and I don't have a spreadsheet detailing the cost I should be applying per person to a function I invited and hope they come to....am I adulting wrong by setting zero expectations?

I've already been blown away by what people bought my fiancé for surprise wedding showers and such. Heck if it were up to me it would have been a quick elopement and done.

First of all, Congratulations!

Secondly, I presume my invitation was lost in the mail.....hmmm?

[rohara66]

If you can't attend a wedding do you still give a gift/money?

[Weitz]

Originally Posted by rohara66

If you can't attend a wedding do you still give a gift/money?

I don't. If it was a close family member or a really close friend I might though.

I had some family who couldn't make my wedding who sent gifts but that was it.