02-07-2011, 06:33 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: CGY
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Originally Posted by puckluck
I also found it funny, but only because I read "infraction" as "erection" for some reason.
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02-07-2011, 06:55 PM
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#42
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Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: H-Town, Texas
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Originally Posted by FanIn80
"You're a knob."
"Stop acting like a knob."
Am I the only one that sees the difference in these two statements? What about...
"Giordano is an all-star."
"Giordano plays like an all-star."
Those are two distinctly different statements.
"This lime is a lemon."
"This lime tastes like a lemon."
Why is it so obvious to see the difference between statements like that, but when someone says "You're acting like a prick" they act like you just called them a prick?
If someone is actually acting like a prick, how on earth are you supposed to tell them that? Personally, I think telling them they're acting like a prick is actually a fairly constructive way of dealing with the situation. I also don't think it's insulting at all. Obviously, feelings will be hurt, but that's usually just a symptom of the truth is it not? If someone told me I was acting like a chair, I wouldn't take offence to that... if I was acting like a prick and they called me on it, it would sting at first, but I'd appreciate it later.
Anyway, sometimes I wonder if I live in my own little world when it comes to this stuff. It's like a couple weeks back, an old friend from high school is messaging me on Facebook, and before I know it, she's going on about this dbag she's dating. I pointed out that she has a history of dating guys like that, and perhaps the first step to not being miserable would be to stop dating guys like that. All of a sudden, it's like I'm on an episode of Jerry Springer, and I'm suddenly the biggest prick on the planet. I don't get it. Was I supposed to just tell her everything was going to be okay, and that if she hangs in there, she'll find the right dbag someday and they'll go on to have lots of little dbag children? I didn't insult her. I didn't call her a dbag. I just said what was probably the first bit of honesty she's heard in a long time.
Sometimes I suspect a lack of social empathy may be in the cards, but that's probably a different discussion altogether.
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Okay, as a woman- I have three points to make, please take them or leave them- and FYI- NONE of this is meant as an insult. 
1) I don't know you at all. So, I am going to say that by reading this, it sounds like you are a little bit jealous of whomever she is dating (or maybe that she's dating anyone), and that you like this girl a little, or you wouldn't care enough to make the statements. I don't really think this is about what is and is not an insult. If you didn't like her you might say 'Oh, it will all work out' and not think twice about it. You said this happened a couple weeks back, and you're still thinking about it, enough to post it on a message board and get other people's opinions- and it sounds like it's bothered you enough that you want to be reassured that you were in the right. I think maybe you meant to insult her for a reason, and maybe you feel bad about it now.
2) Sounds like she likes you too, or she wouldn't care what you think. Probably she values your opinion, and you reinforced what she already knows, and therefore she is overly (and irrationally) defensive.
3) Sounds like she's a little bit wacky, and one of those girls who like to be treated like a door mat. So, if you DO like her, I would suggest trying to get over it- defriend her. Women who are attracted to dirtbags don't 'get better' often.
Just my take- from a female perspective.
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02-07-2011, 07:00 PM
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#43
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Lifetime Suspension
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Originally Posted by puckluck
I also found it funny, but only because I read "infraction" as "erection" for some reason.
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The Mods on this board love to give you an infraction
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02-07-2011, 07:06 PM
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GOAT!
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Originally Posted by BigBrodieFan
Okay, as a woman- I have three points to make, please take them or leave them- and FYI- NONE of this is meant as an insult.
1) I don't know you at all. So, I am going to say that by reading this, it sounds like you are a little bit jealous of whomever she is dating (or maybe that she's dating anyone), and that you like this girl a little, or you wouldn't care enough to make the statements. I don't really think this is about what is and is not an insult. If you didn't like her you might say 'Oh, it will all work out' and not think twice about it. You said this happened a couple weeks back, and you're still thinking about it, enough to post it on a message board and get other people's opinions- and it sounds like it's bothered you enough that you want to be reassured that you were in the right. I think maybe you meant to insult her for a reason, and maybe you feel bad about it now.
2) Sounds like she likes you too, or she wouldn't care what you think. Probably she values your opinion, and you reinforced what she already knows, and therefore she is overly (and irrationally) defensive.
3) Sounds like she's a little bit wacky, and one of those girls who like to be treated like a door mat. So, if you DO like her, I would suggest trying to get over it- defriend her. Women who are attracted to dirtbags don't 'get better' often.
Just my take- from a female perspective. |
Oh... yeah, there's nothing to worry about there. It was just a situation where I sensed the conversation turning into something I didn't really have time for, so I tried to help her get to the point quickly. I wasn't expecting the response I got and, in hindsight, it probably would have been faster to just let her yammer on for an hour and then smile and say goodbye. 
Anyway, girls like that aren't really my type. Dating one dbag is fine. Dating a second one indicates a bit of a learning impairment... dating more than two is just an inability to make a sane decision (putting it the best way I can think of).
Edit: I do appreciate your response though, and I hope my answer isn't taken in a bad light.
Last edited by FanIn80; 02-07-2011 at 07:10 PM.
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02-07-2011, 07:23 PM
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#46
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Franchise Player
Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: H-Town, Texas
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Originally Posted by FanIn80
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LOL, get a Kindle-books are faster and much cheaper. I LOVE mine, don't know what I ever did without it. (Not to derail your thread, just sayin..)
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02-07-2011, 07:27 PM
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GOAT!
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Originally Posted by BigBrodieFan
LOL, get a Kindle-books are faster and much cheaper. I LOVE mine, don't know what I ever did without it. (Not to derail your thread, just sayin..)
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Haha, nice. I'll look into that. 
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02-07-2011, 09:47 PM
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#48
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Franchise Player
Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Calgary
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She was looking for a friend zone guy and got something a little different.
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