Priorities - And How They Suck

[Barnes]

Originally Posted by fotze

I missed the girlfriend posting part of this thread I guess, too funny.

At least she signed up. My wife just used my account.

[WesternCanadaKing]

Originally Posted by idnami

I am making a pot of chicken soup
Plus I am hot

She's a keeper!

[4X4]

Harsh. Trad's worlds are colliding.You have no idea of the magnitude of this thing. If idnami is allowed to infiltrate this world, then Trad as you know him, ceases to exist. You see, right now we have Relationship Trad, but there is also Independent Trad. That's the Trad you know, the Trad you post with - movie Trad, coffee shop Trad, liar Trad, bawdy Trad. I don't know about you, but I love that Trad. But he's dying. If Relationship Trad logs on to CP, he will kill Independent Trad. A Trad divided against himself cannot stand!!

[evilcougar]

Well, i was going to post my woes of foregoing bday celebrations (new years) for the last 10 years of my life due to a gig that pays alot of money, but, it seems all bases have been covered.
I say, do what makes you happy, and if she loves you, she'll understand, but don't go overboard with stuff like that, cuz she'll end up angry.
Just my opinion of course...

[GreenTeaFrapp]

Originally Posted by idnami

For anyone who is interested the fair was super amazing and beautiful. A great and memorable time was had.
Trad could tell you this himself but he is still in the hospital coming out of the anesthetic. I am making a pot of chicken soup for my poor darling who cannot even laugh for at least a week.
That is home made chicken soup and a week of being pampered and waited on by me.
Plus I am hot, in case you all were wondering.
Those of you who have sense are envious!

[missdpuck]

I would've told him to do the gig. Unlkike most women I don't find anniversaries etc that important, or necessary to celebrate on that day.

[Berger_4_]

Oh god I hope this breaks down into a big missdpuck vs. idnami fight. Actually, I'd find it hilarious to watch all the female CPers get into a big flame war with each other!

[missdpuck]

Originally Posted by Berger_4_

Oh god I hope this breaks down into a big missdpuck vs. idnami fight. Actually, I'd find it hilarious to watch all the female CPers get into a big flame war with each other!

Thanks but no thanks. We are obviously two very different people. Oddly enough ...well...forget it.

[Berger_4_]

Originally Posted by missdpuck

Thanks but no thanks. We are obviously two very different people. Oddly enough ...well...forget it.

[Ice]

Originally Posted by missdpuck

I would've told him to do the gig. Unlkike most women I don't find anniversaries etc that important, or necessary to celebrate on that day.

For the most part, I probably feel pretty close to the way you do. The problem is, if you're with someone who finds anniversaries important, you probably have to make the compromise and celebrate. Its just part of the give and take required to make a relationship work.

[DOK]

I don't get why the anniversary would be "cancelled" if he went. Why couldn't he have the best of both worlds? If my guy came home and said, "gee, opportunity to make some money this weekend, let's celebrate next weekend" I'd be all for it. He's happy working, I'm happy because he's thinking of me, we're all happy.

Besides, how do you actually have a dating "anniversary"? First time you met? First date? First time you had sex? How does that one day actually get picked. I mean, I get wedding anniversaries and birthdays, but dating? I always say a "happy anniversary" of sorts in the summer some time because that's when I first started dating my dude, and he says it back, that's how we celebrate! YAHOOO!

[DOK]

Originally Posted by Ice

For the most part, I probably feel pretty close to the way you do. The problem is, if you're with someone who finds anniversaries important, you probably have to make the compromise and celebrate. Its just part of the give and take required to make a relationship work.

An additional "boooo" for this as well. Compromise in a relationship is over rated. Too much and your a dead man, dead to yourself, dead to the relationship. Be yourself, she's got to love you for who you are, you've got to love her for who she is. If you guys fit then great.

As E.C. said "do what makes you happy, and if she loves you, she'll understand".

[Ice]

How do you expect two people to live together forever (if that's the goal of marriage) if nobody is willing to compromise? It just won't work. If my husband rolled over every time I wanted my way, I wouldn't respect him. If he never compromised so I could have my way, he'd become impossible to live with. I think being able to compromise is pretty important.

Again, I'm not one that feels it necessary to celebrate anniversaries as a huge deal. What I have learned is that I don't get to decide what is important to my husband, just as he can't decide what is important to me. What I can do is be open minded and do the things he wants to do sometimes and expect the same courtesy in return. Its about mutual respect and learning that selfishness/doormat tandem doesn't make for a longstanding, healthy relationship.

[Traditional_Ale]

Originally Posted by 4X4

Harsh. Trad's worlds are colliding.You have no idea of the magnitude of this thing. If idnami is allowed to infiltrate this world, then Trad as you know him, ceases to exist. You see, right now we have Relationship Trad, but there is also Independent Trad. That's the Trad you know, the Trad you post with - movie Trad, coffee shop Trad, liar Trad, bawdy Trad. I don't know about you, but I love that Trad. But he's dying. If Relationship Trad logs on to CP, he will kill Independent Trad. A Trad divided against himself cannot stand!!

Both of those Trads are one in the same. Always have been, always will be. I have never posted anything I would want to hide from Idnami. Its a public forum.

Idnami logged on and posted because she felt a tad bit misrepresented by me, saying that she

"Came home and she was furious. I mean, hell fire and all that."

which I agree was not fair. Especially given the aesthetic of sexism that occurs here (not that I'm complaining, just clarifying).

FWIW, I didn't take exception to any of her posts.

I also don't see her becoming a CP regular, as she hates (like, really really hates) hockey.

Also, it was my idea originally to go! We had it planned for months, and the only reason this became an issue was that this particular gig payed really really well. And I don't regret going to SCF. It was AMAZING!

Moreover, the director of the festival has already contacted me for more work. He was "impressed by my commitment to family, being a latino and all we get what thats about...lol".

Thanks for the thread CP. I'm knocked up on tonnes of Percacet and Weed Cookies and Laxatives trying not to cough or think/watch anything funny, which is why I may not be around CP for a week or so.

[SeeGeeWhy]

Originally Posted by Traditional_Ale

she hates (like, really really hates) hockey.

deal breaker

[DOK]

Comprimise is like negotiating, negotiating is something you do in business to win the best deal for yourself.

Personally, like I said, be yourself, and you'll find your place in a relationship. Call it what you want, but if he wanted to work, then he should work, if he didn't then he shouldn't. It's not a trade off situation here. Just the same, if she wanted him to work, then she could say so, if she wanted the time with him, then say so. If both people are genuinely on the same page they will do what's best for the relationship, not for each other. He wouldn't work if it pissed her off to no end, nor would she ask him to spend time if it meant him being miserable.

If I'm going to spend MY ENTIRE LIFE with someone, I've got to be myself, and I'd expect that my partner do the same. I think that's the problem with a lot of relationships, too much compromise, not enough finding the right person. Relationships are a bonus not an expectation, they are the icing on the cake of life, not the basis of it.

This really has nothing to do with Trad and his girl by the way. But I am shocked that she'd know enough about what's happening to come and talk about it on a site that she admittedly HATES the subject on. If that were me and my partner, I don't think I'd go on a unicorn website to defend his position of riding bareback or not with or without me. But maybe I have a bigger problem with the fact my dude likes unicorns, I don't know.