Meeting women in Calgary

[CliffFletcher]

A buddy of mine joined the local Landmark self-improvement group when he was going through his divorce, and he said he was pretty much fought over as fresh meat. Way more women than men at these things. He bided his time and ended up with a woman 10 years his junior who he is in a serious relationship with now.

[CliffFletcher]

Originally Posted by Fuzz

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demographics_of_Calgary

Looking at age groups:
from 20-40
Male= 174,660
female= 173,565

https://www12.statcan.gc.ca/census-r...CSD&GC=4806016

Yeah, I'm not sure where the notion that there's way more men than women in Calgary comes from. When you consider that workers in the oilpatch and other rural jobs are overwhelmingly male, and that many of the men who do list Calgary as a residence aren't in the city much, there are more women in the city than men.

[DownhillGoat]

Originally Posted by troutman

On-line dating for women is much different for women than men. An attractive woman in a city like Calgary can receive 50 messages per week.

I assume you meant day... I have a few female friends on POF to varying degrees of attractiveness, but all fairly good looking, and 50 messages a week is on the extremely low end.

I'll throw another vote out there for Tinder.

Originally Posted by Language

PS - my sister was showing me some conversations she was having back and forth with guys on Tinder. She would think they're normal and would be down to meet up, and then they would say just the most ridiculous, idiotic thing to kill it (asking her over right away, etc). So a suggestion - if you go the online route, just be normal and not over-the-top horndog and you should be fine.

This. A million times this.

I have no idea what it is with dudes and the slightest shred of anonymity. The crap that guys say on there is just mind boggling, and I would have to think 90% wouldn't be anywhere close to that personality in real life.

Follow some common?-sense ideas, like no mirror selfies of just your abs, no wang picks, and no pics that look normal but *cleverly* show your wang in a mirror or something, and chat with people online like they are in fact, real people and you should be fine.

An incredibly interesting read on the online dating subject (and meeting and interacting with people as a whole) and how it's changed over the last few generations is "Modern Romance" by Aziz Ansari. Highly recommend.

[Puppet Guy]

I second speed-dating. Met a girl doing that in 2007 and this weekend we'll have been married for 7 years.

[Jacks]

3 pages and no mention of Chicken on the Way?

[Ozy_Flame]

Originally Posted by Puppet Guy

I second speed-dating. Met a girl doing that in 2007 and this weekend we'll have been married for 7 years.

Met on a blind date in 2007 and married in 2008? You don't mess around! I'm going on 5 years with my lady and I'm dragging my feet on the whole thing haha!

[polak]

I broke up with my ex after 5 years of dating. No rushing in to anything for this guy.

[troutman]

Originally Posted by kunkstyle

I assume you meant day... I have a few female friends on POF to varying degrees of attractiveness, but all fairly good looking, and 50 messages a week is on the extremely low end.

I think you are right - what I more properly should have said is 50 new contacts per week, not messages.

[DownhillGoat]

Originally Posted by troutman

I think you are right - what I more properly should have said is 50 new contacts per week, not messages.

I assumed that's what you meant. Still seems extremely low from what I've seen. I didn't really count though, either.

[Sainters7]

Originally Posted by kunkstyle

I'll throw another vote out there for Tinder.

As someone who knows nothing about internet dating, especially Tinder (been in a relationship since 2006), isn't it mostly a "younger" site? Tinder just feels to me more like a teens/20's thing, with how up front it is about basically anonymous booty calls.

Went through a real rough patch with the girl last year to the point where I truly thought I was about to be single again. I went back to school at 24, so most of my Edmonton friends are 4-5 years younger than me, they're all over the Tinder. But as someone in their early 30's, I'd feel a little "narc'ish" on there. Or am I way off base? I sincerely don't know.


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[Ozy_Flame]

Originally Posted by Sainters7

As someone who knows nothing about internet dating, especially Tinder (been in a relationship since 2006), isn't it mostly a "younger" site? Tinder just feels to me more like a teens/20's thing, with how up front it is about basically anonymous booty calls.

Went through a real rough patch with the girl last year to the point where I truly thought I was about to be single again. I went back to school at 24, so most of my Edmonton friends are 4-5 years younger than me, they're all over the Tinder. But as someone in their early 30's, I'd feel a little "narc'ish" on there. Or am I way off base? I sincerely don't know.


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Tinder recently put on some feature that marks the match as "urgent" or something to that effect. Pretty much says I need sex and I need it now.

[Shazam]

A lot of 30 somethings use Tinder. But be warned. The great relationship quality filter is a real thing.

[troutman]

Originally Posted by Sainters7

As someone who knows nothing about internet dating, especially Tinder (been in a relationship since 2006), isn't it mostly a "younger" site? Tinder just feels to me more like a teens/20's thing, with how up front it is about basically anonymous booty calls.

Went through a real rough patch with the girl last year to the point where I truly thought I was about to be single again. I went back to school at 24, so most of my Edmonton friends are 4-5 years younger than me, they're all over the Tinder. But as someone in their early 30's, I'd feel a little "narc'ish" on there. Or am I way off base? I sincerely don't know.


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Tinder filters can be set at any age range you want.

I'm 49 and there are plenty of women around my age on Tinder. I was quite surprised to see how many women my age never married or had children.

Again, on Tinder women can get overwhelmed with the amount of matches they get. Some are matched over 90% to 100% on anyone they swipe right.

[DownhillGoat]

Originally Posted by Sainters7

isn't it mostly a "younger" site? Tinder just feels to me more like a teens/20's thing, with how up front it is about basically anonymous booty calls.

No, and it doesn't really market itself as geared towards anonymous booty calls anymore either. Just another method of meeting people now.

[Coach]

Some of my most promising interactions happen in silence between vehicles while my dog hangs his handsome face out of the window.

I've been thinking it might be a good idea to just have a sign with my phone number on it that I can flash out the window for these cases.

In all seriousness, I think it works the best when you really put the idea of "meeting someone" aside, and just do what you like to do, you'll meet people that like similar things eventually.

[jar_e]

If you're looking for a serious longterm relationship, I'd really consider a matchmaker service. I met my wife through eHarmony and endorse that as well but I have had a handful of collegaues go through matchmakers and have had really strong resuls and have been super impressed.

[Muta]

Recently single again after four years, and when I get back into the scene I'm not gonna use dating sites. I'm gonna just do the old fashioned way and go talk to women in person. That's how my last two relationships started. There's the chance you will get rejected, but as long as you're okay with that and laugh about it, it makes the process that much easier.

Plus, other dudes in this city make my job easier. There's LOTS of delta bravos out there, and women don't want them, so all you have to do is avoid being one and you've passed the first level in record speed.

[Sainters7]

Ahh gotcha on the filters. Apologies if that came off as insulting to Tinder users on here that are 30+, I sincerely know nothing about it. My only experience watching someone using it first-hand was cocky hockey boys in their mid 20s. I briefly looked through the feed they were looking at, I felt like I was 80 years old in comparison.

Then at the gym a couple weeks ago, there were 2 gym bros on the bench beside me who looked like they fell out of a B4-4 video (dating myself). One dude was bragging how he suddenly had an unexpected "date" tonight, and they were looking at her profile shots and basically high fiving. Buddy said to the other "call me when you're done and on your way back". Just reaked of a young, DB hook up site from my outsiders' perspective. But that's where the filters come in I suppose.


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[Erick Estrada]

Originally Posted by Ozy_Flame

Edmonton has surprisingly hot women. And alot of them. And not so snooty. I'm up there enough and go to Whyte Ave and the festivals to know that for sure. And for some reason they are quite voluptuous, I think it may have to do with a heavy Eastern European genetics up there in the 'chuk.

Yep this has always been my experience in Edmonton. Calgary has hot women as well but they to me at least seem more materialistic. It's the only city where I have had attractive women come and talk to me in a bar and flat out walk away when the discussion turned to my career and they found out I was a student. Happened numerous times.

[Regulator75]

While driving, take pictures of random woman sitting in a passenger seat, jot down the license plate number, post to internet and ponder who she is on a public forum.