How much should I give for a Wedding Gift?

[bigtmac19]

Originally Posted by prarieboy

I don't know the bride and groom. I meet the Bride last Christmas but I've known her Dad for years. I was thinking $100 but thought prices have gone up. I don't know.

I'm older than most of you, but $100 is low in my opinion.

[mykalberta]

Originally Posted by prarieboy

Yes, we have been friends for years, golfed, over at each others house for drinks a few times, hang out together at work functions, etc.

I'm starting to lean towards $150. I like the pay for your dinner guideline and I'm thinking the Palliser would be around $75 a plate.

Ahh, personally I would go higher than $200. Maybe $400-$500 ish. i guess what would you expect for your son/daughter in the same position. I am of the impression that a little bit extra at this wedding might make relations remain good or improve.

On second thought that might be a bit high, I dont have a huge family so a wedding in my family is a big deal so I havent been to alot of them.

Did they milk you with an engagement party gift as well is the real question

[Bertuzzied]

Originally Posted by Lchoy

Chinese wedding are weird in the monetary gift amounts because people try to have the number "8" in it for good luck
ie. $188, $288...

I was told by my wife that it doesn't really mean anything when you receive it as money. Like in red envelopes on chinese new years or birthdays. You always get a round number. No one gives their kids $8 or $18. you get $20s and $50s.

Getting married is pretty profitable though. We netted $3200 on our wedding. I want to get married again so i can pay off my kitchen renos. hehe

[Peanut]

Holy shiza. I should have invited you people to my wedding, screw my family!!

Our wedding costs were upwards of $25,000 and the majority of people gave between $50 - $100 per couple (gifts or cash). I was not expecting anything more than that at all. It was only immediate family that gave anything significantly more than $100.

$100 is usually my standard wedding present regardless if I know the couple well or not. Usually if I know them well I've also been to showers, bachelorette/bachelor parties, etc., spending about $50 - $100 at each of those events as well.

[Boblobla]

Originally Posted by Peanut

Holy shiza. I should have invited you people to my wedding, screw my family!!

Our wedding costs were upwards of $25,000 and the majority of people gave between $50 - $100 per couple (gifts or cash). I was not expecting anything more than that at all. It was only immediate family that gave anything significantly more than $100.

$100 is usually my standard wedding present regardless if I know the couple well or not. Usually if I know them well I've also been to showers, bachelorette/bachelor parties, etc., spending about $50 - $100 at each of those events as well.

No kidding, I hope some of the people coming to my wedding read this thread. I think 50-100 is pretty standard for anyone but close friends. I am also younger though so I don't know if that changes anything.

[peter12]

The actual traditional standard is a gift roughly equivalent to the cost of the reception meal. Depending on who it is, I'd say $50-$70.

[mykalberta]

I guess the problem is if your experience is smaller weddings >100 then only close friends/family would be invited. Who gets invited to a wedding that isnt a family member or close family friend. The O/P IMO is in a difficult position. Long time coworker who spends time outside of work with is invited to the daughters wedding. If I was in the same position I would be giving the gift on behalf of the friend being the parent of the daugher, not the daughter herself who he has no connection to.

[prarieboy]

Thanks to all who replied to this thread. It's good to get the different perspectives and experiences.

[urban1]

I normally give $200 ($100 per head) and if its a close friend then Ill throw in an extra $50.

[Stranger]

$100.00 = Invited to supper and dance
$50.00 = Invited to just dance
$200.00 = Wedding of a best friend or very close relative

[VladtheImpaler]

$100 if single. $150/couple. Standard.

[tvp2003]

Darn. Last summer I went a wedding of a close friend of mine growing up -- we hardly ever talk these days but I still consider us to be friends. It was a smaller reception, but it was at a Fairmont so probably not cheap. My wife and I thought $100 total was adequate -- should I chip in an extra $50-$100 a year after the fact?!?

[Peanut]

Originally Posted by tvp2003

Darn. Last summer I went a wedding of a close friend of mine growing up -- we hardly ever talk these days but I still consider us to be friends. It was a smaller reception, but it was at a Fairmont so probably not cheap. My wife and I thought $100 total was adequate -- should I chip in an extra $50-$100 a year after the fact?!?

I'd say no. Seriously, my wedding was expensive, 110 people attended, and I was overjoyed to open a card and receive $100 from people I talk to all the time. I think you're fine.