Wedding ring tattoo

[Weitz]

Originally Posted by PepsiFree

People are arguing two different things.

Yes, everyone goes into marriage with the intention of it being permanent.

No, marriage is not intrinsically/definitively permanent.

Both of these things can be true without anybody being wrong, can't they? I would hope nobody goes in dumb enough to see it as a temporary arrangement (unless for citizenship reasons) or naive enough to believe it definitely won't end.

I don't have many married friends, but of the few that are I don't know anyone who isn't aware of both of the above.

I think there are issues if you go into marriage thinking it won't last. I think thats what we are talking about here.

Why do it if you don't think it will last?

[DuffMan]

Originally Posted by OutOfTheCube

Still, there are those of us who find rings uncomfortable that do actually want to still have some sort of outward physical representation of our commitment. Not sure why it seems to bother you so much.

Well, because one time at work a lady told me to have a nice day, or merry xmas or something, which wasn't so bad, but then I saw her permanent wedding ring tattoo and for some reason I just lost my ####. I couldn't believe her nerve, so I falcon punched her.

edit - jk, it actually doesn't bother me, just think it's kind of dumb, like you're trying to prove to the world that you're going to stick together forever and ever. Just tell her that and leave it at that.

[Minnie]

Haven't read the rest of the thread (just from the few posts on this page, seems pointless to do so).

Just wanted to say, hope you find the tattoo artist that can help you figure out exactly what you want, and that you're happy with the result. If you want it, who gives a flip what anyone else says - go for it, enjoy. As for shops, the only one I've been to is the Smilin' Buddha. Kids have been to Human Kanvas, and one other I can't recall - can find out later tonight and PM you the name if you want. Daughter is planning a tattoo with Brett Schwindt at Strange World Tattoo. A couple of her friends had tattoos done there as well, when they were here from the UK, with Kristin, I think.

(<---- married 27 years today )

[stang]

Originally Posted by Violator

Best friend did this a couple years ago with his baby mama.....didnt really work out for him as the realionship is now rocky.

All Marriages will go through a rocky patch. Mine did, but we got through it. Been married 10 years now. Rocky patch doesn't mean divorce. I've never been happier with life.

[Peanut]

Originally Posted by Locke

That is a whole other line of reasoning, trust me, I'm married to someone whose first spouse passed away, you know what happens? [lThe next spouse understands.

Just because they re-marry doesnt mean the deceased first spouse is simply forgotten, you understand and move along.

Thats a far cry from a divorce where these two people might hate each other.

You got me. I thought it was clever at the time.

I actually think the bolded is exactly the same in a divorce situation. When you re-partner with someone new, the ex-spouse isn't forgotten and the new partner understands and you move along.

I have nothing to contribute to any tattoo discussion.

[Locke]

Originally Posted by Peanut

I actually think the bolded is exactly the same in a divorce situation. When you re-partner with someone new, the ex-spouse isn't forgotten and the new partner understands and you move along.

I have nothing to contribute to any tattoo discussion.

Thats very true, but I cant comment intelligently on that.

In my case my spouse's partner unfortunately passed away. Theres a sadness to that. Theres honour there.

In a divorce theres usually bad blood or bad feelings, and often people are only civil out of respect for the children. If that.

I've experienced the first in real life, but I experience the second regularly through my work.