Mating Season Over - or on going

[T@T]

Originally Posted by Super-Rye

The fiance is due at the end of June with our first. Just found out it's a baby girl. Planning on going to get snipped not long after she's born. 1 is most certainly enough. :-)

Don't do that,(at least not right away) you just might want your little girl to have a baby brother.

[Super-Rye]

Originally Posted by T@T

Don't do that,(at least not right away) you just might want your little girl to have a baby brother.

But if there's two of them then there will be as many of them as there is us! Plus they will have youth on their side.

Seriously though good advice. Wouldn't want to reverse a snipping and have to get it again, but I feel like after 6 months I'll be ready to never have kids again. :-P

[Northendzone]

Originally Posted by N-E-B

Congrats to all of you who are expecting!

And for those of you like myself who are too immature/irresponsible/poor/young to have children...

Don't be silly. Wrap your willy.

also hard to get in the family way if you are sticking to the back door!!!

[J pold]

This thread gives me anxiety.

[FlamesAddiction]

For a long time, my wife and I wanted to have a child. She had 2 difficult miscarriages and our old doctor said that it was unlikely that she would ever have a child. I'm not sure what was causing it, but the embryo kept forming outside of the area it was supposed to. To prevent any more miscarriages, she just stayed on birth control for a long time. We just reigned ourselves to never having children.

When we went on holidays, she left her pills and ended up getting knocked up and the ultra-sound is showing the baby right where it should be. I am really happy about it, but I am also freaked out. I will be a little older than the average father (I will be 39 when the baby is born), and it is going to be a huge lifestyle change.

I didn't want to say anything because part of me is still expecting a complication and we haven't told our friends or families yet, but if all goes well, we will have a baby in September.

[RedMileDJ]

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[OutOfTheCube]

Originally Posted by RedMileDJ

Sounds like most of you found out the sex of the baby before it was born. What's the motivation behind that? For both of my kids (boy & girl) we left it to a surprise. We didn't know until they were born.

We are both the youngest in our families -- our brothers/sisters all have kids that are very young (1-2 years old), a mix of boys and girls. Finding out he is a boy let us pillage all of the hand-me-down clothes from the nephews and get very prepared. We are basically ready for this kid to arrive today and he's still a month out.

[bizaro86]

Originally Posted by MacDaddy77

just keep in mind, theory exists there is an early competitive advantage to being born during first 1/4 or the year

http://business.time.com/2012/10/26/...o-be-the-boss/

Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell is a good book on this.

Or, as Gladwell puts it in Outliers,”If you make a decision about who is good and who is not good at an early age; if you separate the ‘talented’ from the ‘untalented’; and if you provide the ‘talented’ with a superior experience, then you’re going to end up giving a huge advantage to that small group of people born closest to the cutoff date.”

All of which raises the question: If being born in June and July augurs poorly for your chances of landing in the corner office, what birth months are most likely to set you up for life as a big cheese? The answer suggests there’s something to the idea that the relative-age effect influences the ranks of CEOs. Four of the five months with the highest percentage of CEOs are within three months of at least some possible academic cut-off date from September 1 through December 31—meaning children born in those months have a higher probability of being among the oldest in their class. The top 5 CEO-producing months are: March (12.53%), April (10.67%), November (10.67%), January (10.13%), October (9.87%).


for Calgary schools the cutoff date for kindergarten and school is March 2. born March 1st or earlier and you're the youngest in class born March 2 you're the oldest

http://www.cbe.ab.ca/registration/re...-Grade-9.aspx#

You don't have to go to kindergarten the first year you're eligible. I was a Feb birthday, and went the second year I was eligible (so when I would have gone if I was born March 12th). I definitely feel that was an advantage, and plan to do the same for my son, who was born end of Feb last year. (1st birthday party this weekend!)

[Hanni]

Originally Posted by RedMileDJ

Sounds like most of you found out the sex of the baby before it was born. What's the motivation behind that? For both of my kids (boy & girl) we left it to a surprise. We didn't know until they were born.

Originally Posted by OutOfTheCube

We are both the youngest in our families -- our brothers/sisters all have kids that are very young (1-2 years old), a mix of boys and girls. Finding out he is a boy let us pillage all of the hand-me-down clothes from the nephews and get very prepared. We are basically ready for this kid to arrive today and he's still a month out.

Ours is 3 weeks old and I'll echo this, it's really about being able to prepare. I know you can get lots of gender neutral stuff for newborns but being able to decorate, get clothes/hand me downs, and narrow names down by gender was our reasoning. We're kind of impatient as well and given the option it was an easy decision for us.

I do find it amazing how many have such strong opinions about finding out the sex though, we got a few "how could you ruin the greatest surprise of your life" attitudes from some people.

[2ArmBands]

Originally Posted by RedMileDJ

Sounds like most of you found out the sex of the baby before it was born. What's the motivation behind that? For both of my kids (boy & girl) we left it to a surprise. We didn't know until they were born.

We did the same. I think it kept our friends and family a lot more engaged in the anticipation and sure created a lot of side bets, let alone the excitement for myself and my wife.

With that being said I can definitely understand why people want to know the sex of the baby. It was hard not to ask for that information at the ultrasounds.

[Muta]

Originally Posted by T@T

Man that's tough...try a sheep, cow or a horse?

Quit daydreaming.

[FireFly]

For me, I was convinced this baby is a boy although lately I'm convinced it's a girl. I don't want to be calling it a she for the next 6 months only to find out it's a he. My mother was told my sister was going to be a boy and she had to mourn the boy she didn't have in order to prepare for the girl she did have.

[terminator]

Originally Posted by RedMileDJ

Sounds like most of you found out the sex of the baby before it was born. What's the motivation behind that? For both of my kids (boy & girl) we left it to a surprise. We didn't know until they were born.

Simple, the two of us wanted to be better prepared. We wanted to buy the right colors and outfits not just unisex stuff.

[ToraToraTora]

Originally Posted by RedMileDJ

Sounds like most of you found out the sex of the baby before it was born. What's the motivation behind that? For both of my kids (boy & girl) we left it to a surprise. We didn't know until they were born.

We don't know right now. It is the first, but I would probably be more wanting to find out ahead of time for any future children.

[Tron_fdc]

Originally Posted by FlamesAddiction

For a long time, my wife and I wanted to have a child. She had 2 difficult miscarriages and our old doctor said that it was unlikely that she would ever have a child. I'm not sure what was causing it, but the embryo kept forming outside of the area it was supposed to. To prevent any more miscarriages, she just stayed on birth control for a long time. We just reigned ourselves to never having children.

When we went on holidays, she left her pills and ended up getting knocked up and the ultra-sound is showing the baby right where it should be. I am really happy about it, but I am also freaked out. I will be a little older than the average father (I will be 39 when the baby is born), and it is going to be a huge lifestyle change.

I didn't want to say anything because part of me is still expecting a complication and we haven't told our friends or families yet, but if all goes well, we will have a baby in September.

Don't worry about it. I'm the same age, and it's an easy transition.

My wife was the same, she had multiple miscarriages with her ex, and it took a number of years before they could have their son (now my step son). When we first got together she told me about it, and we both figured there was no way we were going to have kids. No big deal, I was 36 at the time and wasn't too concerned about having babies.

6 months later, boom. She's pregnant. Daughter #1 arrives 15 months into our relationship. Oops.

The doctor then told us that the chances of getting pregnant again were extremely slim when breast feeding daughter #1, and when you factor in her age and past history it wasn't going to happen. Well, that was a lie.

Boom. Daughter #2 born 15 months after #1. As my old man said at the time (he's a rancher) "When I can't get my cattle pregnant you change the bull". Thanks dad.

Embrace it man, it's super fun. I'm a WAY better dad at 39 than I ever would have been at 21, plus I have a lot more money. I find myself looking around all the time playing "guess the parent age" and it's more common than you think.

[OutOfTheCube]

Originally Posted by Hanni

I do find it amazing how many have such strong opinions about finding out the sex though, we got a few "how could you ruin the greatest surprise of your life" attitudes from some people.

This attitude is so dumb and kind of bugs me. Is it THAT big of a surprise? Like, it's one of two options. Also, it was just as big of a surprise learning about it at the ultrasounds then it would be at birth, but allows us the opportunity to get better prepared.

We've also been calling him by his name for like 4 months now.

[TheGrimm]

We had our first last April, it's a wild ride, enjoy it! Our little girl is absolutely nutty already, loves to make faces and put on a show to get a laugh. It's been so much fun we are considering adding another already!

That said, the first 3 months she was colic and cried for hours and hours every evening, that wasn't so much fun...

[2ArmBands]

Originally Posted by OutOfTheCube

This attitude is so dumb and kind of bugs me. Is it THAT big of a surprise? Like, it's one of two options. Also, it was just as big of a surprise learning about it at the ultrasounds then it would be at birth, but allows us the opportunity to get better prepared.

We've also been calling him by his name for like 4 months now.

It depends if you want the tech to tell you that information or find out yourself. The moment the doctor handed me my child and I got to announce the sex to my wife was one of the greatest moments of the entire process. But again... It's personal preference.

[tvp2003]

We weren't concerned about baby room prep and "buying the right color clothes", so we kept it a surprise. Apparently the "endorphins" of finding out the gender after labour are also good for mom, so that was a bonus. I can understand why people find out though -- I don't think there is a right or wrong answer.

We were also told that by not finding out the gender in advance, we wouldn't (mentally) give the baby a "personality" because we wouldn't know if it was a boy or a girl. Not sure how much truth there is to that but I would argue about the baby's name -- we had names picked out (one for each gender) but when baby arrived we both agreed that it was not the right name and ended up picking something completely different.

[calf]

We found out the gender...I'll echo that it's more for planning in advance, getting some of the shopping done before hand (and there is very little stuff out there that's gender neutral), etc.



As for the surprise element...it's still a surprise, we just found out 5 months earlier.