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[PaperBagger'14]

Originally Posted by undercoverbrother

#### me it is hard.

Really ####ing hard right now.

Need to get out and go for a beer?

[Buff]

Sometimes things a re good for a few weeks and sometimes my mom's behavior is toxic towards me. How do you cut a toxic person out of your life when they are your mother who is old and you're the only person in the world who can provide care for her?

[SportsJunky]

^I'm dealing with the same situation. Hang in there. Maybe we are accumulating karma points.

[undercoverbrother]

Originally Posted by PaperBagger'14

Need to get out and go for a beer?

I appreciate the offer, but frankly that is one of my issues.


Work & Home Stressors driving me to drink.

[Duruss]

Originally Posted by bluejays

What are coping mechanisms for anxiety? Genuinely curious. Could help a lot of people. Myself included!

Sorry I am late to this. I have been under going ketamine infusions and talk therapy and then I go and train my brain to endure and manage discomfort. And man it works, I am friendlier too now which was a pleasant surprise.

So the ketamine creates a nueroplastic window that has allowed me to break old connections and build new ones. To train my brain I first started by soaking a hand in ice water, started out at only managing 3 minutes, can now got for 12+, I then moved on to handling spiders which used to give me the creeps. Spiders are now interesting and no longer bother me. I capped it off by going skydiving, which turned out to be nothing but fun, barely a hint of anxiety.

I have been working at all this since May when I finished kicking a pair of "friends" out of my life for gas lighting and humiliating me, plus not taking No for an anwser and doing things like sending me a dick pick(I am a straight man). It was a case of if I can't trust you, then why am I tolerating you're being a creep?

The end result has been a serious sense of accomplishment and happiness. My anxiety used to require meds(benzo's) every couple weeks or weekly. Now? Once in 2 months and falling. I have never been able to manage anxiety like this before.

Psychedelic assisted therapy is very real, but it needs the talk therapy component. Honestly without the talk component I don't think it would be half as effective

[Tron_fdc]

I would seriously question a friends sanity if he sent me a dick pic. That's weird AF

The best advice I've ever seen is that we all sit here worrying about things, but in a year you will look back and wonder why you are worrying about them because now you have other things to worry about, so maybe you should ask yourself why you're worrying about things now anyways because in a year from now those things won't matter.

So why worry?

A good friend of mine has stage 4 cancer, 4-12 months to live. He isn't worried about it as long as he gets his affairs in order. That's a pretty large thing to have in your life to worry about. So when I worry about something I look at him and I stop worrying about whatever was bothering me because it really doesn't matter.

[Fuzz]

Originally Posted by Tron_fdc

I would seriously question a friends sanity if he sent me a dick pic. That's weird AF

The best advice I've ever seen is that we all sit here worrying about things, but in a year you will look back and wonder why you are worrying about them because now you have other things to worry about, so maybe you should ask yourself why you're worrying about things now anyways because in a year from now those things won't matter.

So why worry?

A good friend of mine has stage 4 cancer, 4-12 months to live. He isn't worried about it as long as he gets his affairs in order. That's a pretty large thing to have in your life to worry about. So when I worry about something I look at him and I stop worrying about whatever was bothering me because it really doesn't matter.

What if most the stuff you were worrying about last year came true, and now you are worrying how much worse the next year will be?

[Tron_fdc]

I dunno, I find that 99% of the things I worry about never come true. I would have died YEARS ago if they did, which if I had of died I wouldn't worry about them anymore anyways.

So stop worrying! You'll sleep better at night.

[Fuzz]

Originally Posted by Tron_fdc

I dunno, I find that 99% of the things I worry about never come true. I would have died YEARS ago if they did, which if I had of died I wouldn't worry about them anymore anyways.

So stop worrying! You'll sleep better at night.

LOL...k.


When you have serious issues it isn't that simple.

[Tron_fdc]

Oh I have serious issues. We all do. I try to solve them the best I can, and if I can't I just don't worry about them.

[Nyah]

Originally Posted by Tron_fdc

So stop worrying! You'll sleep better at night.

Breaking: The cure to anxiety is to just stop worrying everything!

If you're able to park your worry and stress and 'sleep better at night', then you're not suffering from an anxiety disorder or depression. The main problem with these disorders is that people can't turn it off...hence the discussion and thread.

[Paulie Walnuts]

Originally Posted by Nyah

Breaking: The cure to anxiety is to just stop worrying everything!

If you're able to park your worry and stress and 'sleep better at night', then you're not suffering from an anxiety disorder or depression. The main problem with these disorders is that people can't turn it off...hence the discussion and thread.

Also just smile and be happier.

[undercoverbrother]

Originally Posted by Tron_fdc

Oh I have serious issues. We all do. I try to solve them the best I can, and if I can't I just don't worry about them.

[Jason14h]

I really want to know why your male friends are sending you dick pics.

[GGG]

Originally Posted by Fuzz

LOL...k.


When you have serious issues it isn't that simple.

A lot of CBT is teaching yourself to do exactly that. It’s not simple as trying to rationally look at your problems as anxiety is essentially an irrational response but working through the trigger of the episode, understanding what is driving the episode, avoiding the death spiral thought process and sticking to the thought processes that provide relief can help.

Essentially what is being described is cognitive restructuring.

[blankall]

Originally Posted by Jason14h

I really want to know why your male friends are sending you dick pics.

When I was in my early 20s, I knew a guy who thought it was hilarious to show other guys his "Squirrel brains". If the guys are sending unsolicited pics of their erections, that more in the assault realm.

[fotze2]

Originally Posted by Tron_fdc

Oh I have serious issues. We all do. I try to solve them the best I can, and if I can't I just don't worry about them.

I'm definitely jealous of that. I know so many people who seem to be able to do that, no idea how.

[PepsiFree]

Originally Posted by GGG

A lot of CBT is teaching yourself to do exactly that. It’s not simple as trying to rationally look at your problems as anxiety is essentially an irrational response but working through the trigger of the episode, understanding what is driving the episode, avoiding the death spiral thought process and sticking to the thought processes that provide relief can help.

Essentially what is being described is cognitive restructuring.

Well, yes to the first part and no to the second.

What is being asked is similar to “how to I change a toilet” and what is being described is “other people can change toilets, so just change the toilet.”

That really has nothing to do with answering the question. It’s fine if you already have the skill, useless if you don’t. But I don’t think “just stop worrying” is essentially describing cognitive restructuring at all.

[Fuzz]

Originally Posted by GGG

A lot of CBT is teaching yourself to do exactly that. It’s not simple as trying to rationally look at your problems as anxiety is essentially an irrational response but working through the trigger of the episode, understanding what is driving the episode, avoiding the death spiral thought process and sticking to the thought processes that provide relief can help.

Essentially what is being described is cognitive restructuring.

Which may work well if you are only dealing with mental struggles. But if your mental struggles are driven by larger issues that can't just be good-thought away, dismissing concerns about how you will pay for medications or food, or housing driven by, say, health struggles isn't really helpful.

Here's a good article on why dismissing real concerns is not helpful and I think this quote from Elizabeth Seng, Associate Professor of Psychology at Yeshiva University captures it well. The article is about catastrophizing, which is I think an extreme form of worrying.

“The problem is that the “catastrophe” many of our patients worry about is their reality. They worried they would not recover fully – and they didn’t. They worried that their pain would last forever and so far that seems true. Our patients rightfully feel patronized when we call their lived experience a “catastrophe,” as though it is so outlandish it will never happen. For many, they are already living it.”

https://mecfsskeptic.com/catastrophi...itch-the-term/

So if you worry about how real issues are going to affect you the rest of your life, I don't think "just stop worrying" is much of a solution. I mean, I guess ignorance is bliss? But if your daily reminder is constant pain, it's not really a technique that is going to be helpful for long.

[undercoverbrother]

Originally Posted by blankall

When I was in my early 20s, I knew a guy who thought it was hilarious to show other guys his "Squirrel brains". If the guys are sending unsolicited pics of their erections, that more in the assault realm.

Who hasn't been involved in Dick Tricks.

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