I've been to one funeral in my life, it was my GrandMothers.
I remember getting the news that She had passed away and I didn't react at all. The day of the Funeral, after seeing her casket and conluding she was in there, I lost it and wept like I'd never done before.
Thinking back, if I'd had to carry her, I think I would have collapsed.
God bless you and rest in Peace to your dearly departed.
Same with me. I didn't react either when my grandmother died. I didn't even really react when seeing her in the casket. But when they started to take the casket away and my mom was just balling and litterally trying to hold on, that's when I lost it.
My condolenses Res.
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I wouldn't be so broken up about it if she wasn't like a second mom. This woman, step family or not, cared for me like I was her blood. I'm really trying to stay collected, but it's not working.
Sorry for the loss Res. As much as maybe it might not seem like it, CP is a great place to get some help if you need it when dealing with stuff like this.
Stay strong.
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For the record, I was at work when you posted the original comment. I'm really sorry for your loss, it's painful when someone so close to you is lost. Was she ill for a long time?
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I must say thank you for the support. Yeah, it's kind of brutal for me because she was a guiding light in my life. I don't believe in that religious crap, but she was hardcore Roman Catholic. It's just brutal dealing with someone being gone forever. I dunno, just think of me as the drunken jester, I'm ok with that. This just sucks. She was a great human being.
If there is anything that reinforces the sense of community around CP it's when posters (who most of up have, and never will meet) are going through a hard time and we collectively do the best we can to help them out in whatever way possible.
I recall two years when my best friend suddenly passed away, I debated for almost an hour weather or not I should start a thread about it. Thankfully I did because the support and kind words I received from people I didn't even know helped more than I could ever imagine.
It's OK to feel whatever you're feeling ResAlien, I've learned there isn't a right or a wrong way to grieve. It's different for everyone. I hope you can find some peace, bud.
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Thanks dude. I do appreciate it. I've lost someone that really means something to me. I don't care about afterlife bullcrap, but I know that Louise has a greater place in this world. People dying sucks.
Res, it's one of the biggest honors of your life. I've lost all of mine now and was a pallbearer at every one.
I never really thought about it that way. Rather, I never really thought about it at all, really. Now that I am thinking about it, I'm glad I was called upon for both of my paternal grandparents' funerals. They were damn good people, and to walk with the men as a teenage boy, was a bit of an honour in retrospect.
Good call, habby.
Condolences, Res. I remember it being a heavy load. Physically and mentally. But the physical part was nothing compared to the mental part. Funny that the only picture of people that I have on display in my house is of those two.
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I'm so sorry, ResA. A tough loss for anyone. I hope that you find the comfort you need. I know that I (and everyone here) will be sending good thoughts your way.
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