Thanks for the advice. I'm fairly certain calling someone's workplace, particularly when they don't work at a pizza place or the mall, is never a good idea. Glad to know women don't think of flowers as some creepy thing. More of a nicer, better smelling method of leaving my number than a friend of a friend giving me hers.
I get my girl different flowers for most occasions, with a reason behind each I pick out.
Chivalry is on life support, but it ain't dead yet.
The wide-eyed, momentarily hopeful gazes from girls that pass by after purchasing them though is a good indication that dudes need to be getting more bouquets these days. Old fashioned is good.
Be sure to give honest compliments and make sure the girl knows why you like her and why you wanted to do that for her. Don't give it and expect a return just because of the gesture. Hard to simply flatter someone into liking you back. Some guys don't get that it takes more than that. Pursue with confidence and straightforwardness, not desperation!
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Immediately after reading the OP, I hoped there were a few Seinfeld references in the responses. Leaving satisfied.
The only advice I can actually give OP is don't worry about the time lag. I once waited two weeks for a first date after meeting a girl and now we're married, so if she's interested a little time lapse means nothing.
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Agree with others, dropping a line via mutual friend seems like the best option. Doing something with together with those friends (like drinks or dinner) might work as well? A situation to get properly acquainted with one another?
I get my girl different flowers for most occasions, with a reason behind each I pick out.
Chivalry is on life support, but it ain't dead yet.
The wide-eyed, momentarily hopeful gazes from girls that pass by after purchasing them though is a good indication that dudes need to be getting more bouquets these days. Old fashioned is good.
Be sure to give honest compliments and make sure the girl knows why you like her and why you wanted to do that for her. Don't give it and expect a return just because of the gesture. Hard to simply flatter someone into liking you back. Some guys don't get that it takes more than that. Pursue with confidence and straightforwardness, not desperation!
I was talking to the girl that I've been seeing last night about the whole flowers thing, and I mean I guess its because like me she's in her *blargarlarga* age group. Sorry the Internet got fuzzy there for a minute.
And she says its not about what you get her, like flowers or candy or when you show up at her house with a nice bottle of wine.
Its about looking like your putting thought and effort into things a little bit of chivalry and chase.
She also added that even if it was something that cost nothing, like a phone call, or a drive out of town to watch the sun set or rise, or a picnic that you put together, its all meaningful. Even a note that you leave her, or whatever. It shows that your invested and you find her interesting and desirable.
We talked about the face book thing and basically if your already in some kind of thing, it can be good if its a thoughtful thing, or a reminder of something that your going to do together then it works.
But she figures that most woman that are probably in her age group of *fizzz pop fizz* would probably not look favorably on a face book thing because it just shows lack of imagination.
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Do you know where she works? Take a friend and hang out in the lobby until she comes down for lunch and then pretend you were there meeting up with a friend.
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Once when I was working internationally I sent a woman I had just met a bouquet of flowers at her work with a plane ticket to an island resort a few hours away. Worked great!
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Please keep us updated. I want to know how this works out.
For what it's worth, I'm not even sure if I'm going to reach out. It's been mentioned to me something like that presents a pretty solid 'looking for a 'relationship' vibe, whereas I'm fairly certain I'm in more of a 'would like to spend some time with pretty girls sometimes' point in my life. Honestly I don't think I have much of a desire for a 'relationship', and would hate to lead with something that says otherwise.
For what it's worth, I'm not even sure if I'm going to reach out. It's been mentioned to me something like that presents a pretty solid 'looking for a 'relationship' vibe, whereas I'm fairly certain I'm in more of a 'would like to spend some time with pretty girls sometimes' point in my life. Honestly I don't think I have much of a desire for a 'relationship', and would hate to lead with something that says otherwise.
Come on you're overthinking this!
Get a mutual friend to mention you enjoyed talking to her and would like her number.
Let's stop acting like we are curing cancer here! We put effort into this thread! Get out there and give it a shot!
For what it's worth, I'm not even sure if I'm going to reach out. It's been mentioned to me something like that presents a pretty solid 'looking for a 'relationship' vibe, whereas I'm fairly certain I'm in more of a 'would like to spend some time with pretty girls sometimes' point in my life. Honestly I don't think I have much of a desire for a 'relationship', and would hate to lead with something that says otherwise.
I'm the last guy to take advice from on these topics, but you were going to send her flowers and a note but then don't want anything too serious? Do people do that? Seems like sending flowers pretty much indicates that you are pretty serious about something more than a one-night stand, but maybe I'm out of the loop.
I'm the last guy to take advice from on these topics, but you were going to send her flowers and a note but then don't want anything too serious? Do people do that? Seems like sending flowers pretty much indicates that you are pretty serious about something more than a one-night stand, but maybe I'm out of the loop.
I believe the OP is trying to talk himself out of the fact he is looking for something more then a fling
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For what it's worth, I'm not even sure if I'm going to reach out. It's been mentioned to me something like that presents a pretty solid 'looking for a 'relationship' vibe, whereas I'm fairly certain I'm in more of a 'would like to spend some time with pretty girls sometimes' point in my life. Honestly I don't think I have much of a desire for a 'relationship', and would hate to lead with something that says otherwise.
The mutual friend approach then. It shows interest but not too much and puts the ball in her court
