Places to travel after a breakup

[Jordan!]

Originally Posted by valo403

Honestly dude, stop feeling sorry for yourself. I've been where you are, did the whole 'I'm so bummed' thing, and when I wised up and stopped feeling sorry for myself things got way better than they ever were before.

I don't think I feel sorry for myself.. It's more like a general frustration about the situation. The whole travel thing was just something that I'd probably want to do just as a way to start anew.

I don't need to go anywhere. I have an awesome job, living in a great place with epic weather, one of my hockey teams is playing amazing and 90% won't be going anywhere. Life as a whole is pretty damn good!

[enthused]

Originally Posted by Bouw N Arrow

I've been as flexible as any guy could've been. .

All that yoga has really paid off for you, hey?

[FastFelony]

Originally Posted by valo403

Honestly dude, stop feeling sorry for yourself. I've been where you are, did the whole 'I'm so bummed' thing, and when I wised up and stopped feeling sorry for myself things got way better than they ever were before.

Give him a break!! Geez lol. We have all been there. I am sure things didn't get better for you instantly.

[FastFelony]

Originally Posted by Bouw N Arrow

Who knows these days... I don't think so though. Just how she is, she is truly not a two timing type of person. But who knows.

You're right about her not knowing what she wants.. at 27 you should kind of know that, at least I do.

I'm not a student, I'm a full time employee at a healthcare company here in IT and have my feet on very stable ground.

I think her parents/family are paying her way which is why she is feeling the heat but her grades would've suffered regardless.

I've been as flexible as any guy could've been. She said that the reason she ended things before is because she hasn't felt this way about a guy before and she was scared about that which distracted her.

Who knows.. At this point I just hope things work out, if not? Maybe a trip to San Diego or something and move on. I kind of feel sorry for this girl that she's basically a slave to other people in her life when I just want to compliment her life.

From what it seems, you guys are not on the same page then. You are a grounded guy in terms of your career. She is still in school. You seem to know what you want. She doesn't. You can make your own decisions. Hers are influenced by her parents.

I don't know if she is two timing ...

YOU want to compliment her life, but what SHE wants... we don't know..

and ... I absolutely hate when I hear people say "I broke up or backed out because I had "special feelings" for you, or that "I never felt that way before" ... so what do you do ... you dump the person, because you had something special with them. That makes a lot of sense. I don't want to generalize.. I guess in some situations people are terrified of the possibility of committment... but using that reason for a break up... BS.

[Bill Bumface]

Originally Posted by Bouw N Arrow

We're both 27, she's a big girl and that maybe it's time to think of herself and not just what mom and dad tell her.

Well there's your problem.

[valo403]

Originally Posted by Bouw N Arrow

I don't think I feel sorry for myself.. It's more like a general frustration about the situation. The whole travel thing was just something that I'd probably want to do just as a way to start anew.

I don't need to go anywhere. I have an awesome job, living in a great place with epic weather, one of my hockey teams is playing amazing and 90% won't be going anywhere. Life as a whole is pretty damn good!

Well if life is good don't let something that you really can't control pull you down or hold you back from making the most of it. It seems to me that this girl is going to keep putting you in a spot where things are uncertain, and if that's an issue I'd suggest walking away. It doesn't mean you have to kill any chance of things working, but don't get caught in a position where you're at the mercy of her ability to get a handle on her life.

[Bring_Back_Shantz]

Jordon, the more you talk about this chick, the more I'm sure this chick just wants out and just doesn't want to say so.

She broke up with you once because she felt too strongly about you?
Big time cop out. Every girl I've ever broken up with, or had break up with me is precisely becasue one of us didn't feel strongly about the other. Saying I'm scared because I like you too much is another way of saying "It's not you, it's me" which we all know is true exactly 0% of the time.

Now she tells you "I might dump you next week because my family will probably tell me to"? Yeah, that's another great cop out.

My advice?
Start planning that trip, casue this relationship is already over.

[FastFelony]

If you want to go for a vacation, go for the sake of vacation. If you like being where you are and many other things in your life seem to be positive, I would find something exciting to do without paying big bucks.

[Cowboy89]

Originally Posted by Montana Moe

New Orleans is always the answer. People lose their minds there, it's like Vegas with culture, tradition, music, and quality local grub.

THIS!!

I went to New Orleans and Las Vegas in the same week at the end of October/early November and hands down New Orleans was the best. You'll spend a small fraction of the money and have 3 times the fun. On Bourbon Street you can get a 30oz beer for $4.00 and walk down the street and enjoy the sights , no open booze restrictions. I also went to a Saints game, tickets were expensive but the atmosphere was the best NFL experience I have had to date (better than University of Phoenix Stadium, Qwest Field, and San Diego anyway). In addition to my uncultured vices, there was great live music at every corner and tonnes of history to explore during the daylight hours. Also if you feel you just have to gamble, Harrah's has a large casino just off of Bourbon Street downtown.

[Jordan!]

Originally Posted by FastFelony

If you want to go for a vacation, go for the sake of vacation. If you like being where you are and many other things in your life seem to be positive, I would find something exciting to do without paying big bucks.

Yeah for sure.. it wouldn't be to get over her.. just to refresh.. hit the ole F5 on life and start moving my focus to new things.

Thanks to all again. CP is great

[Jordan!]

Originally Posted by valo403

Well if life is good don't let something that you really can't control pull you down or hold you back from making the most of it. It seems to me that this girl is going to keep putting you in a spot where things are uncertain, and if that's an issue I'd suggest walking away. It doesn't mean you have to kill any chance of things working, but don't get caught in a position where you're at the mercy of her ability to get a handle on her life.

This is really where I'm at here.. It's only been a couple of days since Saturday and since then things have proceeded normally but I'll see how things go over the weekend. If the uncertainty continues I'll be the one taking a walk.

[Jordan!]

That was before.. before she pleaded for a second chance about how she could never make that mistake again. She wrote a freaking novel asking me for a 2nd chance which is why i'm so frustrated that she's even worried that things may need to end when she sees her family.

I'm 90% sure it's because i'm a Whitey

[Bring_Back_Shantz]

Originally Posted by fotze

She didn't really use the "i feel too strongly, so lets break up" line did she?

Has anyone in the history of all life in the universe ever broke up with someone because they 'liked them too much'? Ya thats how animals work? Hell, thats not how anything works. Yes electron, its me proton, I am soo attracted to you I am going to start repelling. Yes fatty, its me, earth, our masses are so attractive that I am goin to fling you off the planet.

To be fair, I've turned tail and ran from girls that I was too attracted to.....you know, gravitationally.

Bazinga!

[troutman]

• Barney Rubble: Hey there Lane, I know this is a little awkward me being a cartoon and all, I was just wondering how you'd feel if I took out Beth

[GoFlamesGo89]

There are too many red flags here to ignore.

One important long-term consideration is career-path-- Academics are notoriously bad at maintaining relationships based on geography, so if she has any plans to work in academia, there is very little chance her job will be in the same place she is studying. Since it sounds like you're pretty established and settled, even if things work out past this cali trip of hers, its just the beginning.

It sounds to me like she is very confused-- totally stereotyping, but sounds like she has the kind of parents who want to her to marry a nice Asian doctor or lawyer, and having some IT white guy boyfriend doesn't cut it. So as much as she may want the relationship, the external factors are likely strong, and unless she deals with that, you're going to be caught up in her internal / family dramas for a while.

[Mad Mel]

Originally Posted by Bouw N Arrow

Yeah for sure.. it wouldn't be to get over her.. just to refresh.. hit the ole F5 on life and start moving my focus to new things.

Oh hell, go big or go home. Hit ctrl-alt-delete twice and try men to see if it works out better.

I swear to god my life would have been a lot simpler if I didn't dig chicks...

[Prototype]

NSFW
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[Weiser Wonder]

I think there's a very serious chance another guy is in the picture. She sounds like she's finding excuses not to get more serious with you, which makes another guy more likely. She's hot and cold with her feelings for you, which is indicative of an outside force (another guy) affecting those feelings. If she was dumped recently, it's all but a guarantee.

It's possible that she's really family and school oriented and her excuses are entirely legitimate, however. I've met girls like that.

[DuffMan]

I think she is going to kick you to the curb, so for your own self esteem you should do it first.

So, I'd suggest you stick your **** in her *** and then wipe it on her ********. When you're done doing that, yell, **** *** *****, it's over between us and walk out.

You'll feel better, trust me.

[CaptainCrunch]

Its pretty sad that I figured out all of the edited words and completely agreed with your methods.