i've done an outing to calgary for a buddy's stag (we kidnapped him first thing in the morning and drove to calgary to take in a flames game - soooo much fun!!)
i've also done a couple trips to vancouver for cfl games with good buddies.
my wife was cool with those
going on a trip with my hockey team.... nope!! ha! ha!
she's done a bunch of trips to calgary and vancouver too - usually with her mom
i don't have a problem with it, and she doesn't seem to mind... unless it's with my mens' hockey team, then it's a nope! i think she knows the boys on my team too well! ha! ha!
What do the guys on your hockey team say, when you tell them your wife won't let you go for a trip with them.
This is a sign of a great wife. Those people who think their wife is out to trap them are either paranoid or have a terrible wife.
Ive travelled without my wife, and she's gone to places without me. We both trust each other, and the time apart is nice sometimes just to recharge your batteries a bit.
It's not necessarily a trust issue. I think it is just that they other partner feels left out.
And I think trap is just a funny way of saying that there could be hard feelings if you take her up on the offer even if her intentions were honest.
I'm with the other poster on this one though. A vacation without my wife would be boring to me anyway.
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We take regular vacations as a family, for example last summer we went to bend and portland and we are going skiing at Christmas.....I am only considering this because I am approaching a milestone birthday and my wife brought forward the idea.....
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I do this about twice a year. Once to Moab/Fruita, once to watch the Flames on the road. I get more vacation than my wife, and she sees no reason I should spend it alone at home by myself. Whenever she wants to take a trip without me, I'm all for it. We have done one big trip together every year.
I more feel guilty about spending our money on things she doesn't get to enjoy. We drive to Moab, so it's usually about $1000 for the week. The Flames trips vary by location.
Here's the kicker. I never went anywhere without my wife, for the first 3/4 years. We traveled the tropics and Europe 2wice a year. It was awesome! Then came the kids...
Trust me, getting away for a breather is so refreshing...
To be honest, we started this when a few of my friends did a surprise bday party in Peurto Vallarta. My wife then went with her friends to PV as well. (It was a "ok you get a vacation then I get one). It was cool caus the other would take the kids when you were away. And now we've never looked back. I'm already booked for a 7 day cruise next March and she's going on a cruise in April. The week is refreshing and plus you get a little time with your friends.
I also suffer horrible travel anxiety that can be near devastating if I don't manage it well. Traveling is never relaxing for me -- if I'm going to bother it's going to be something sweet like Disneyworld or something, and only ever infrequently.
Neither of us like traveling much (we did Disneyland for our honeymoon have driven out to Vancouver once since we got married), so if we're going to go somewhere it will probably be together.
Tell me again why I'm not allowed to tell your wife about the Lion's game?
I'm firmly in the "go for it" camp with a few caveats. If it's not at the jeopardy of the rest of the family, ie: Sorry kids no Christmas presents this year, dad's going to Moab instead (which you have already stated that it's not the case, so that one's moot). And secondly, if it's not a double-standard and have no issue if the wife did the same, I don't see a problem.
I have a few buddies that go on solo trips, the unwritten rule being the wife gets to do the same, and it doesn't come at the expense of a family trip the same year.
That was different since I extended a business trip. She knows I went to detroit just doesn't know it was pre planned!
She is going to phoenix and Canmore on girl trips and I hVe a bachelor party in the pipeline. Then we have a family trip to Disneyworld and florida for a wedding.
What do the guys on your hockey team say, when you tell them your wife won't let you go for a trip with them.
they just laugh
a bunch of them have known my wife for a number of years and they of course know the guys on the team.... and it's no surprise to them she has issues with it! ha!
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Although I have never been to Moab, I suspect that it will be at least 1,000 time better than vegas.....
While Moab is a superlative, don't discount the combined experience of riding Bootleg Canyon in the morning, sitting at Belagio poker room all afternoon, then finishing the night at Rhino's. There is actually some decent terrain near vegas.
I never realized people exclusively take trips with the family. We typically do 2-3 kid-centric trips a year. The rest of my travel are boys golf outings and (oddly, twice this year) "finally divorced" Vegas celebrations. The wife is scheduled for a girls yoga/surf retreat in Feb. I find that it's nice sometimes to either get away from it all and, other times, spend increased quality time with the kid.
Moab is about an 18 hr drive. I love the drive. Boring up to great falls but after that it's beautiful. We usually leave after work, get to great falls, then finish the drive the next day. Dillon MT has a Patagonia outlet, which is a decent stop if you need something. Fruita is also fun and only 1.5 hrs away from Moab. Get rider Mel's guide book as well.
My favs in Moab
Amasa back
Sovereign
Porcupine rim
And of course you need to ride slickrock trail.
It's a small town in SE Utah. It's at the centre of a bunch of national parks (Canyonlands, Arches) and is a huge area for mountain biking and other sports. Kind of like Canmore but in the desert rather than the mountains.
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Hulk, how long of a drive is it to Moab from Calgary?
It's about 15-18 hours depending on amount of stops, Salt Lake rush hour, and willingness to speed. I think most times have been in the 16-17 hour range for us.
My husband's done a guys trip to Vegas and he drives out to Ashcroft every year to see his brother. I quite liked having the place to myself (more or less - kids are older and 2 still at home, but have their own schedules for the most part) - and he had a blast. He's probably going to Detroit next year and most likely will go on his own. I want him to go to Moab with a biking buddy, at least once on his own - I do want to do a couples trip there with him at some point since we both enjoy biking. I mostly do weekend trips here and there.
As long as there is balance, I think it's a fabulous idea. Nothing wrong with either partner having time where they reclaim their individual identity.
