Anyone here in their 30's and still single? But want marriage?

[RedCoffee]

Originally Posted by kirant

I'm 19. This is a deal breaker for me and marriage

Unless you found a girl that likes to play video games too.

[krynski]

there's nothing wrong with goals, just try not to be too forceful or desperate. I would like to be married by the time i'm thirty. After that, i would love to have kids. At the moment though, just taking it one straw at a time. if it doesn't work out that way, oh well. I am not the kind of person that wouldn't be able to eventually find someone. just relax, be yourself, and hopefully some positive aura that you are emmitting will attract a down-to-earth smart/sexy girl with a great a$$.

moral of the story....just be happy with what you've got, and don't worry about it too much. The more desperate you seem, the fewer prospects you'll get.

[Inferno]

My cousin is 42 and he just got married for the first time a couple months ago. I'm a month from being 30 and while I'm not where I hoped to be, marriage and kids were something I never wanted to until my 30s anyway so it's not that big of a deal.

[Dion]

[Dion]

My family gave up on me alomg time ago. I love the single life and the freedoms that come with it.

[robocop]

I'm dating a girl that wants to get married. She hasn't told me, but if I proposed she'd say yes instantly and run in circles screaming. But for some reason I am not in a rush, women have this urge to control men when life wears them down and their dreams are replaced with no sleep. 31 really isn't that big of a deal, it's not like all the good ones get swooped up before 25 or anything, so many marriages end in divorce that being patient with getting married isn't that big of a deal.

I know this will seem crazy, but the I suggest to the OP that he tries plenty of fish, there are a whole bunch of women in their 25-35 year old range looking for relationships on there. stay away from the sex hookups.

[FlameyMcFlameFace]

Im 18 and no more high school, hard to meet new "good" girls. Hate the single life.

[Cain]

Originally Posted by flamesfan2.0

Im 18 and no more high school, hard to meet new "good" girls. Hate the single life.

I can understand being past 30 and feeling some anxiety, but 18? Dear lord. You will meet hundreds of ladies over the next bunch of years.

[taco.vidal]

An obvious problem is that when you get into your 30s theres less single women in your immediate age range. You can always date younger but that may mean trying to find women outside of your normal social circle since most people have friends within a close range of their own age. Finding a 30+ single woman without baggage (kids, divorce, psycho ex-husband, overall whack job) isn't easy.

[Phanuthier]

I actually just started dating a 31 year old. Im 26. (Puma? ) I know I don't really fit the 30+ but I used to think I needed to get married mid 20s. Now im thinking maybe closer to mid 30s. The older I get the farther I feel from being a adult.... there is just too much I want to do while im still young. Getting married feels like a grown up thing to do.

[MrMastodonFarm]

Originally Posted by flamesfan2.0

Im 18 and no more high school, hard to meet new "good" girls. Hate the single life.

lol.

[Yasa]

Originally Posted by flamesfan2.0

Im 18 and no more high school, hard to meet new "good" girls. Hate the single life.

What does this even mean?

[peter12]

Originally Posted by Phanuthier

I actually just started dating a 31 year old. Im 26. (Puma? ) I know I don't really fit the 30+ but I used to think I needed to get married mid 20s. Now im thinking maybe closer to mid 30s. The older I get the farther I feel from being a adult.... there is just too much I want to do while im still young. Getting married feels like a grown up thing to do.

Good work, sir.

[MoneyGuy]

If you're with the right woman, marriage is great. It's been 32 years for us.

[Rathji]

Getting married is like walking out into traffic.

If you walk as the right time, (almost) everything is awesome.

If you walk at the wrong time, you get smeared down the street while being dragged underneath a bus.

Don't walk at the wrong time.

[hkstylez]

29 also in a few months and still single, if I don't find one before I am 30, my grandparents are probably or will be going to find me one somewhere in China. *Shudders*. haha.

[Otto-matic]

I'm 21 and personally its crossed my mind when I want to set a target date. I think the ripe old age of 28-30 would be ideal but then again if life throws a curve ball and pushes that date up earlier then so be it.

Right now I'm having zero luck on the dating game, pretty much pulling a Stajan in terms of performance.

[FlamesPuck12]

Originally Posted by Otto-matic

I'm 21 and personally its crossed my mind when I want to set a target date. I think the ripe old age of 28-30 would be ideal but then again if life throws a curve ball and pushes that date up earlier then so be it.

Right now I'm having zero luck on the dating game, pretty much pulling a Stajan in terms of performance.

Why are you insulting Stajan! He tried hard tonight

[flylock shox]

Originally Posted by Cluelessboy

Hi I ask this because usually when someone is in their 30's, theyre in the process of getting married and having kids, starting a family (if not already). Im almost 31 and have been single for 2.5 years now (I wont get into that right now, but im finding it very difficult to meet a nice woman in this city, for example, one whos not a gold digger).

When you're in your 20s, ok...youre still young and thats the time when you focus on school and career and play and test the waters. But to me when youre in your 30s youre in a different scenario, cause I dont want to be getting married and having kids when Im in my 40's.

So for any of you in your 30s and still single, but want a family eventually, do you find it more stressful now being in your 30s than say 20s? How do you keep patient and hopeful? Do you have family harassing you asking when youre going to get married? lol

And before someone says "youre still young, you have lotssss of time"....unfortunately I dont see it that way, cause getting married is a long process, it takes many years to get to know someone on a marriage comfort level. And when youre single it just eats up valuable time. But Im just not the type who will propose to a girl 3 weeks after meeting lol. When I was in college my goal was to get married by 30.

You're not far off my situation. I'm 31, and am just now in the middle of my first serious relationship in over a decade. Here's what I think, for what it's worth.

Your post suggests to me that you're making 2 big mistakes.

Mistake number one: you're buying into what you think are social norms about marriage. In short, you think marriage is the right thing for everyone, and that there's a certain expiry date associated with it. Neither of these things is true. You don't have to get married, and you don't have to do it by a certain time. You're putting pressure on yourself needlessly. You have to let those expectations go.

Number two: if you really are after a serious relationship, you're screwing it up when it comes to who you're targeting as a potential partner. If you are seriously finding that most of the girls you meet are "gold diggers" you're going about this entirely the wrong way. You need to stop buying in to the whole marketing image of femininity: some chick with big boobs, blond hair, who's made up, has a tight figure, and is regularly found in bars. Most women aren't like that (in fact,even those women aren't like that: they're just pretending to be). So be prepared to broaden your horizons and find someone who's good for you, not someone who looks like what you think she should look like. There are lots of girls who don't need the make up and fake boobs to be beautiful: find one of those. And most girls aren't gold diggers. If you're only meeting the few that are, there's something drastically wrong with how you're screening them.

The best thing you can do is get to know yourself: what you want; what you hope for the future; what kind of person you want to share that future with. Then you have to take active steps to find that person, rather than just hoping they appear in your life. You have to work for what you want.

And ignore the pressures other people are putting on you. They're not you, and what's right for them isn't necessarily what's right for you. Know your own heart, follow it, and be brave about it.

You'll be fine.

[MoneyGuy]

Clueless boy, are you wealthy? Serious question.