Meeting women in Calgary

[lazypucker]

Originally Posted by MattyC

If you ever see an incredibly attractive woman with a sub-par guy, it's likely he's just the one that has the $$$$$$$$$$.

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[Jordan!]

Living in Calgary to Phoenix it's like night and day.

I'm pretty sure the ratio down here is like 3 to 1 Women to men.

Move to Phoenix? Canadian women as a whole a cold to the bone (not to generalize, but i'm definitely generalizing)

[Caged Great]

Take Interior Design classes. When I was in school, I was the only guy out of 35.

[blankall]

Originally Posted by Bouw N Arrow

Living in Calgary to Phoenix it's like night and day.

I'm pretty sure the ratio down here is like 3 to 1 Women to men.

Move to Phoenix? Canadian women as a whole a cold to the bone (not to generalize, but i'm definitely generalizing)

I've found that too. I know some of it is due to the traveler's effect, where you are more outgoing while traveling. However, I've found that women in the bars in the US are far easier to talk to and are very willing to give you their phone numbers. Not that I pursue these women, but everytime I go on vacation to the States I seem to have several women offering me numbers.

Generally, people in Canada go to bars and spend the entire night with the same people they went out with. Bars in the US are far more about mingling.

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by Tron_fdc

Join a small gym or start doing a lot of fitness classes, or find a social club to attend regularly.

(warning: shameless crossfit plug)

I've met more HOT ladies in the last 2 years doing daily crossfit than I have the last 20 years of training in the gym. The weird thing about it is the "community" aspect that a lot of affiliates push; hikes in Ktown, gym events, and "nights out" which involve alcohol. Meet girls at the gym, have all kinds of friendly banter, then go out and get loose at a bar.

If I wasn't old and married with 3 squawking children I would be furiously dating every girl I talked to at my WOD, which on a daily basis would be anywhere from a few to a few dozen. It's a goldmine.....50/50 guy to girl and everyone knows and communicates with each other when they are there.

I found girls at hot yoga were there for the "spiritual" thing, and didn't want to chat. Girls at the gym (like Goodlife) either had headphones in, or thought every guy in there was a creep for staring at their ass. It was pretty rare to have success in those environments.

So yeah, not saying specifically crossfit but find something similar like Soul Spin, or those Orange theory things I see everywhere where people are a little more interactive.

Nothing women dig more than sweaty gym bros interrupting their workouts to hit on them.

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by Bring_Back_Shantz

I'm a non married, but not single guy in my 30's so I think I can chime in on this with a few observations:

1) The city you live in is always harder to meet girls than somewhere else you go. Generally when you visit another city you are more outgoing than at home, so everyone seems nicer. Everyone says the girls in the last place they visited are nicer and better looking...oh and the beer was better

I don't agree with this. Go to the UK and then to Ireland and tell me the women (and men) aren't different, or Czech Republic and Poland. Icelanders, Danes, Swedes, and Norwegians all have noticeable differences. I think there are definitely noticeable differences in things like approachability.

[lazypucker]

If you are white, go to any Asian country and women are practically throwing themselves at you!!

[Hemi-Cuda]

Originally Posted by lazypucker

If you are white, go to any Asian country and women are practically throwing themselves at you!!

Yep. I'm decidedly average in the looks department, but spending 6 weeks in Thailand and the Philippines was like fishing with dynamite. I actually enjoyed going out to clubs there, while doing the same here usually just ends in a boring night with bad music

[To Be Quite Honest]

It all depends on your personality. If you are open, witty (even a little bit), and approachable then you can meet women anywhere. The city bus, the gardens, a pub, golf range, the gym (if you're being smiled at), meetup.com...

If you are a bit introverted then the internet is a good place. It gives you the time so show off your other qualities.

As for in person, start practicing a greeting on many women and then work up to going for coffee or a phone number. If they are going to be at a place like the Superstore Liquor Store and she's working hard, selling pop a twice the price of the grocery store, you can have a plan because you know she'll be there. After you've given a greeting, laid down the small talk, found something in common, and she is smiling, you could always give her your business card if you have one. She'll tell you if she has a boyfriend or not. Tell her you're going to the pub in a week from now to watch the Flames game. It would give her the opportunity to search you to make sure you're an a plus guy and give you the time to visit again, build some more chemistry, and then go watch the game.

You could do a rubecube and take some women's studies classes...

I had a good laugh with my mom. I spend 3 days a week with my Aunt who has Alzheimer's and I noticed that when people figure out that she's going through a tough time, having her with me is like having a puppy in the park. She said, "Oh that's a neat way to meet ladies." I just laid out that scenario to her and just how wrong it is. Use a puppy for meeting a need... okay. But you don't use your dementia suffering Aunt for personal gain... But it would make a good dark comedy skit.

You could volunteer at a dementia ward. Spend a few hours a week with them and the nurses will start to smile at you more every visit. There are a lot of very cute nurses and doctors.

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by To Be Quite Honest

You could do a rubecube and take some women's studies classes...

Hey! It's "gender studies."

[bc-chris]

Originally Posted by lazypucker

Good points about meeting women at gyms, yoga classes, sewing clubs, etc. But isn't the case always that the A's are out of your league, the B's and C's are probably taken, and you are left with only the D's, E's, and F's that you don't even want to touch?

never think a girl is 'out of your league'. i knew this girl in university who was stunning - absolutely gorgeous. she was regularly flying to toronto to do modelling shoots. when i met her she had a boy friend but eventually things went south and they broke up. by that time we were fairly good friends and chatted regularly - but that was it. we lost contact for a few years and when i next saw her she was engaged to a guy i used to play hockey with (he's a really nice guy and they are a great couple). maybe a year after that i was chatting with her mom and she asked me why i never asked her daughter out. what??? her mom went on to tell me that her daughter liked me sooo much and was just waiting for me to ask her out on a date. i had no clue - and i always assumed that she was way out of my league.

Originally Posted by lazypucker

If you are white, go to any Asian country and women are practically throwing themselves at you!!

i can't comment on asia, but i went to africa a number of years ago. one of my funnier memories was being offered a woman to take as a wife and the huge perk was she came with not one, but TWO cows! ha! ha! i was dating my wife at the time and we got engaged probably a month after i got back to canada and the running joke for quite a while was if she could round up any cows

[steveo]

Originally Posted by lazypucker

If you are white, go to any Asian country and women are practically throwing themselves at you!!

Yeah cause you guys are their 'get out of jail' card

[Sheva #7]

thanks for the replies so far, running club seems like a good idea...can anyone suggest a good one in Calgary? I think someone mentioned Running Room one...any others?

Also, in terms of volunteering, any ideas what would be a good place to do that has many women you could get to know at the same time as volunteering? thanks!

[bc-chris]

Originally Posted by Sheva #7

thanks for the replies so far, running club seems like a good idea...can anyone suggest a good one in Calgary? I think someone mentioned Running Room one...any others?

Also, in terms of volunteering, any ideas what would be a good place to do that has many women you could get to know at the same time as volunteering? thanks!

i would suggest volunteering as a door man at lulu lemon, or maybe try volunteering at a yoga studio as a water/towel boy!

seriously though, what are your interests?
animals - try the spca or another animal rescue group
helping others - maybe try volunteering at a hospital or rest home
if you go to church volunteer there
sports - try coaching or volunteering in some capacity with a team (one of my buddies coaches girls ringette (his daughter is on the team and i think he's now seeing one of the mom's of another player) and he also coaches a woman's hockey team - which is where he met his previous girl friend)

[calf]

Originally Posted by bc-chris

i would suggest volunteering as a door man at lulu lemon, or maybe try volunteering at a yoga studio as a water/towel boy!

seriously though, what are your interests?
animals - try the spca or another animal rescue group
helping others - maybe try volunteering at a hospital or rest home
if you go to church volunteer there
sports - try coaching or volunteering in some capacity with a team (one of my buddies coaches girls ringette (his daughter is on the team and i think he's now seeing one of the mom's of another player) and he also coaches a woman's hockey team - which is where he met his previous girl friend)

This guy gets it...go where your interests are. Otherwise you're that guy that is obviously just volunteering to meet women. How would that conversation go?

"What made you volunteer here?"
"I want to meet women"
You look like a creep...and any other reply is a lie.

Seriously, don't make this about the conquest. What you are doing here is keeping the same mindset, just changing the venue...like everyone else has said, focus on getting out there and meeting people. You may not meet a girl to date, but you may make friends who know someone who is available. And if you are doing something where you are being authentic, you will open more doors than by treating places you go as a meet market.

But to answer the question...SPCA maybe?

[Erick Estrada]

Originally Posted by MattyC

If you ever see an incredibly attractive woman with a sub-par guy, it's likely he's just the one that sacked-up and finally talked to her.

Ha ha ha ha. No.

[blueski]

Originally Posted by calf

This guy gets it...go where your interests are. Otherwise you're that guy that is obviously just volunteering to meet women. How would that conversation go?

"What made you volunteer here?"
"I want to meet women"
You look like a creep...and any other reply is a lie.

Seriously, don't make this about the conquest. What you are doing here is keeping the same mindset, just changing the venue...like everyone else has said, focus on getting out there and meeting people. You may not meet a girl to date, but you may make friends who know someone who is available. And if you are doing something where you are being authentic, you will open more doors than by treating places you go as a meet market.

But to answer the question...SPCA maybe?

As soon as you get activities going on that really interest you, guess what? You become more interesting too. You start to have a life and this ups your game. You become less needy and much more attractive to others.

Anyhow, this forum has delivered on the "How to meet women in Calgary" question. It is high time for the OP to start reporting on attempts, results, conquests and so forth. I'm not sure if pics would be appropriate, but please don't be tight with details.

[troutman]

Until Sunday, all the women are at the Calgary International Film Festival, and the restaurants that surround the theaters.

[Ozy_Flame]

I've found HR floors of big companies to be great places to book meetings.

[blankall]

Originally Posted by MattyC

Actually, a lot of A's remain untaken because us guys are too afraid to talk to them.

If you ever see an incredibly attractive woman with a sub-par guy, it's likely he's just the one that sacked-up and finally talked to her.

I'll agree with the others and say that's a myth. Most ultra attractive girls get hit on constantly. Particularly in any situation involving alcohol.

Women actually will look beyond looks and many consider success (not just financial) above looks.