Dealing with Jealousy/Insecurity

[1stLand]

Dump the **tch.

[DuffMan]

pics of gf?

[Coach]

Yeah i would say cut her loose too. Maybe try to get to the root of the problem, but there's no guarantee that getting that out will make it better, and may actually make it worse.

Either way, you're just going to have to keep proving to her why she should trust you, and it's just not time well spent. It gets really tiresome having to explain every little detail about what you do/whatyousay/whay you meant when you said that/ wait....is this different from any other girl? :P

Seriously though, probably best to end it.

[pylon]

I have been through a lot of women in my life, and I can tell you that a jealous/suspicious woman will ruin your life. Period. Explanation Point.

Run. Cut your losses, whatever you have to do. Even if it costs you some money now. Even if she gives the best BJ's on the face of the earth, nothing is worth sacrificing your freedom to appease to someone who is mentally imbalanced, because one day the BJ's will stop. And then you will be looking ahead to years and years of misery.

[pylon]

To add. The girl I am dating now, suggests pron I should watch that she finds hot.

That is more normal / acceptable in this day and age, than what you managed to fall into.

[DownhillGoat]

Originally Posted by TheyCallMeBruce

If that fails, start downloading animals having sex

You mean with people, right?

[flamesfever]

A method which is used in cases of mental illness, is the "I method". For example, "I feel extremely annoyed and upset when you accuse me of looking with lust at other girls, and I need you to stop trying to lay guilt on me, and give me some space. This method addresses your concerns, and reduces her inclination to attack you, as you can't help how you feel.

[Flabbibulin]

Plenty of girls watch porn with their husbands/boyfriend, but anyone been with a girl that watched it by herself?? That would be something.

[comrade]

Originally Posted by kunkstyle

You mean with people, right?

Does that make it bettter?

[Traditional_Ale]

She is projecting the worst of herself onto you, for no valid reason other than she knows what she is capable of and assumes you would do the same.

Run for your life.

[Street Pharmacist]

Originally Posted by Flabbibulin

Plenty of girls watch porn with their husbands/boyfriend, but anyone been with a girl that watched it by herself?? That would be something.

Yes

[pylon]

Originally Posted by Street Pharmacist

Yes

x 2.

[lazypucker]

I am suggesting a different approach:

Just keep upping the ante with what you are doing and see how mad she will get. I think it will make good entertainment...

[Daradon]

Originally Posted by Flabbibulin

Plenty of girls watch porn with their husbands/boyfriend, but anyone been with a girl that watched it by herself?? That would be something.

A dated one who had a bit of a fetish with it. She'd often send me nude pics off the web of women she found attractive.

All the girls that I have known that liked porn (enough to watch it by themselves for more than just curiosity) have been bisexual though. I guess they get even more out of it than I do, haha!

In some ways, I really really miss that girl...

With the five serious relationships I've had I had one that outright hated porn, saw it as damaging socially and personally, one that didn't care for it, but really had no bad feelings towards it, one that was open to watching with me to spice things up, one that liked it and occasionally watched it on her own as well as with me, and one that REALLY liked it, as much as many guys do.

I guess that covers the gamut.

[pylon]

Originally Posted by Daradon

A dated one who had a bit of a fetish with it. She'd often send me nude pics off the web of women she found attractive.

All the girls that I have known that liked porn (enough to watch it by themselves for more than just curiosity) have been bisexual though. I guess they get even more out of it than I do, haha!

In some ways, I really really miss that girl...

With the five serious relationships I've had I had one that outright hated porn, saw it as damaging socially and personally, one that didn't care for it, but really had no bad feelings towards it, one that was open to watching with me to spice things up, one that liked it and occasionally watched it on her own as well as with me, and one that REALLY liked it, as much as many guys do.

I guess that covers the gamut.

I am of the opinion all women are bi-sexual to a certain degree. I have yet to meet a woman that doesn't get turned on by girl on girl porn. I have been with two straight women that eventually tried girl on girl because of all the lesbo porn I made them watch. Women are just a sexual to women as they are to most men. Women will point out how sexy/hot another woman looks, or how nice she smells etc. Women are sexy to both sexes. Straight men just aren't programmed that way for some reason.

[DuffMan]

could ffp204 be a girl? now, that's hot.

[BigBrodieFan]

Sounds like she is pretty young, or maybe she was raised Catholic or in a puritan sort of religion where sex is looked upon as dirty. If I were you, I'd ask her to join you in watching a good porn movie (I assume you're having sex), and see what she thinks. If she is totally close minded about it, get rid of her. Life is way too short to have a partner who is close minded when it comes to new ways to have sex.

If I found my hubby watching porn, I wouldn't be upset that he was watching it, but more upset that he didn't ask me to join him. See my point? It won't hurt to ask. It's the perfect time in fact. You don't want to be living with or married to someone who is going to inflict guilt upon you for normal sexual desires. That's no way to live, not healthy for you or her.

Good luck!

[Daradon]

Originally Posted by pylon

I am of the opinion all women are bi-sexual to a certain degree. I have yet to meet a woman that doesn't get turned on by girl on girl porn. I have been with two straight women that eventually tried girl on girl because of all the lesbo porn I made them watch. Women are just a sexual to women as they are to most men. Women will point out how sexy/hot another woman looks, or how nice she smells etc. Women are sexy to both sexes. Straight men just aren't programmed that way for some reason.

I've met a few, though it's often tied to strict religious beliefs. Actually, that's not entirely true, I met a few that just didn't.

I will agree it's definitely more of a spectrum than guys though, which are usually yay or nay on the issue.

[handgroen]

that batch won't watch the katy perry movie with you?
can't be too hard to ditch the beard.

Spoiler!

[octothorp]

Some women (and guys too, for that matter) are going to be more or less insecure than others, and I don't think there's necessarily anything wrong with someone who's insecure. It's that in your girlfriend's case, the insecurity manifests itself in screaming and accusations. I'd say that dealing with issues by escalating conflict is an extreme warning sign; I've been in that sort of relationship where I (very much a low-conflict personality) was dating someone who felt that conflict was the natural way of dealing with things. I ended up in the business of appeasement on a daily basis, and I was generally miserable. Once I got out of the relationship, I could only shake my head that I put up with it for as long as I did.

If this is a woman who's generally insecure but usually deals with it well, but for whatever reason reached her breaking point over Katy Perry, that's one thing; but if this is typically how she deals with issues in your relationship and you feel like you're constantly walking on eggshells, then it's a serious problem and a situation that I'd try to get out of.