Modern Day Casanova Ideas

[Nage Waza]

Originally Posted by flames85

I don't live in Calgary. And I am interested in more "Original" ideas

Sheesh! You are the guy asking online how to care for your girlfriend...I don't care where you live, these ideas are basically universal.

[disco_inferno]

when i got engaged, i cashed in all my airmiles and got a mountian helicopter tour for 2 (romance package...)...i had it all worked out with a friend to 'take her out for coffee/drive to the mountians' while i ran up to cochrane from south calgary for 2 hours...they showed up after me (surprise!), and i took her up on the top of a mountain and proposed after a short hike in the trees. then, after we got home, there was a party will all of her friends (mine too) and our families...

best day ever.

[CaptainCrunch]

Find a cool place for a weekend, a little bed and breakfast in an out of the way town. No phones or T.V.

Banff is nice, but its too crowded.

Even the simple things work, cook her a nice dinner, or if you suck have one catered.

An unselfish gift, make her take a day off and pick a direction and just drive until you get low on gas.

If you have kids send her out for a night with her friends and watch the kids.

Stand in her driveway with a ghetto blaster held over your head playing her favorite song (Ok that ones a little bs and if you live in Brooklyn some fat guy will lean out the window and yell "For christ sakes shut up I'm trying to sleep here")

[Canada 02]

while grand gestures are nice, it will be a temporary diversion from "tough times"

what makes a relationship work is the small everyday things that are done for each other just because. when you have that down pat, the grand gestures become special and more than a diversion

i'd suggest doing everyday things together. Cook a meal together, and I don't know, talk? No tv, no phone, no interruptions

[CaptainCrunch]

Originally Posted by Canada 02

while grand gestures are nice, it will be a temporary diversion from "tough times"

what makes a relationship work is the small everyday things that are done for each other just because. when you have that down pat, the grand gestures become special and more than a diversion

And cash . . . lots and lots of cash.

People that say that money can't buy happiness are poor.

Act like your wife's personal ATM machine.

[ben voyonsdonc]

Dress up in a suit and bring her flowers or cookies to her office.

Write a note in the morning and leave it behind on the kitchen table (or in the car) telling her how much you love her.

Bring her roller skating and hold her hand.

Take a day on the weekend and call it "her" day. Don't tell her anything about what you are going to do but do things like a walk in the park, picnic with a nice bottle of wine, a visit to mountains, a nice restaurant, or things like that.

A few ideas...I'm gay. We understand women.

[ben voyonsdonc]

One important thing: you may not want to work up to these really romantic ideas because she might feel they are contrived and/or a way to wriggle yourself out of a bad spot. So maybe start with something small like surprising her with a homemade dinner...and keep doing these things for her and then you can really blow her away with something grand.

If you love her, you'll know what she likes and needs and it will be a lot easier for you to know what she will consider a genuinely romantic gesture rather than a contrived attempt at romance.

[SportsJunky]

Originally Posted by ben voyonsdonc

Dress up in a suit and bring her flowers or cookies to her office.

Have them delivered. Don't show up at her office unannounced.

[Suzles]

A wonderful hand written love letter - how much you love her, why you love her and why you could never be without her and all that you are going to do to make her happy. You need to make her heart melt. I've kept every one I ever received. So do that and also clean the house....

[sclitheroe]

Originally Posted by CaptainCrunch

Find a cool place for a weekend, a little bed and breakfast in an out of the way town. No phones or T.V.

Waterton is great for this. Especially now that you’re into shoulder season, the town will be pretty much empty.

[DrJ]

Take her on a hot air balloon ride (provided she's not afraid of heights).

[CaptainCrunch]

Give yourself a whipping cream bikini with a bannana up the tail pipe.

[VladtheImpaler]

Having been married 3 times, you would think I would have something pithy to contribute... you would be wrong. Depends on the woman to a large extent - I don't think you can just come up with a cookie-cutter thing for "every" woman. What does your wife like? For lack of better information, the Captain's idea of a B&B in small town is good - for example, Nakusp - small, nice, hot springs.
Depends on what your wife likes. Perhaps it's having sex on the boardroom table in a suite at the Sheraton...

[ben voyonsdonc]

Originally Posted by SportsJunky

Have them delivered. Don't show up at her office unannounced.

Disagree.

Romance is all about making an effort and showing some thoughtfulness. Anyone can have the flowers delivered and it's been done so often that its cliched. Show up and show her how special she is. Don't embarrass her by interrupting a meeting or something but it is so much more meaningful to be there in person.

[flames85]

ok, here's the situation...
we're both in our mid-20's, been together for 7 amazing yrs. i broke up with her this summer for the second time. the first time was 4 yrs ago. she is afraid to get back together because she doesn't want to go through the hurt again. i messed up bad. and admitted it all to her. i am ready for the next step (marriage) with her. it took this mistake to realize what i had. i know i can't lose her, its that simple. (sorry for the sob story) just figure someone may have been through the same thing..

[malcolmk14]

This all sounds really gay. Doing something extreme is just going to make you look totally desperate (although it's pretty obvious that you've already made that clear to her).

No chick is gonna go for that. Just stop being desperate, and be awesome instead.

Also, Casanova was a womanizer who believed that love and sex was supposed to be casual. Probably not exactly what you want to go for here.

[peter12]

Originally Posted by malcolmk14

This all sounds really gay. Doing something extreme is just going to make you look totally desperate (although it's pretty obvious that you've already made that clear to her).

No chick is gonna go for that. Just stop being desperate, and be awesome instead.

Also, Casanova was a womanizer who believed that love and sex was supposed to be casual. Probably not exactly what you want to go for here.

[Mike F]

Sounds like you need something that says not only love but commitment.

Go to a botanical garden and ask about trees that will grow intertwined (I'm pretty sure some will do that) and find somewhere to plant them together.

The symbol is nice, and the reality that one will slowly come to dominate and choke the life out of the other will mirror you own relationship if you do stay together long term

[peter12]

You'll probably be on your own for this one. As Vlad said, it really depends on the feeling you have with this girl.

[redforever]

Originally Posted by flames85

ok, here's the situation...
we're both in our mid-20's, been together for 7 amazing yrs. i broke up with her this summer for the second time. the first time was 4 yrs ago. she is afraid to get back together because she doesn't want to go through the hurt again. i messed up bad. and admitted it all to her. i am ready for the next step (marriage) with her. it took this mistake to realize what i had. i know i can't lose her, its that simple. (sorry for the sob story) just figure someone may have been through the same thing..

Have you told her what you just told us? She probably wants honesty and to listen to your heart, instead of fluff. If you can say what's in your heart here, say it to her.

And perhaps the two of your should get some counselling, to get anything in the past, out of the past, so you can work on the future.