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Originally posted by MrMastodonFarm@Feb 24 2005, 07:01 PM
This guy who likes my gf, continues to call her, usually late at night before she goes to bed, he has called when I've been over. She doesn't see the big deal, he seems like a nice guy she says but he just doesn't get it. Although this isn't technically her fault, I still think she should tell him to f off though.
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I never saw the point of the following two things:
a)
going after a girl that had a boyfriend - I'm not saying I've never liked a girl that had a boyfriend... I'm king of falling for a girl only later to find out she's taken :angry: I mean what do you expect to happen, if you go after her? "Oh I'm just gonna leave this guy I made a commitment to, and go out with you"? If it where that easy wouldn't you question how stable your relationship would then be?
b)
continuing after a girl that said "no" - now I don't pretend to have a superhuman understanding of the English language (mind you I do think I have an above average understanding of it) but the phrase "no" is fairly simple one that even babies can understand. If she ain't interested, then move on. Why dwell on it? Why keep calling, why keep hanging around, why stay super close (unless you had that king of friendship before)? Why not swollow your pride, and erase the "relationship slate"?
now I'm not saying that you have to immediately stop liking the girl. Being told "no" happens to the best of us (hell, believe it or not it even happened to me recently

) but creation of space is a good thing. Calling every night? I dunno....
MMM what was the friendship like
before the other guy asked her out? Were they good friends, or causually meet and then his feelings developed?
(don't answer here though, ask yourself; this is a flippin' messageboard for cripes sakes)
if it's good friends, worry not, as long as she has a good head on her shoulders you guys will be fine.
if it's asked early on in the friendship, then I'd definately say strong words are in order (maybe no "F" words but strong nonetheless)