Would you ever pay for a dating service? If so, how much?

[kermitology]

Originally Posted by troutman

Never underestimate the Cowboy Hat.

I don't have the head for a cowboy hat. Thusly I will stick to the suit. But I'm hoping I won't have to go trolling for women anymore.

[ok, ok,....I get it]

Originally Posted by SteveToms

Didn't we have a similar discussion a few weeks ago? Or was I just drunk?

I wish I was not married, because that is a great pickup line!

[Dion]

Originally Posted by Frankster

Spend some more time alone (it's been what 6-7 weeks since your break-up). Learn who you really are...learn to be happy with yourself. Only then will you be in a position to start looking for a successful long term relationship.

I think you hit the nail on the head. Become more independant and learn to be become comfrotable with your aloneness. And most of all stop trying so hard by forcing the issue. The right will come along in time.

[REDVAN]

Everyone talking about finding yourself, and learning who you are, all that... in my personal experience, I did so by meeting a ton of girls from plentyoffish (and through friends of friends).

I learnt slowly what I like, what I dislike, and it helped me realize who I was/am. I didn't rush into anything, and then I finally met a good girl online (after a year of being single, and probably going out with 30 different random girls).

There's nothing wrong with MissKat playing the field while she finds her groove again. I'd recomend it, rather than sit at home and rack her brain over being single. Some people are singletons, and others are relationship people. If you're a relationship person, you need someone to keep your interest, even if just for a day or two.

P.S. SERIOUSLY try plentyoffish.com for a bit. It's FREE, and it worked for me. Yes there are lots of creeps, but eventually you'll find someone good, or you'll find them from real life and not the site. But you can use it to meet people in the meantime!

[GrrlGoalie33]

Originally Posted by REDVAN

Everyone talking about finding yourself, and learning who you are, all that... in my personal experience, I did so by meeting a ton of girls from plentyoffish (and through friends of friends).

I learnt slowly what I like, what I dislike, and it helped me realize who I was/am. I didn't rush into anything, and then I finally met a good girl online (after a year of being single, and probably going out with 30 different random girls).

There's nothing wrong with MissKat playing the field while she finds her groove again. I'd recomend it, rather than sit at home and rack her brain over being single. Some people are singletons, and others are relationship people. If you're a relationship person, you need someone to keep your interest, even if just for a day or two.

P.S. SERIOUSLY try plentyoffish.com for a bit. It's FREE, and it worked for me. Yes there are lots of creeps, but eventually you'll find someone good, or you'll find them from real life and not the site. But you can use it to meet people in the meantime!

But you're still talking about taking time to find out who you were, and not looking to start into another long term relationship again.

While MissKat hasn't come right out and said that she wants to get into another LTR, it can be assumed this is what she is looking for by considering paying a lot of money for a dating service...

The key in all of it, is one has to be happy with themselves before they can be happy with someone else.

[REDVAN]

Originally Posted by Frankster

But you're still talking about taking time to find out who you were, and not looking to start into another long term relationship again.

While MissKat hasn't come right out and said that she wants to get into another LTR, it can be assumed this is what she is looking for by considering paying a lot of money for a dating service...

The key in all of it, is one has to be happy with themselves before they can be happy with someone else.

I think my advice applies to someone ready for another LTR- why pay for something you can get for free?

[troutman]

If a girl won't pay for a dating service, what are the chances of her making me her kept man?

[Burninator]

Well chances are you won't meet any cheap skates with that service.

[Yeah_Baby]

Originally Posted by REDVAN

Everyone talking about finding yourself, and learning who you are, all that... in my personal experience, I did so by meeting a ton of girls from plentyoffish (and through friends of friends).

I learnt slowly what I like, what I dislike, and it helped me realize who I was/am. I didn't rush into anything, and then I finally met a good girl online (after a year of being single, and probably going out with 30 different random girls).

There's nothing wrong with MissKat playing the field while she finds her groove again. I'd recomend it, rather than sit at home and rack her brain over being single. Some people are singletons, and others are relationship people. If you're a relationship person, you need someone to keep your interest, even if just for a day or two.

P.S. SERIOUSLY try plentyoffish.com for a bit. It's FREE, and it worked for me. Yes there are lots of creeps, but eventually you'll find someone good, or you'll find them from real life and not the site. But you can use it to meet people in the meantime!

I'm not saying stay and home and meditate. Or go on a walkabout in down below until you find yourself. My point wasn't to not go out and not casually date or meet people. I merely meant that I have met people (not saying MissKat falls into this category) that seem to jump from relationship to relationship. They feel they need another partner to make them feel complete. I think you need to feel complete as an individual first.

[BlackEleven]

Dating services are for losers.

You want a date and see what she looks like first? try this.

1)Write on the back of 10 of your business cards " I'm very shy but I think your very pretty,call me if your interested"

2)Go to Safeway,Sobeys..etc and find your dream ladies (check for rings)

3)Walk up and say "hi, i'm leaving my card in your cart"

Sound silly and crazy? I did this on a bet with a buddy and got 3 calls out of 7 cards (one call was 15 minutes later) and I dated 2 of the girls.

I'm guessing this approach has a lot more to do with what happens to be on the front of the card. Something like "surgeon" would probably help.

[pepper24]

It sounds like this business is catering to the wealthy downtown worker that doesn't have time to find a date. Not a bad business idea.

[Peanut]

Originally Posted by BlackEleven

I'm guessing this approach has a lot more to do with what happens to be on the front of the card. Something like "surgeon" would probably help.

Haha. That is probably a good point.

[MissKat]

Originally Posted by Frankster

So I just read the other thread that was linked here...

MissKat, I can't believe you wouldn't consider paying $20/month for a place like eHarmony, but you are considering paying $160/month for It's Just Lunch.

Just gonna call it like I see it here, but I think you are so wrapped up in trying to find a relationship, that you aren't going to be happy.

Spend some more time alone (it's been what 6-7 weeks since your break-up). Learn who you really are...learn to be happy with yourself. Only then will you be in a position to start looking for a successful long term relationship.

No, no I wasnt considering paying $160/mo. for their service, hell no! I found out about itsjustlunch.com, and was interested at first, but once I found the prices, I immediately lost my interest, all of it.

I have signed up for eharmony about 2 months ago, but just awaiting for a coupon to arrive in my inbox, for the 3 months at a discounted rate. Im not willing to pay their full price (whatever it is).

[mikey_the_redneck]

Originally Posted by fotze

But is she one of those girls that somehow has "stalkers" even though no one has ever seen them and it is likely she is just making it up. Those same girls ae the ones who wouldn't participate is Phys Ed in junior high school due to an array of reasons.

Haha.....I know a few of those types. They love the attention and drama that comes with their imaginary stalker.

[MissKat]

Originally Posted by Frankster

While MissKat hasn't come right out and said that she wants to get into another LTR, it can be assumed this is what she is looking for by considering paying a lot of money for a dating service...

The key in all of it, is one has to be happy with themselves before they can be happy with someone else.

You are right on that, I do eventually want to get into another LTR, but right now I just want to meet some new people and find happiness again. Im a very independant person, but just that my most recent relationship, it was a life changing experience because Ive never been in a relationship that reached that deep before. It was on a whole other level beyond anything else ive been through. Way beyond anything else. Its been almost 2 months now, and Im still not the same person that I was before.

Even though im not over him yet, about 2.5 weeks ago Ive "just" started to. I have been seeing a physchologist as well, had my 2nd appointment yesterday. So far its going well and im optimistic about it.

[Yeah_Baby]

Originally Posted by MissKat

You are right on that, I do eventually want to get into another LTR,

Just make sure there are more then 10 games left in the season. Otherwise you won't get cap relief.

[troutman]

Originally Posted by MissKat

You are right on that, I do eventually want to get into another LTR, but right now I just want to meet some new people and find happiness again. Im a very independant person, but just that my most recent relationship, it was a life changing experience because Ive never been in a relationship that reached that deep before. It was on a whole other level beyond anything else ive been through. Way beyond anything else. Its been almost 2 months now, and Im still not the same person that I was before.

Even though im not over him yet, about 2.5 weeks ago Ive "just" started to. I have been seeing a physchologist as well, had my 2nd appointment yesterday. So far its going well and im optimistic about it.

The first cut is the deepest.

After that, it gets much easier.

[MissKat]

Haha the girl who I talked to called me today and told me that the $800 for 6 months promo is over and its back to up $1995 for 12 months lol.

[CaptainCrunch]

Originally Posted by MissKat

Haha the girl who I talked to called me today and told me that the $800 for 6 months promo is over and its back to up $1995 for 12 months lol.

Wow, unless they're setting you up with a totally rich sugar daddy who has no self control over his spending its a waste of money.

[Wookie]

I tired LL and Eh, both sucked.

Email is stupid, texting is stupid! (IMO)

You need to talk to someone quickly to get a feel for it or it fizzles.
All the eH chicks came across as desperately wanting to get married. All the LL chicks came across as wanting a Rich Dude.

All the people I meet in person came across as wanting to meet a person. Which is normal.