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Originally Posted by Jets4Life
It's gone on since April 2012, so its been just over a year. I've tried to involve a mediator but she has refused that or to discuss things before it went to legal means. I want what is best for my daughter, but the problem is the reason I was informed in the first place was financially motivated. Her bf of 7 years was hit by an unfavorable ruling, after leaving his wife and two kids for the mother of my kid.
The problem is I only want what is best for my daughter, and she wants me out of the picture completely. It's that simple. It's very very difficult to deal with someone who has never worked, lived at home until they were 29, continue to get a monthly allowance, a house, car, legal fees all paid by her parents. It's arguable she would have been pissed no matter what happened, as her health isn't that great (she is now over 300 pounds, when I dated her in 2002, she was 150), and rarely ever leaves her house, with the curtains up. It's no way to live, and it's showing in the demands she is making, which are pretty much one sided.
I mean really, how do you deal with someone who won't let your daughter play sports, since she says "it damages their self esteem" orr will not let me talk to her, since "cell phones cause cancer in children." Sigh. Sorry for the rant but it's like I feel I am talking to a brick wall anytime I try and work things out with the mother.
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That's rough, man. Trying to keep you out of the picture altogether? Yikes.
I guess if you work in FtMac, and your daughter lives in Winnipeg, you can't really have a consistent schedule with her, which would suck. But you should be entitled to having her at least 50% of the time when you're in town. I wouldn't settle for anything less than that.
Me and my ex have a pretty good system for dividing time exactly 50/50. Might as well add it to the conversation in case anyone is facing this shiddy situation and wants some ideas:
Monday Tuesday - Parent A
Wednesday Thursday - Parent B
Friday Saturday Sunday - Parent A
Monday Tuesday - Parent B
Wednesday Thursday - Parent A
Friday Saturday Sunday - Parent B
Perfect 50/50 split, even amounts of weekends, and easy to figure out who has her for future weekends by simply counting weeks, and most importantly, the longest we have to go without seeing her is three days. We considered switching by the week, but it sucks not seeing her for a whole week.
Anyway, good luck to you, Jets. What you're saying about her not being allowed to play sports is terrible. I hope you fight for her. Sounds like she really needs a good parent.
