Hitting on Women Thread v2.0

[rubecube]

Update?

[Wookie]

Originally Posted by rubecube

Update?

Slow and steady wins the race

[J pold]

Wookie, dug up some good lines

EDIT: take these with a grain of salt that are not openers they are Negs, and Banter lines pretty much you use these when you have started the conversation and are looking to tease, flirt, and look for indicators of interest those of you have read “The Game” know what I am talking about, They are supposed to be used in bars or clubs but trying tossing a Neg or two at her next time and she what she thinks

They stem from Dave DeAngelo's Cocky Funny and the Mystery Method both highly respected pick up artists

“You're cute, like my little sister.”
She drops/spills/etc. something, "This is why we can't have nice things."
If she drops something say "it's ok, you don’t have to be nervous"
”You didn't get enough attention from your mum as a kid, did you?”
“You look just like my high school math teacher.”
“Which one of you guys would win in a fight?”
“You're taking this way too seriously”
“Stop flirting with me”
“If that were true, you wouldn't love me”
“You must've driven your parents crazy”
“Give me a kiss on the cheek, and maybe I'll let you forgive me”
“I'm too High maintenance for you”
“what else do you like about me?”
“I'm so out of your league”
“let’s play a game. Let's see how long you can hold your breath”
“You're back to square one with me, missy”
“You're so outside the circle of trust”
“How short are you?”
“You're such a player”
“You guys remind me of the Power Puff Girls/or/ You guys are like watching The View”
“Do your parents know where you are”
“Isn't this a school night”
“You're makeup is smudged”
“Bartender, you might want to check this girl's ID again-“
“We should hang out some time. You can help me pick up chicks”
“you girls aren't tourists are you?”
“Holy ****, you really don't know what you're doing, do you?”
“Careful girl, I'm a heartbreak waiting to happen”
“Your ex boyfriend sounds just like me”
“I'm so emotionally unavailable right now”
“I think you might make a nice friend”
”We need to find you a man”
”We would never get along”
When she messed up something: "God damn girl! You'd screw up a wet dream!"
"There is nothing about you a complete personality change couldn’t fix."
"I bet you have a real cute side somewhere. You just don't show it."
“Don't get you hopes up. I'm not easy”
"Sarcasm is just one more service I offer. "
"I don't know what your problem is, but I'll bet it's hard to pronounce. "
"It sounds like English, but I can't understand a word you're saying. "
“I know your type”
“My mother warned me about girls like you”
“Guys like me are over-rated”
“You already had your chance with me”
“Who lit the fuse on your tampon?”
“I'm sorry; did I skip the part where I try to impress you?”
"Stop undressing me with your eyes" when she is staring at you at any point
"Yeah, well you know, you're very good looking... the thing about good looking people, people don't like us"

[Mr.Coffee]

I'm sorry... I don't know if i'm like a 1960's prude here or whatever but there seems to be too much "Ok-ness" (i realise thats not a word) with people moving in on other's relationships. I am well aware of the fact taht if your relationship is going well then there's nothing to worry about or shouldn't be... and blah blah blah don't be overprotective but I think there's some respect lacking when no matter who it is is fair game regardless of relationship status. Or am I wrong here?

There seems to be no end of stories about some dude cheating on some girl, or some girl cheating on some guy. I think that's pretty much the most selfish, disrespectful thing one can do, and I think actions like cheating on another have far more disastrous consequences then society would like us to believe (it can hurt a lot more then we'd like to think).

So while your out and about purposely trying to destroy another person's life so that you can feel happy, maybe take a look around and realise that there are other fish in the sea, no?

Occasionally I realise that love or infatuation is inevidable, sometimes you can't help it, and all that other crap- but if you are only mildly interested and the fact that he/she is in a relationship doesn't make you change your mind... well... that's a pretty sad thing.

[OilersBaby]

hey I met this amazing man at the bar in april 2004, and we're married now! bar relationships CAN work........just because you're a woman at the bar doesn't mean that you're only good for a hookup.

[Dion]

Originally Posted by Winsor_Pilates

A lot of guys here are way too hard on the bar girl. Contrary to CP belief, many girls at the bar are normal down to earth girls. Sure there's some that are a different breed, but normal girls go to the bar too.
Perhaps you guys need to stop only looking at the ones on the speakers with no clothes on (I know it's hard).

It's actually quite easy. What i'm interested in is personality, morals, etc. To me good looking women are a dime a dozen, it's the inner side of the person that counts in my books and that is sometimes hard to find. Besides i'm not interested in a woman whose social life revolves around the bar/club scene.

[Daradon]

Originally Posted by Wookie

Slow and steady wins the race

Disagree, that's a good motto for lots in life, but not love.

Love is a crazy passionate, illogical thing, and does not obey such rules.

Slow and Steady probably works about 1% of 1% of the time in love, and by then you've both taken it so slowly that your divorced with two kids finally going 'ahhhh' so that's the person i should be with.

And I have to go with CrazyFlamer, you're getting too close to 'friends' territory.

And that is BAD!

You can still tread carefully for everyones feelings AND make your intentions known, at least on the subconscious level.

Now is the time to play hard to get. Withdraw from the situation. Do things that might make her (or anyone else) want you, but don't hang around her too much. In fact, make an exercise of avoiding her, even if for a short time.

If she starts coming to you more often, you'll know you've got a chance. If not, well maybe it was never meant to be and hopefully al this time you've spent 'bettering yourself' has actually bettered yourself.

If she starts coming around, be friendly, but non-commital. Keep with this until there seems to be a significant connection. Not just a friendly one.

It's not games, it's not being mean. It's just standing up for your emotional self and keeping things open. You're not walking away from someone who has a huge interest in you, you're not walking away from someone who has professed their love to you so you can gain the upper hand. You don't have an option with her right now anyway. It sounds like you've tried what you could.

Step back, and don't be 'that friend guy'. I know, if you are pining for her, it's hard to do that, but believe me. It doesn't help if your pining for her and she shows no interest anyway. Then you become 'obsession guy' or 'doormat guy'.

So don't stress, and have a little fun being the 'hard to get guy'.

[Wookie]

Originally Posted by Mr.Coffee

I'm sorry... I don't know if i'm like a 1960's prude here or whatever but there seems to be too much "Ok-ness" (i realise thats not a word) with people moving in on other's relationships. I am well aware of the fact taht if your relationship is going well then there's nothing to worry about or shouldn't be... and blah blah blah don't be overprotective but I think there's some respect lacking when no matter who it is is fair game regardless of relationship status. Or am I wrong here?

There seems to be no end of stories about some dude cheating on some girl, or some girl cheating on some guy. I think that's pretty much the most selfish, disrespectful thing one can do, and I think actions like cheating on another have far more disastrous consequences then society would like us to believe (it can hurt a lot more then we'd like to think).

So while your out and about purposely trying to destroy another person's life so that you can feel happy, maybe take a look around and realise that there are other fish in the sea, no?

Occasionally I realise that love or infatuation is inevidable, sometimes you can't help it, and all that other crap- but if you are only mildly interested and the fact that he/she is in a relationship doesn't make you change your mind... well... that's a pretty sad thing.

That's why I said slow and steady, I'm just going to be the intriguing guy she leaves her boyfriend for (best case scenerio), but I'm not going to constantly ask her out, or try to get her in the sac while she's dating someone. If she wants to go further then hanging out once then choose. And poor luck for whoever gets the shaft.

[Wookie]

Originally Posted by Daradon

Disagree, that's a good motto for lots in life, but not love.

Love is a crazy passionate, illogical thing, and does not obey such rules.

Slow and Steady probably works about 1% of 1% of the time in love, and by then you've both taken it so slowly that your divorced with two kids finally going 'ahhhh' so that's the person i should be with.

And I have to go with CrazyFlamer, you're getting too close to 'friends' territory.

And that is BAD!

You can still tread carefully for everyones feelings AND make your intentions known, at least on the subconscious level.

Now is the time to play hard to get. Withdraw from the situation. Do things that might make her (or anyone else) want you, but don't hang around her too much. In fact, make an exercise of avoiding her, even if for a short time.

If she starts coming to you more often, you'll know you've got a chance. If not, well maybe it was never meant to be and hopefully al this time you've spent 'bettering yourself' has actually bettered yourself.

If she starts coming around, be friendly, but non-commital. Keep with this until there seems to be a significant connection. Not just a friendly one.

It's not games, it's not being mean. It's just standing up for your emotional self and keeping things open. You're not walking away from someone who has a huge interest in you, you're not walking away from someone who has professed their love to you so you can gain the upper hand. You don't have an option with her right now anyway. It sounds like you've tried what you could.

Step back, and don't be 'that friend guy'. I know, if you are pining for her, it's hard to do that, but believe me. It doesn't help if your pining for her and she shows no interest anyway. Then you become 'obsession guy' or 'doormat guy'.

So don't stress, and have a little fun being the 'hard to get guy'.

1. Not "taking it slow" I'm just not going to pressure some girl to ditch her boyfriend by asking her out again and again, I'll do it after a few flirting conversations have gone well again.

2. Crazyflamer was referring to someone else, look whose post he quoted. We don't hang out, I'm not going to friends territory! Guaranteed! If I am I don't bother anymore

3. Done that, she's wandered to me a few times now.. I was busy, or left quickly a few times..

5. your recommendation to wait until she starts coming around is how I'm saying "slow and steady" asking her out 10 times in 10 weeks isn't going to get me anywhere, which is what I meant by slow and steady"

6. Hehe, all good point, but yeah, I'm busy, I don't need another friend, if I see it going that way I'll just get bored and stop chatting...

[ken0042]

Originally Posted by Wookie

And poor luck for whoever gets the shaft.

On second thought I should really leave that one alone.

[Bill Bumface]

Originally Posted by OilersBaby

hey I met this amazing man at the bar in april 2004, and we're married now! bar relationships CAN work........just because you're a woman at the bar doesn't mean that you're only good for a hookup.

Pshhh.. thats just a hookup that was a long time in the making

[Maritime Q-Scout]

Originally Posted by Wookie

Hehe, all good point, but yeah, I'm busy, I don't need another friend, if I see it going that way I'll just get bored and stop chatting...

A buddy of mine said it best during this conversation where he asked a girl out:

Guy: So you want to go out? (or something to that effect?)

Girl: I think we should just be friends

Guy: (classic reply) No thanks, I have enough f****** friends

[bluejays]

Originally Posted by Maritime Q-Scout

A buddy of mine said it best during this conversation where he asked a girl out:

Guy: So you want to go out? (or something to that effect?)

Girl: I think we should just be friends

Guy: (classic reply) No thanks, I have enough f****** friends

Wow. That one made me laugh for a good minute. Methink's I'll use it someday.

[Eastern Girl]

Originally Posted by Maritime Q-Scout

A buddy of mine said it best during this conversation where he asked a girl out:

Guy: So you want to go out? (or something to that effect?)

Girl: I think we should just be friends

Guy: (classic reply) No thanks, I have enough f****** friends

Sounds like a sweetheart. Surprised that he was turned down.

[Table 5]

Before she has the chance to, tell the girl that YOU want to be friends. Reverse psychology at its finest.

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by Eastern Girl

Sounds like a sweetheart. Surprised that he was turned down.

Well, to be fair, it's pretty presumptuous of the girl to think the guy automatically wants to be friends with her right after she shoots him down.

[Table 5]

Originally Posted by Eastern Girl

Sounds like a sweetheart. Surprised that he was turned down.

why, because he is being just as direct and honest as she is? sounds fair to me...atleast this way they dont have to waste their time.

[Eastern Girl]

Originally Posted by rubecube

Well, to be fair, it's pretty presumptuous of the girl to think the guy automatically wants to be friends with her right after she shoots him down.

She was being nice and also, perhaps she actually did want to be friends with him.

Originally Posted by Table 5

why, because he is being just as direct and honest as she is? sounds fair to me...atleast this way they dont have to waste their time.

Again, she was at least being nice, he was just being a jerk. Furthermore, why would it be a waste of time being friends with someone?

[Table 5]

Originally Posted by Eastern Girl

Again, she was at least being nice, he was just being a jerk. Furthermore, why would it be a waste of time being friends with someone?

So using a cliched line about being friends is considered nice, but being equally forward with a response isnt? Seems like a bit of a double standard.

Besides, I dont see the big deal in somebody not wanting to be a friend...being turned down is a slap in the face, why would you want to stick around and interact with someone who thinks that you are obviously not good enough for them in the first place? My thinking is that if I'm not good enough for you, then it's not worth any effort anyway. Too bad so sad.

[J pold]

Originally Posted by Maritime Q-Scout

A buddy of mine said it best during this conversation where he asked a girl out:

Guy: So you want to go out? (or something to that effect?)

Girl: I think we should just be friends

Guy: (classic reply) No thanks, I have enough f****** friends

My favorite response to the “lets just be friend” bit

“Alright sweet, you can be my wing and help me pick up girls”

“Ah you don’t have many friends do you?”

“That’s probably a good idea, I am a heartbreak waiting to happen”